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I am a very cerebral person, and am often lost in thought or observation, but can easily talk to anyone I so care to. A random stranger at the bus stop, the cashier I'm purchasing food from, the hot girl I've been eyeballing, etc.. In the end, I thought being an introverted temperament, this would not be as recognizable a trait in my personality, but it is.

I am however, a recluse very easily. I will go home, and stay home until I'm forced to leave, usually for practical matters or work. Since I'm already out, I usually decide to see some people since the effort has already been made to drag me from my space. I pleasantly occupy my time with my interests, and am very selective of when I go out. In a way I believe it makes it that much more intriguing, but I could also be over thinking it, as I tend to do.

Do you have a similar streak of this duality in your nature?
 

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Yeah. Some days, I approach strangers, initiate conversations, and socialize energetically. Other days, I shut myself inside the box-like cave that is my bedroom. Hollow confines for extended periods of time deteriorate my little brain, just as interacting with several humans on a continuous basis. Obviously, this necessitates balance.

Lately, my iPod has been my trustiest companion. Sometimes it's better than people.
 

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You sound very balanced.I tend to move in the shadows and speak when Im spoken to. I approach people in a cautious calculated manner after observing them for a period. After reading your post I feel like a certified nutter. Maybe so.
You sound like one of my best friends who's an ISTP. He's very cautious and calculated in his movements and slow to let himself out. Once I peeled his layers, I discovered one of the richest friendships I've ever had. He's become a bit more socially engaging with strangers, but is still shy to anyone he doesn't meet through someone else.
 

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Yeah. Some days, I approach strangers, initiate conversations, and socialize energetically. Other days, I shut myself inside the box-like cave that is my bedroom. Hollow confines for extended periods of time deteriorate my little brain, just as interacting with several humans on a continuous basis. Obviously, this necessitates balance.

Lately, my iPod has been my trustiest companion. Sometimes it's better than people.

I completely understand what you mean about your relationship with your iPod. My Zune broke a ways back and I was starting to lose it until I shelled out dough for a Zen Mosaic, which I cannot stand, but it has my tunes, so it comes with me everywhere.
 

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I'm usaully listening to music while I'm on the internet that I loose track of time. The only time I do those leisurley activities is when I'm at school (although I spend most of times listening to music).
 

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I'm usaully listening to music while I'm on the internet that I loose track of time. The only time I do those leisurley activities is when I'm at school (although I spend most of times listening to music).
I could easily stay up until 4 or 5am every night with the combination of those two.

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I completely understand what you mean about your relationship with your iPod. My Zune broke a ways back and I was starting to lose it until I shelled out dough for a Zen Mosaic, which I cannot stand, but it has my tunes, so it comes with me everywhere.

I think that music expresses our emotions more than we express it ourselves, in my opinion. When I feel happy or sad I usaully listen to happy or sad songs instead of telling people how I feel. And yes that does suck that you're Zune broke, I remember that my Ipod broke and I was very anxious, nervous, and angry for some wierd reason. Now I got an Itouch and I listen to that thing 24/7:happy:
 

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I think that music expresses our emotions more than we express it ourselves, in my opinion. When I feel happy or sad I usaully listen to happy or sad songs instead of telling people how I feel. And yes that does suck that you're Zune broke, I remember that my Ipod broke and I was very anxious, nervous, and angry for some wierd reason. Now I got an Itouch and I listen to that thing 24/7:happy:

Music helps center me without a doubt.
 

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You sound very balanced.I tend to move in the shadows and speak when Im spoken to. I approach people in a cautious calculated manner after observing them for a period. After reading your post I feel like a certified nutter. Maybe so.
Well, you aren't alone. I am also like this. It is especially true that I observe people for a while before finally deciding to approach them. I also won't approach them unless I will benefit in some way (maybe they are a good looking gal, maybe they seem smart and it would be wise to team up with them, or maybe they have something I desire).
 

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Well, you aren't alone. I am also like this. It is especially true that I observe people for a while before finally deciding to approach them. I also won't approach them unless I will benefit in some way (maybe they are a good looking gal, maybe they seem smart and it would be wise to team up with them, or maybe they have something I desire).
I am totally with you on that. I will meet anyone, but I often discover that my social side helps bring others together and creates a network I'm already adapt too. Having your foot in a lot of doors can be useful when you need a dj for a party, editor for a movie, drafter for insightful architecture etc. etc.. Most of my connections are in the art and music community, but they are quite beneficial when you know a lot of people, and meet another who needs to be introduced into their select culture to thrive.

I have few close friends and a ton of acquaintances.
 

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I only speak to people when I'm spoken to. I absolutely hate the small talk, but it would just cause disharmony if I remain silent like I want to, and that would make both of us uncomfortable, which I can't handle. Interesting covnersation I don't mind as much, and I can go on and on for hours with people I don't know well if the conversation is stimulating enough. If I'm with someone I know really well though, like family and super close friends (lol like I have any), I can get REALLY hyper. I'll go off like a chatterbox and will be bouncing off the walls. It's quite scary really o_O Of course, after a few minutes of this I crash from over-exertion, and have to go curl up in a ball in the corner of my room.

I don't like being dragged out to places; I'd much rather stay home on the computer. I will go out when I want to, however. I get anxious if I stay in one place for too long, and I have to get out.

