It can and might be both things. Ni makes connection between seemingly unrelated things (or not), looking for meaning or something that isn't obvious at first sight. So when someone says ABC to an INFJ or at least to me, it is very natural that my mind will look for a meaning behind the obvious one (in other words, what was literally said by a person). To be fair, a lot of people do say things meaning something different than what was actually said and sometimes this INFJ "gift" comes in hand.So is your boyfriend an INTJ or an INFJ?
I once dated an INFJ, and they like to read between the lines. I guess it's an Ni thing generally. They interpret things through inferences, body languages, vibes and think it all through. They generally feel and think deeply. I don't think you need to speak between the lines with them, they can generally spot inauthenticity quickly and accurately, but when they're insecure they like to over analyze things.
It can get pretty overwhelming for an ENTP who don't feel as deeply or over-analyze (we do, just not as much as they do). I think they generally get insecure when what you say, how you act, and how you feel didn't match, or at least seemed so. The only way to get through this is talk it through with them, and tell them you're genuine and give some gesture to prove it.
Most of the time though, they're pretty accurate. Some time, they're just paranoid. I guess understand why they insist to read between the lines, they might have some insecurity bottled up for the issue.
Is your boyfriend INTJ or INFJ?How do I help my INTJ bf read between the lines when I speak or how do I even 'speak in lines', so that I stop being misinterpreted so often? Anyone got experience with this?