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I feel i almost never fit in any group because of my vast interest on things, than i usually get bored of the same situations and conversations of a group who seems 'stagnant' to me, and this also makes me feel lonely several times, how about you?
 

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I feel like I was just meant to fit in with the people who don't tend to fit in. My closest friends are all people who don't fit in, and all of them hate each other. They find each other to be the kind of people that make them not want to fit in.
They're all extremely different people, so it's kind of weird that I'm able to get along with each of them.

But I get what you're saying. I get that way too. I think that's what marks me as more an xNTP than a true ENTP.
 

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Not so often, quite depends on the type of social cyrcle...

I am usually an entertainer of the group. Some people don't get my humour though, you have to be at least a bit open-minded to laugh at my jokes.
 

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I don't change (permanently) circles as much as I maintain many circles and use them as needed.

The jocks for when I am feeling especially physical.
The video game crew for when I need to chill and play some vids.
The mock philosopher crew for when I am feeling all deep thinker n stuff.
Family..cause I have too :/ hehehehe ( I kid..I love my family..I ..like(?) some of them)

In my opinion you should never ditch a group. You should cultivate it to
your needs. I mean when life gets busy with kids, work and what not?
Well then obviously there is some trimming of groups that needs to be done.

You get the idea.
 

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The only group I am fully consistent with is a small tight nit group of friends I've been around since childhood more or less. Consisting of an ENFJ, ISTJ, and ENFP. We are all quite the misfits. But have common interests which is mainly what we bond over. They aren't my philosophical type people.

Still, I can have a philosophical talk with most people and then not talk to them for a few weeks to few months. So with my track record, I'm more of a drifter than anything overall. I rarely manage to hang around too long, unless of course they are useful.

Still. I'm a drifter. Most consistency in bonds comes from childhood than anything else *Shrugs*
 

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I find for me my social circles always change on their own every couple months ( people move away, new people move to town, new people start dating friends, new co-workers, couples breakup etc.) even if I don't really actively move between social circles within a yr a social circle that I belonged to always looks different than it did a year ago.

I do though always find myself often iching for and searching to find a more satisfying social circle which perhaps causes me to change my social circle. Sometimes I do find myself with a social circle that is very satisfying, but that never seems to last, just because things always change.

I've been in a sort of social limbo for quite a while now. Friends here and there and co-workers I get along w/ but no social group I really am all that close to or identify with. I started playing in a "band" with a few friends ~2 months ago, and that's prob my most stable social circle I've got at the moment and even that feels like its about too collapse at any minute and is not all that satisfying.

I haven't really managed to keep any relationships long term. No friends from childhood, highschool, hometown, college that I stay in touch with anymore. :unsure: ...then again I didn't really have any close friends growing up in the first place... college was a great social scene but I went to school in a different state and classmates are now all over, so that has made staying in touch impractical. ....but that doesn't bother me really, in fact what I'm really iching for is to cut off ties w/ the past even more and start off fresh somewhere in a new city, meet all new people, do some traveling, take in different cultures etc. I've been tied down by some projects so I haven't had a chance to do that with my life yet, but maybe I will soon.
 

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I have 100 real life friends, but I dont have BFFs or something like that, it is make me feel lonely, like they only like me as the funny girl that is also intelligent, not as a friend
 

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I find for me my social circles always change on their own every couple months ( people move away, new people move to town, new people start dating friends, new co-workers, couples breakup etc.) even if I don't really actively move between social circles within a yr a social circle that I belonged to always looks different than it did a year ago.

I do though always find myself often iching for and searching to find a more satisfying social circle which perhaps causes me to change my social circle. Sometimes I do find myself with a social circle that is very satisfying, but that never seems to last, just because things always change.

I've been in a sort of social limbo for quite a while now. Friends here and there and co-workers I get along w/ but no social group I really am all that close to or identify with. I started playing in a "band" with a few friends ~2 months ago, and that's prob my most stable social circle I've got at the moment and even that feels like its about too collapse at any minute and is not all that satisfying.

I haven't really managed to keep any relationships long term. No friends from childhood, highschool, hometown, college that I stay in touch with anymore. <img src="http://personalitycafe.com/images/smilies/1/unsure.gif" border="0" alt="" title="Unsure" class="inlineimg" /> ...then again I didn't really have any close friends growing up in the first place... college was a great social scene but I went to school in a different state and classmates are now all over, so that has made staying in touch impractical. ....but that doesn't bother me really, in fact what I'm really iching for is to cut off ties w/ the past even more and start off fresh somewhere in a new city, meet all new people, do some traveling, take in different cultures etc. I've been tied down by some projects so I haven't had a chance to do that with my life yet, but maybe I will soon.
I feel you on this.

Super late as I haven't been on in many months but ... this was spot on about my experience with friends. Especially lately. The tight knit group I use to have is now iffy as I've had to move away from them. So now I'm actually alone with potentially flaky and fleeting type of friendships and originals that I only have limited contact with now and could drift away ... great.

I've always contemplated this. Nothing really lasts. And what will they leave behind? It's strange how one can connect, and then just disconnect from someone. Vanishing from our lives. Even myself.
 

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I just have multiple circles at once, to suit each of my interests. It's easier to develop stronger friendships and keep loneliness away if you don't permanently disappear.
 

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I feel i almost never fit in any group because of my vast interest on things, than i usually get bored of the same situations and conversations of a group who seems 'stagnant' to me, and this also makes me feel lonely several times, how about you?
Given how frustratingly hard it is to locate and infiltrate an interesting social circle, I tend to not change them very often, unless circumstances beyond my control occur.
 
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