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I am curious because ISTP get labelled 'the lone wolf'.... And I am wondering how often do you feel lonely or what situation would cause you to feel lonely? You guys seem to thrive on being alone, or is that my own misunderstanding?
 

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I love to be alone. I can spend may days off without seeing anybody. I just do my stuff - research on actual hobby, hiking, watching favorite series, reading. I have my friends, but I can go weeks without seeing them. Thing is, I know, I can reach them any time, and they will respond in same casual manner. Like we spoke yesterday.

But yes, lately I have that feeling. No, it's not because I don't see them. I can see them once a month and it's all good. The lonely feeling comes from something else. Two of my best mates got themselves recently a girlfriends. And that inevitably is going to lead to part our ways (for various reasons. I'm female after all, and I know, at least one of girlfriends is not happy with that fact. And you know, men in love...). It's that inevitability of saying goodbye to a friends, that make me feel lonely. Not a fact that they are or not physically present.
 

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I've never felt "lonely" in my life, just ready to socialise with people.

When I have been socialising a lot for a while, One of two things usually happens. I either have to take a step back after feeling ive invested myself to much/ i need time to myself, or i start to get tired and irritated by people and social politics/rules/bullshit to the point where I have to detach myself for a while.

I could easily go months by myself without feeling lonely.
 

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I think I felt lonely for a while in high school, but I think that had more to do with an unrequited infatuation situation than anything else. That was also back when I thought I should try to be more "normal" instead of being comfortable with solitude.
 

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It's not so much as feeling lonely, but rather I find myself lonely at times... doesn't mean I dislike being alone. I socialize with people for a while, then I step back realizing that I need to re-evaluate myself. For me, I thrive on being alone when the time seems fit, but not when it comes to loneliness, so the "lone wolf" label can easily apply to me.

You asked what the cause of it was. In my case, it's the choices I've made in my life so far that brings out my need to focus on my goals; becoming more independent. But what that does is make me into a deviant, which is good because I dislike conformity, but bad because of that dislike which prevents me from making any potential connections; I've disregarded more of those connections than I like to admit. Much of the week I find myself re-evaluating what I believe is necessary and what the costs are. Maybe the sole reason loneliness became most prominent to me was because the amount of people closely involved in any way was non-existent. I've made some good friends, because I find some them being similar to me. It's times such as the above in which activities don't really cut it.

You're at a good understanding with what you said, just need some more depth into it.
 

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I am curious because ISTP get labelled 'the lone wolf'.... And I am wondering how often do you feel lonely or what situation would cause you to feel lonely? You guys seem to thrive on being alone, or is that my own misunderstanding?
I am definently a lone wolf, and prefer it that way. I used to have social anxiety and was lonely quite often... but i out grew that and am never lonely i actually need my alone time to do my own thing. I like doing things alone, i fish alone, i watch movies alone, i go to the bars alone (when im looking for a chick, i hate having a wingman) because i can do my own thing without other people getting in the way.
 

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Being alone feels natural to me.

However, I want friends so I don't miss out on shit that I don't discover myself. Friends expand a network and efficiently find new things for you to try. A lot of people look for friends to listen to them and get their back, I just want the activity network. But I'd be willing to pay with my loyalty for it, as long as the right people come along.
 

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I don't get lonely very often. I'm usually just going to sleep when the rest of my family wakes up (around 5:30am) so even just considering that, I spend a lot of time alone, and usually even the six hours or so between the time my siblings get back from school and the time they go to bed, I'll still manage to have moments where it's just too many people.

I do get lonely, but like someone else said, it's not from physically being alone. It happens when I feel like... I guess that no one's there for me? Like, as long as I know for sure that I have good friends, they don't have to be near me. I can spend a week alone in my room and not care a bit. When I think about how a lot of my old friends have moved on, though, and have new friends and a new life and probably don't even ever think about me, that's when I feel lonely. >.<

Wow okay that was enough feelings for the next month
 

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I don't get lonely very often. I'm usually just going to sleep when the rest of my family wakes up (around 5:30am) so even just considering that, I spend a lot of time alone, and usually even the six hours or so between the time my siblings get back from school and the time they go to bed, I'll still manage to have moments where it's just too many people.

I do get lonely, but like someone else said, it's not from physically being alone. It happens when I feel like... I guess that no one's there for me? Like, as long as I know for sure that I have good friends, they don't have to be near me. I can spend a week alone in my room and not care a bit. When I think about how a lot of my old friends have moved on, though, and have new friends and a new life and probably don't even ever think about me, that's when I feel lonely. >.<

Wow okay that was enough feelings for the next month
Lone wolves unite... independently.
 

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I would say I can be melancholic instead.
I get tired talking too much, but I would like to have more friends with the same interests as mine.
I tend to socialize better on the Internet.
Each method to their own.
 

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I'm lonely.

I've had enough people shit on me from a high distance to know not to easily like or trust other people. I don't have anybody I would really call a good friend (as in they are someone I think I could sustain a relationship with if circumstances weren't keeping us together); I'm going to leave my university course and not keep in contact with anybody there, same as always.

It's not that I think I need to make 100s of friends and always have something to do - personally, I couldn't stand that. It's far more the lack of close friendship which causes it, something which can just as easily afflict extroverts and introverts alike.
 

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I'm not very social but I feel lonely when I'm bored. I can get engrossed in a project for weeks and talk to no-one (for example taking a fourtnight off work to redecorate) but one hour of complete boredom and I'll be beating myself up for my unsocial nature. Thankfully this doesn't happen very often and when it does I can usually sleep it off.
 

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I don't know the meaning of... "lonely". Haven't experienced it yet then? Even tho i spent a few years with 0 human contact besides hello/goodbye or not even that. I even forgot how to speak my native tongue back then.

From what i have gathered, it is more of a feeler trait to need to be connected to another person at all times, or the 'connection' is disrupted and they seek out any and whatever means they can find to fulfill the 'need'. I am perfectly fine on my own and have been for a long time.

note: I have a few good trusted close friends and thats enough for me.
 

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Almost never for me, because most of my interactions happen in my head, where, of course, I'm never alone (though alone and lonely aren't the same thing). Feelings of loneliness are more of a Fe thing, a need to rely on other people for comfort or whatever; I expect as ISTPs we only feel loneliness when unhappy or stressed. Physical loneliness has never been a problem; I myself can spend days and days without realizing I haven't even had a proper conversation with someone. And I find that I haven't missed it. But then there are some times when I'm under pressure or something at work and I try to reach out to people or whatever, which always has tragicomic results arising out of miscommunication.
 

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A lot. It's a vicious cycle for me. During the week I am usually busy running around between classes and working (I'm in college) which energizes me, and I get a good daily dose of human interaction just by doing that. During the weekend, if I have nothing to do I will literally just sit in my room and dawdle around not doing anything. Since I don't really have many friends I wish to talk to for no good reason (as in talking about work or whatever), I end up not having any social contact for two or three days at a time, while it seems like everyone else in the world is partying or doing whatever else with friends.

I get what everyone else is saying, that our natural state is alone, and I wholeheartedly agree with that. I do find it painful to be forced into talking for prolonged periods of time. Boredom without humans around as a source of potential stimulus is even worse, though.
 
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