Might want to rewrite it in the affirmative?
IE. instead of saying what you dont want... say what you DO want
IE. instead of saying what you dont want... say what you DO want
How to date an INFJ?!
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Similar, but not same.
There is nothing more intangible or mysterious than a relationship, in my opinion. The ebbs and flows of so many competing desires on both sides expressed in segments of time and through gestures so subtle they can hardly be said to have happened at all.
Either it is making you happy or it is not. I would try not to try to assign rules or values to it... because there is no rule that cannot be bent or broken by the unendingly flexible nature of the human spirit. Within our spirit lies the truth... and it is a truth that is too complex and fluid to be expressed within the confines of words.
Sometimes intimacy would make me happy and I want to cuddle... sometimes I need to separate myself a bit to think. Sometimes I would like to be the aggressor in the bedroom... sometimes I'd like to be aggressed upon
Sometimes I'd put off a conflict and brush it under the table... sometimes I'd speak to it calmly and directly. All just... ebbs and flows. (I hope that my ebbs and flows might harmonize in a way with my partner's and that ability to understand, empower, and love through all of the intangible chaos of the human spirit is what I see as being important) Of course, that's just my opinion.
Oh oh so true my friend. We are ebb and flow. Like water in so many ways. I need someone who can love me through my rough seas, my gentle rains and the quiet still nights. I am more than willing and able to do that for another person, it just seems its hard for us INFJs to find someone to do it for us in return. We are givers. We will shower someone with affection and be loyal to the end, but we aren't always easy to live with. I know that my emotional well being is very directly tied to my physical/social well being. It is only be identifying how I feel and why I feel the way I do that I can back track and change my outlook on a day. Understanding that INFJs are just a little more in touch with not only our own 'inner selves' than others but also reactive to the emotions of those around us is important. Complex creatures we are, but are we worth it? I like to think so....Sometimes intimacy would make me happy and I want to cuddle... sometimes I need to separate myself a bit to think. Sometimes I would like to be the aggressor in the bedroom... sometimes I'd like to be aggressed upon
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Relationships. Either a euphoric high or an emotional hell.
It's good that you know what you want, or have an idea at least. I too have ideas of what I'd like to find, but when it comes down to it, the first cute girl to show some genuine interest in me will probably have the best chance.
It's good that you know what you want, or have an idea at least. I too have ideas of what I'd like to find, but when it comes down to it, the first cute girl to show some genuine interest in me will probably have the best chance.
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