I think that music expresses our emotions more than we express it ourselves, in my opinion. When I feel happy or sad I usaully listen to happy or sad songs instead of telling people how I feel. And yes that does suck that you're Zune broke, I remember that my Ipod broke and I was very anxious, nervous, and angry for some wierd reason. Now I got an Itouch and I listen to that thing 24/7:happy:
I had a thread on this once...kinda. I used to lose my iPod all the time, and I would literally break down. I'd be distracted for days. I was a wreck. My iTouch doesn't get farther than a foot away from me now.

I agree completely with this notion...I don't tell people what I'm feeling, but I'll listen to a song that has that feeling instead. Sometimes I won't know exactly how I feel, so I'll have to shuffle through my library until a song comes up that just "clicks."
 

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I'm usually really shy and cautious when I first meet someone. I like to sit back and observe people. I'm not very outgoing in public or even in a small group setting, if I'm really close to these people my true colors shine through.
 

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Music helps center me without a doubt.
I used to listen to music all the time, but I stopped a few years ago and hardly listen anymore. Now I usually have pretty strong music playing in my head, and listening to music ruins my mood because the songs aren't as good as the one in my head, or they're not the right song. And, sometimes I just like some silence because it's relaxing.

Also, when I was younger, I couldn't change the music that was playing in my head, even if I tried, or if I could it would take a lot of effort but wouldn't have much of an effect on the sound. But now I have the ability to change the music however I want, and play any kind of music I want. All I have to do is think of the music I want to hear and it starts playing. I wonder if that could be explained by MBTI or age or something? I know it has something to do with a fundamental shift in how I think about things, that I'm just more in control of my thinking and tendencies.
 

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It depends entirely on my mood and whether that person is outgoing too. Most of the time, I'm not really outgoing unless I am excited or around people I am completely comfortable with.
 

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I used to listen to music all the time, but I stopped a few years ago and hardly listen anymore. Now I usually have pretty strong music playing in my head, and listening to music ruins my mood because the songs aren't as good as the one in my head, or they're not the right song. And, sometimes I just like some silence because it's relaxing.

Also, when I was younger, I couldn't change the music that was playing in my head, even if I tried, or if I could it would take a lot of effort but wouldn't have much of an effect on the sound. But now I have the ability to change the music however I want, and play any kind of music I want. All I have to do is think of the music I want to hear and it starts playing. I wonder if that could be explained by MBTI or age or something? I know it has something to do with a fundamental shift in how I think about things, that I'm just more in control of my thinking and tendencies.


Hmmmm, interesting approach to controlling your moods. Obviously of self disciplined and dominance seeking nature. You have an neat way of concluding situations.

I will agree with you however that sometimes music is not meant to be. Silence is one of my favorite things in the world because it's so rare in our day and age. I love to stay up late for that exact reason.
 

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I am a very cerebral person, and am often lost in thought or observation, but can easily talk to anyone I so care to. A random stranger at the bus stop, the cashier I'm purchasing food from, the hot girl I've been eyeballing, etc.. In the end, I thought being an introverted temperament, this would not be as recognizable a trait in my personality, but it is.

I am however, a recluse very easily. I will go home, and stay home until I'm forced to leave, usually for practical matters or work. Since I'm already out, I usually decide to see some people since the effort has already been made to drag me from my space. I pleasantly occupy my time with my interests, and am very selective of when I go out. In a way I believe it makes it that much more intriguing, but I could also be over thinking it, as I tend to do.

Do you have a similar streak of this duality in your nature?
I am the exact same way. I think I'm not anxious about socializing so much as anxious about having to talk to someone who cannot understand me. That's why I sometimes won't talk to someone when I pretty easily could. Also I don't like too much stupidity. If I see someone and can pretty well predict and conversation is going to be inane, banal, tedious, inefficient, superficial, pointless, etc. it just seems like such a huge waste of energy. I think sure being a Prober and having a good sense of humor helps. I can always find something
funny about any situation it seems. Objective, abstract kind of humor is more subtle but very reliable.

And yeah, if left to myself I'll almost never go to anything purely social. If I girl I like is there I'll go but that's a lot more like strategy in my mind.
 

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I usually lurk until something comes up that I want a part in, then indulge in mindless chatter. Since I rarely talk to strangers (I can pace in front of a store for hours until I decide to go and buy something because it requires human interaction), talking with my acquaintances comes with a certain degree of difficulty. However, I notice that the music in my head stops as soon as I become fully engaged in something, so I try to keep myself as engaged as possible. Sometimes the music in my head is corrupted in some way or another, and it really irks me.

Besides, my awesome ISFP and ISFJ (just barely; she's very balanced) acquaintances can maintain a nicely intellectual conversation most of the time.
 

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I'll go out a lot of the time if I'm asked to, as long as it's an environment that allows for conversation. Once there I'm reserved for a while, then when I get more comfortable I'll be able to talk to people about stuff they feel passionate about. I really enjoy the conversation once it gets to that point, before that it's not all that but still somewhat enjoyable. When I get into a decent conversation with someone, I generally seem to leave a very good impression - if I don't, I'm pretty much background... well, maybe not noise. :tongue:
 
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