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yes, social media are horrible
I closed my FB and only keep instagram which I use sometimes tho I'm considering closing it as well

I don't think it was 'engineered' though, I don't think they realized the negative side of it when they made it, or at least the extent. Now I doubt they don't, but hey money rules the world :dry:
 

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Why limit this to children? I've seen social media damage full grown adults and most will deny that social media has affected them. It's addicting to all age groups and to make things worse it's a socially accepted, if not socially encouraged, type of addiction.
 

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I literally gave up on Facebook for almost two years. In fact, I rarely ever used it once I started to grow up. I just thought that it didn't really appeal to me anymore and I didn't really want to talk with anybody. I've seen other people in my age using various other socal media I've never used before and I didn't really care about creating accounts from other resources. I just thought they were unnecessary/unappealing. I've also seen other people consdering forums as social media, despite some differences forums have to offer.
 

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@Euclid, can you talk about how youtube helped you find conspiracy theorists, like alex jones, who convinced you 911 was an american inside job and sandy hook was faked?

I'm interested in how someone like you, who presumably has a college education, was damaged by social media hoaxters
 

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@Euclid, can you talk about how youtube helped you find conspiracy theorists, like alex jones, who convinced you 911 was an american inside job and sandy hook was faked?

I'm interested in how someone like you, who presumably has a college education, was damaged by social media hoaxters
I am curious about this too, as Youtube is also social media and can be quite toxic.
 

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And that's how you engineer a 1984 style society.
If Facebook is how they engineered it, they need better engineers. I think the powers-that-do lost control at some point, and now it's just a free-for-all chaotic mess.

For the youth, there are many problems in general, social media only aggravates all these problems. @Hurricane Matthew is right, it's an addiction for a lot of people, of all ages.

As for the mob mentality, I think it has always existed. Just think about medieval witch hunts. I remember reading a quote from Huckleberry Finn:
“The pitifulest thing out is a mob; that's what an army is--a mob; they don't fight with courage that's born in them, but with courage that's borrowed from their mass, and from their officers. But a mob without any MAN at the head of it is BENEATH pitifulness.”
If you have the time, you might want to see this interview clip about millennials in the workplace.
@ai.tran.75 @Alesha , you got kids. Thoughts?
 

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@Sei35 Awesome video, thanks for bringing me in.

I think I'm sharing this video with my kids. Also it makes sense why I'm struggling with addiction to PerC. I stayed away from Facebook because I knew I wouldn't be able to handle it. I do get quite addicted to getting texts and messages here. : (

My kids and I talk about all this often, but it's even harder to make sure that there are enough activities to replace their cell phones, etc.
 

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@Alesha dear, look on the bright side - at least your kids (and yourself) are not doing drugs! :laughing:

Okay, okay, bad timing for a joke... You know how I feel about life problems. I'm done tagging you for today. Don't let me keep you. Please have a fantastic weekend with your family.
 

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There's also the obvious issue of each child feeling like they are superior by thinking that people care when they share their every thoughts on social media, but it also gives instant gratification, leading to children having less patience. I've also read somewhere, that social media is actually damaging, not only children's attention span, but everyone's in general.
 

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alternet.org

Kids Don't Need a Cellphone—They Need a Digital Diet


By Naomi Schaefer Riley / Los Angeles Times
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According to a recent survey by the toy company Melissa & Doug, 70% of parents want their children to spend less time watching electronic media and 62% want them to spend less time on electronic devices. They are right. After all, studies show that screen time is associated with higher levels of obesity, shorter attention spans and more psychological problems, including higher rates of depression. The new year is as good a time as any to rethink your house rules.

A media diet is just like a regular diet. If you’re not consistent in the first few weeks and months, you will fail. You can lay out a couple of exceptions for your kids ahead of time — car rides longer than two hours, trips to the emergency room. But if you start with no screen time on school nights, and then you make an exception because you need to do some work, you should expect that your kids will ask you for screens the next night and the one after that. If you let them play on your phone in the line at the supermarket, they will take note and expect you to supply them with screens when they are forced to wait anywhere for anything. They know how to wear you down.

But keep in mind, you cannot simply remove the devices and offer nothing in return. As any nutritionist will tell you, deprivation is not sustainable, substitution is. When you take away phones and tablets, you have to give your kids other things — more time outside, more low-tech toys or more time with you.
A significant temptation of technology is its portability. In a widely read rant in the Washington Post, Amanda Kolson Hurley wrote about our culture of “snackism” for kids: “We walk around with trail mix and Sun Chips stuffed in our bags like we’re mobile, no-fee vending machines.” The same is true of our digital devices. Kids used to sit too long in front of the TV. But at least once you got them out of the house, that was the end of it. Now the TV can be on perpetually and parents can dispense movies and video games like mobile, no-fee theaters and arcades. Snackism means children eat when they’re not hungry; on-demand screen time is no better for them.

