I've been dating an ENTJ for a few years now. I'm a very honest and open person towards the people I trust and like, so he I have had a habit of telling him everything. Brutal honesty is a quality of mine that I really can't compromise. I will feel tremendous guilt for lying and even leaving things untold, even if it's not that big of a deal.
Anyhow, unfortunately he has really grown to take my openness and honesty for granted. Nothing is expected to be left untold and it's slowly starting to scare me. Nevertheless I still feel guilty if I keep something private from him.
There are a lot of things that he doesn't approve of, that most people would deem private anyway. For example masturbation (He doesn't out right deny it, but he wishes I'd not do it anyway) and signing up to sites like, well perC for example (he thinks it's silly to seek advice on the internet and so on. Also thinks it's sort of a security risk [what if someone finds out who I am, etc etc] ).
But then I wonder...Does he need to know really? Where's my privacy? But honestly I know that he expects me to tell him these things and I don't think I can just suddenly stop mentioning things like it's not big deal (even if it really isn't...).
A while ago he forced me to show my whole internet browsing history, just to check what I've been up to. I felt really violated and I told him that it wrecked my trust in him. I'm not sure he took me too seriously. I told him that I would be keeping things to myself from now on since he is out of trust. Truth is, I'm sort of over that whole thing, and it's not like I want to become distant. But I wish I could feel guilt free from refraining about telling some things and realize what things are really private and what aren't? Does it all depend on the couple? Anyways, discuss?
P.S. I'm not looking for any sort of scrutiny towards my boyfriend nor relationship, so please refrain from that. Thanks.
Anyhow, unfortunately he has really grown to take my openness and honesty for granted. Nothing is expected to be left untold and it's slowly starting to scare me. Nevertheless I still feel guilty if I keep something private from him.
There are a lot of things that he doesn't approve of, that most people would deem private anyway. For example masturbation (He doesn't out right deny it, but he wishes I'd not do it anyway) and signing up to sites like, well perC for example (he thinks it's silly to seek advice on the internet and so on. Also thinks it's sort of a security risk [what if someone finds out who I am, etc etc] ).
But then I wonder...Does he need to know really? Where's my privacy? But honestly I know that he expects me to tell him these things and I don't think I can just suddenly stop mentioning things like it's not big deal (even if it really isn't...).
A while ago he forced me to show my whole internet browsing history, just to check what I've been up to. I felt really violated and I told him that it wrecked my trust in him. I'm not sure he took me too seriously. I told him that I would be keeping things to myself from now on since he is out of trust. Truth is, I'm sort of over that whole thing, and it's not like I want to become distant. But I wish I could feel guilt free from refraining about telling some things and realize what things are really private and what aren't? Does it all depend on the couple? Anyways, discuss?
P.S. I'm not looking for any sort of scrutiny towards my boyfriend nor relationship, so please refrain from that. Thanks.