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Hmm? How often do you get used and taken advantage of?
 

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Far too often! I would swear I have a giant bullseye sign hanging above my head, it's ridiculous. I'm assuming that it's the combination of ISFJ and type 2 that probably make it that much worse, though lol.
 

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Far too often! I would swear I have a giant bullseye sign hanging above my head, it's ridiculous. I'm assuming that it's the combination of ISFJ and type 2 that probably make it that much worse, though lol.
I hear you loud and clear peach.I get taken advantage of all the time,it's like people must see us coming and rub their hands in glee in anticipation of having their way with us.
 

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I don't even notice it most of the time. But I'm taken advantage of at least every day, and mostly by my friends. Its never anything serious, usually just hanging out with them because they're bored and I'm the only one who will put up with them... =\
 
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It has happened to me all my life. I live to make others happy and dont think about what i want until its too late usually. im tired of it actually.. im always wondering.. when's it gonna be my turn? lol
 

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Hmm? How often do you get used and taken advantage of?
Well I've been manipulated and taken advantage of many times by my ESFP mother who specialises in guilt trips, then there is my close friend (also ESFP) who I ditched last year then softened and went back to the friendship, but redefined the boundaries so that I don't take on all of her problems like I used to.

But as a christian I am always trying to help people and there are others who will take advantage of that and abuse it.
As I am getting older with more experience under my belt I am realising that it is my job to set boundaries and speak up when someone is abusing my friendship. If it is just a random person I am helping then I will step back if I feel like I'm being taken advantage of.
I'm still struggling with my mother though. That is tied up with the whole "respect/ honour your parents" thing.

Anyway I think it's a 2 enneagram thing to have this happen to you alot.

@SilverMoon ... the reason it's never your turn is because he who sings the loudest is heard.
You may be like me, too proud to shout out for help, seeing it as a weakness to do so. I have however been humbled in the last year or two by life circumstances forcing me to accept help. So if people don't know you need something and don't get that intuitive hunch that you and I would get then they are clueless. It is a good thing to help others and to want to do it, but we can't keep giving if we don't top ourselves up occasionally.
 

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Sometimes I get taken advantaged of, but sometimes I say no. When I say no to people I still feel a little guilty about it! I know I'm trying, I also know it's very hard to say no. I wish it was a little more easier than it is!!!
 

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ALLL the time. I'm aware of it, but I don't have the heart to stop it.

For those interested, there is a fantastic book called "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend that is all about the art of saying "NO" and creating safe boundaries to prevent you from getting walked all over.

I am a doormat, that is all.
 
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Sadly, I can relate. I have a very strong 2 fixture, so people try to take advantage of me all the time. I've gotten a lot better about being sucked dry by leeches though.
 
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How often do I get used or taken advantage of? Far too often. Most of the time I'm more than happy to help out, however people can either detect that or get used to it happening. Then it becomes an expectation, and suddenly it's like, of course she'll help, why wouldn't she? It's almost as though people think that being such a giver means that you can give endlessly and love every moment of it, never needing to receive anything back. It's like people think because we're so happy to help that we don't see it as taking advantage of someone. The worst is the guilt trips and even tantrums when they hear no. Then because I avoid conflict and upsetting people like nobody's business, I end up giving in and a bad cycle is created.
 

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Do I need to bring out the list?
People who try to take advantage of me are the reason I don't trust easily.

It's like the world around you can't recognize your selflessness and show respect for that characteristic. You help someone and it becomes an expectation of interaction. You don't help them and you're ignored. And the worst part is, I still feel guilty for not helping them even though they were obviously trying to use me.
 

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I used to be always taken advantage of and manipulated, all the time.

I got tired of it. The problem was that I trusted others too much. Now, I have difficulty trusting others. I'm aware this is a bad thing, it tends to hinder me from being as helpful as I'd like to be.
 

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How often do I get used or taken advantage of? Far too often. Most of the time I'm more than happy to help out, however people can either detect that or get used to it happening. Then it becomes an expectation, and suddenly it's like, of course she'll help, why wouldn't she? It's almost as though people think that being such a giver means that you can give endlessly and love every moment of it, never needing to receive anything back. It's like people think because we're so happy to help that we don't see it as taking advantage of someone. The worst is the guilt trips and even tantrums when they hear no. Then because I avoid conflict and upsetting people like nobody's business, I end up giving in and a bad cycle is created.
This raising an interesting question. What precisely do Two's usually want back for their giving? What would make them feel not taken advantage of? Thank you for indulging my curiosity.
 

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This raising an interesting question. What precisely do Two's usually want back for their giving? What would make them feel not taken advantage of? Thank you for indulging my curiosity.
Love will make 2's feel not taken advantage of. Some of the same considerations that 2's show others are appreciated, taking care of us when we need it. Just reciprocate a small portion of the love and consideration that we show, and we'll be happy.
 

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Love will make 2's feel not taken advantage of. Some of the same considerations that 2's show others are appreciated, taking care of us when we need it. Just reciprocate a small portion of the love and consideration that we show, and we'll be happy.
Hahahah, but what does this mean???
 
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