Too often our diets are ruined by impulse buys. If we go to the grocery store with a list and stick to it, everything goes well. But confronted with a plate of hors-d'oeuvres or brownies, we give in. When we dole out the devices after planning our kids’ screen time and thinking carefully (and even researching) how much time and what kinds of activities our children should be engaged in on screens, things go well. But when we feel pressured into handing over a phone or granting permission to watch or play something on the fly, they don’t.

You shouldn’t give your kids their own phone lightly, or for the sake of convenience. The McDonald’s drive-through is a more convenient option than cooking at home, but that doesn’t make it a good choice. A recently formed group called Wait Until 8th is suggesting parents hold off on kids’ phones until they’re in the eighth grade — and even then offering a flip phone, not a smartphone. The group points to research suggesting that having a cellphone interferes with sleep (parents confirm that 9-year-olds are regularly texting into the night) and the formation of relationships (taking phones away for even a few days seems to increase children’s abilities to read facial cues accurately). Along with all the other negatives, mobile phones are a distraction from schoolwork. And that’s not even considering the potential content that kids can be exposed to — cyberbullying and pornography.

One pediatrician told me that a number of parents have given their children phones simply because they’ve bought a new phone for themselves and, hey, what else are they going to do with the old one? Some parents just want to make sure their children are tethered to them at all times — “What if my daughter gets upset at a birthday party and needs to come home?” the mother of one 9-year-old with an iPhone asked me. Parents don’t have to be Uber. Kids can be given a watch and a time to meet after swim practice or gymnastics. If they need to leave an event early, kids can ask the adult present to contact you. This has the added advantage of teaching them independence and responsibility.
It’s OK to be a hypocrite about your own phone use versus theirs. Yes, we can all use a little less time on our screens — adults included — but rules can be legitimate, even if they aren’t the same for you and your kids. You don’t give your kids alcohol or the keys to the car. Why should they have the same access to devices you do?

Most adults know what they should be eating and they don’t substitute candy bars for vegetables. They also know the pleasure of shutting off distractions to read a good novel or to focus on the company of friends and family. But if you never experience getting lost in a good book all afternoon or enjoying time outside without worrying about checking your phone, will you be able to create these experiences as an adult? Kids would no doubt prefer a Milky Way to a salad for dinner, just as they’d like to do and see what they want on your phone or better yet, their own. Don’t budge.

Naomi Schaefer Riley is an American journalist, syndicated columnist, lecturer, non-fiction writer, editor, and blogger, for, among other news outlets, The New York Post.
 

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If you have the time, you might want to see this interview clip about millennials in the workplace.
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Hey there-
Yeah I'm quite well aware of social media and internet/video games addiction. Have you seen Consuming Kids
. Kinda along the same line

My kids are not allowed to touch any electronic devices and they don't watch tv for more than 30 minutes a week ( my eldest is only 5) however their days are filled with activities and we are rarely ever at home. I do have a lot of fun toys for them to play with at home - legos - magformers - crazy fort set( you use stick and balls to build tents) and lots of books, board games etc . I also have darts, archery set, a pool table in my house so I think they'll enjoy it as they aged . So early intervention on my part here:)


On defense of Facebook ( it's located in my hometown ) I think joining after 18 is a good way to connect with others on my part- I've reconnected with many friends from the past thanks to face book and I'm able to share Articles/thoughts/humor and photos and my life update with family . I also made friends with many people from PerC on FB - I think that's cool

People are all addicted to their phone nowadays- I'm one of them but I make an effort to not bring it along with me when I hang out with friends

What are your thoughts?


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Here is another video on this matter. It really is alarming. The march of technology has been tireless, and few have stopped to consider the consequences of our newer tools. It is appaling that businesses, many so indifferent to their immorality, have used the deepest insights of psychology to manipulate and exploit people - this epitomised by the social media giants.

We are like fools engrossed in an endless advance of new toys. It's rather obvious we need to hit the brakes and do some considering - and it's rather important that is done with a powerful and practical effect. I for one am going to make extra effort to do other more productive and meaningful things than partaking in these dopamine feedback loops.

Truly, alarming...
 

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It may be a comedy sketch, but sadly it became reality.
 

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Correction, social media is damaging your children.
 
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Women easily get attention from men who easy get pictures of hot girls. Hot, yet unattractive women (due to horrible personalities) aren't incentivised to better themselves and men who get interaction with hot women don't get the right picture of how women are.
 

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It's always sad when you go to a nice restaurant and there are the people taking pics of their food. Or you go to a museum and there are people taking pictures of everything. Or you go see the New Years fireworks and people are looking AWAY from them and filming their face with the fireworks in the background. It's like everything people decide to do these days they do not because they would enjoy it but because they think they would LOOK like they're enjoying it in a selfie to make all their friends think they have such an amazing life.
 
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