Posts by Tkae
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But in all seriousness, you let her decide for herself whether she's fulfilled or not. Like other people said, you're asking how to impose your own view of "fullest" on a person whose definition for that same concept is radically different from your own.
At the end of the day, living life to the fullest is intimately tied to the concept of fulfillment. At the internal level, you're living life to its fullest if you're fulfilled. Ultimately you can't be more fulfilled than being fulfilled because fulfillment is a state that isn't gradable. A person plateaus at a certain level, and each of our plateau levels are different, and the amount of fulfillment we gain from any activity or state are different.
Your mother is perfectly able to be fulfilled by cleaning the house and balancing her checkbook if that's what fulfills her. And where you as an ENFP might not find those fulfilling, she as an ISTJ won't find cruises to Somalia to deliver shoes and dolls to refugee orphans fulfilling.
EDIT: My ENFP friends aren't fulfilled unless they're in a car with three friends and laughing. I'm not fulfilled unless I'm sitting at home alone listening to music and playing video games.
There's also a major difference in what fulfills you just from being Extroverts and Introverts. You need to let her mellow out at home if you want her to be happy.
At the end of the day, living life to the fullest is intimately tied to the concept of fulfillment. At the internal level, you're living life to its fullest if you're fulfilled. Ultimately you can't be more fulfilled than being fulfilled because fulfillment is a state that isn't gradable. A person plateaus at a certain level, and each of our plateau levels are different, and the amount of fulfillment we gain from any activity or state are different.
Your mother is perfectly able to be fulfilled by cleaning the house and balancing her checkbook if that's what fulfills her. And where you as an ENFP might not find those fulfilling, she as an ISTJ won't find cruises to Somalia to deliver shoes and dolls to refugee orphans fulfilling.
EDIT: My ENFP friends aren't fulfilled unless they're in a car with three friends and laughing. I'm not fulfilled unless I'm sitting at home alone listening to music and playing video games.
There's also a major difference in what fulfills you just from being Extroverts and Introverts. You need to let her mellow out at home if you want her to be happy.
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