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Some time ago I had this talk with one of my friends (he actually didn't know me very well back then) and he told me that I don't seem like an extravert at all. He told me I'm much more of an introvert. It surprised me quite because I always thought of myself as of somebody obviously extraverted and social.

Does it happen to you as well?
 

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Yep, that's happened to me as well.

I think it more has to do with how you feel compared to how you appear.

I am very quiet in demeanor, but love to meet people (as long as it's not under awkward pretenses) and help out and stuff. But if I am with people I know very closely, I. Don't. Shut. Up. I'm surprised my truly introverted friends deal so well with all my gabbing, haha. (I've learned to pin my mouth shut when I feel like I'm overdoing it though, but I am talking about normal tendencies, haha)

So I am sure that could be the case: That maybe you are just composed/quiet in demeanor, at least around people you don't know as well, but you FEEL extroverted and like being social, despite your appearance.
 

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Yes absolutely. I find there are varying degrees to ENFP's. Some are extremely comfortable and trusting with everybody, and there are there are others like myself that needs that comfort level before my energy and enthusiasm for others comes out. I think the term for us is xNFP.
 

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Yep, that's happened to me as well.

I think it more has to do with how you feel compared to how you appear.

I am very quiet in demeanor, but love to meet people (as long as it's not under awkward pretenses) and help out and stuff. But if I am with people I know very closely, I. Don't. Shut. Up. I'm surprised my truly introverted friends deal so well with all my gabbing, haha. (I've learned to pin my mouth shut when I feel like I'm overdoing it though, but I am talking about normal tendencies, haha)

So I am sure that could be the case: That maybe you are just composed/quiet in demeanor, at least around people you don't know as well, but you FEEL extroverted and like being social, despite your appearance.
Yes absolutely. I find there are varying degrees to ENFP's. Some are extremely comfortable and trusting with everybody, and there are there are others like myself that needs that comfort level before my energy and enthusiasm for others comes out. I think the term for us is xNFP.
Oooh, this thread is like a revelation to me. ..I could also be an xNFP!

I thought I'm not an E because I don't like loud parties and social drinking, but when it comes to meeting new people and wanting to help out, I really enjoy that. (plus the more people I talked to, the merrier I become) I constantly get tested as an ENFP but I still thought I was an INFP because of the above reasons, although the descriptions for both fit me on various occasions.

People close to me said I have two personalities, if someone just know me on the outside, they'll think I'm very mature, quiet and responsible, but when they get to know me well, they'll say I'm so childish and just don't stop talking or disturbing their quiet moments. :tongue:
 

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Oooh, this thread is like a relevation to me. ..I could also be an xNFP!

I thought I'm not an E because I don't like loud parties and social drinking, but when it comes to meeting new people and wanting to help out, I really enjoy that. (plus the more people I talked to, the merrier I become) I constantly get tested as an ENFP but I still thought I was an INFP because of the above reasons, although the descriptions for both fit me on various occasions.
I don't really get those people who actually DO enjoy things like social drinking and loud parties. Especially loud parties, because it is impossible to talk there! I hate it when I can't talk to people (whatever the reason is). And my Fi is so strong it makes me doubt my ENFPness from time to time. xNFP here! :D
 

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People consider me an extrovert more than I do myself. I feel like I'm social awkward and weird but if I tell people that they seem shocked because I'm so "confident" (what?!)
I prefer being around people to not, but in certain settings. I'm not one for loud parties and clubs either, but I'd take a group of close friends just hanging out and talking over being by myself almost anytime. I think if I were to go to said parties and clubs far more people would assume I was an introvert.
 

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I think I'm an XNFP... but I'm not quite sure!

I'm a bit shy... but damn, I love going out and meeting new people. I love talking and seeing people. It just feels good... but I can be a little strange when it comes to socialising. I'm an odd one and I don't always understanding social norms. I can't quite explain but I say and do weird things. Yeah.

I don't really like going out to clubs and shit. I can't hear anyone talk. I want to talk to people! I prefer small gatherings where everyone can hear each other perfectly and shit. That stuff is really nice... but I gotta admit, I do love going to the pub with a friend or two. That is awesome fun.
 

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I don't really get those people who actually DO enjoy things like social drinking and loud parties. Especially loud parties, because it is impossible to talk there! I hate it when I can't talk to people (whatever the reason is). And my Fi is so strong it makes me doubt my ENFPness from time to time. xNFP here! :D
I hate it too when it's so loud you can barely hear anyone talking! Apparently, my friends said they're fun and even though they embarrassed themselves every time they got drunk, they couldn't help but feel excited to go out for social drinking and parties. Also, drinking is the only way they would find something to talk about with guys they're interested in

I think I'm an XNFP... but I'm not quite sure!

I'm a bit shy... but damn, I love going out and meeting new people. I love talking and seeing people. It just feels good... but I can be a little strange when it comes to socialising. I'm an odd one and I don't always understanding social norms. I can't quite explain but I say and do weird things. Yeah.

I don't really like going out to clubs and shit. I can't hear anyone talk. I want to talk to people! I prefer small gatherings where everyone can hear each other perfectly and shit. That stuff is really nice... but I gotta admit, I do love going to the pub with a friend or two. That is awesome fun.
Don't worry, I do weird things too, someone said in this thread that you know you're an ENFP when somebody said you're weird, and you take it as a compliment. :crazy:
 

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Don't worry, I do weird things too, someone said in this thread that you know you're an ENFP when somebody said you're weird, and you take it as a compliment. :crazy:[/QUOTE]

This is true! If they say I'm normal, I feel a little taken back! It's weird to hear someone say such a thing. ;) I kinda like it. Makes me laugh.
 

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I LOVE being around people, but it takes a very long time for me to be comfortable enough with any one person that I will truly open up with them. At the same time, while I am taking my time getting comfortable, I get a lot of satisfaction from learning as much about people as I possibly can. Not exactly a market standard I guess--in the sense that I ask for a lot of information from others without giving a lot about myself--but it's always the way I've been with people, and I do it out a sincere interest in them. I know some people have assumed I am introverted because of this. But I think that many people misunderstand what it is to be extraverted. I'm not automatically going to be loud and flamboyant every time I'm in a crowded room. But I almost always feel energized from being around people and interacting with them.

Many times the same people who believe I am introverted make the assumption that I am also excessively sweet and naive--almost child-like in a way. I do keep an open mind and heart when with new people, but I don't automatically trust anybody. Because I am so slow to trust, it always surprises me when anyone makes the assumption that I am so naive and trusting in my relationships. I think there are some who will assume not only that extraversion and noisiness go hand-in-hand, but also that that this open-mindedness must be indicative of a child-like innocence. I feel it's a little bit sad that they choose to take such a jaded view.
 

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People are so confused about people who are extroverted or introverted. Allow me to break it down in two simple definitions;

Extrovert - Someone who gains energy by spending time with people. They feel drained or "bored" by spending time by themselves.

Introvert - Someone who gains energy by spending time by themselves. They feel drained or "spent" by spending time with other people after a long period of time.


That's all there is; Getting energy. Not all extroverts are loud, rude, over-sexed party animals, and not all introverts are quiet, book worms who hates spending even a few seconds with someone else. Introverts love people and socializing, they just need some quiet time after that to recharge.
 

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People are so confused about people who are extroverted or introverted. Allow me to break it down in two simple definitions;

Extrovert - Someone who gains energy by spending time with people. They feel drained or "bored" by spending time by themselves.

Introvert - Someone who gains energy by spending time by themselves. They feel drained or "spent" by spending time with other people after a long period of time.


That's all there is; Getting energy. Not all extroverts are loud, rude, over-sexed party animals, and not all introverts are quiet, book worms who hates spending even a few seconds with someone else. Introverts love people and socializing, they just need some quiet time after that to recharge.
I knew it when I was creating this thread. However, these terms were ones used by my friend and I used them as well lacking more accurate and yet still easily undestandable expressions. I apologize for spreading misinformation. ;-)
 

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My cousin is an ENFP and she can feel very introverted at times. She needs to be in her room for a long time to recover but then she feels good enough to socialize again after that. I get along with her well, and she was actually the one who introduced me to this site.
 

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Yeah people think I'm introverted too 'coz I always go away when too many people
and I'm always "invisible" ... hard to find me... maybe I think I connect with people too much in a way that I don't give enough time to specific groups of people. I got 5 circles of friends... and more FB friends,,,, I can get into all people

In short, People love me... but hardly goes into my world :)

I hate conflicts... and don't really argue people so they think I'm introverted... but no, just love people to love each other.

usually I love people, but often have social networks and love long telephone chats... maybe that's the reason
 

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All the time! Especially if my social circle at the moment consists of people I'm not totally comfortable with, like right now. My extroversion mostly comes out when I feel good about the people I'm with. At a party I feel more energized and stay late, I prefer more acquaintances to fewer friends, I look forward to meeting new people, I prefer hanging out with groups rather than one on one and going out to staying in, but it seems like I frequently find myself in groups of people that I have little in common with or have other reasons not to feel comfortable with. Right now my social circle consists of a very gossipy group of people and locals that I have a language barrier with, so I'm mostly living like an introvert. At other times in my life I've been surrounded by people and going out every night.
 

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I'm super extroverted I can recharge off other people or myself. But sometimes I just sometimes want be alone examine my surrounding, the beauty of nature, and explore my inner self.
 
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