How to know an INFP is in love

I haven't had a male INFP fall in love with me before so this is from my own experience.

- Hangs around more and more.
- Release of guarded wall; chipping of said wall.
- Becomes playful whether it be subtle flirting or light smacking.
- Finds any excuse to see and spend time with crush.

- try to find more info about you ..
- avoiding eye contact if not so confident ...
- want to see you all the time if possible .. and spending more time around you ...
- too much excited , happy and enthusiastic when you show up ..
- asking about you more than often, maybe contacting you alot ..
- comfortable to be himself, maybe generating different kind of conversations about what differents kinds of topics ...

i ever been in relation with INFP, but this is about me if i like someone ...

If I ignore you, but see you often; maybe even seem like I'm trying to see you, but act like I don't.

If I look at you through the corner of my eye, but quickly look away embaressed; then that is a surefire way of knowing that I like you.

Mind you this only works if she who is involved is a stranger.

They look at you, pay attention to you, feel really comfortable and weird around you. They tell you stuff. They actually let you know how they feel rather than mask it to make you feel better. They are more calm and relaxed around you. They are considerate with you more than most. They touch you more casually, hands, etc. They make you feel better. They want to hear all your sercrets and are less likely to judge.

I'm pretty guarded when it comes to my feelings.
I have no idea if I show it well enough when I do.
I think it is easy to tell if I like a person, but love is another thing...

What I can think of, is probably only obvious to me.
Like where I make a blatant effort to show how special that person is to me.
I invest my time, energy, creativity, privacy with the person.
Let them get more than just a glimpse into my life, and show an interest in being part of theirs.
I'm usually too scared at first, but eventually I get bold. Really bold.

That bold moment tells all.

well thi sis how i act when i am in love

- im interested in all information about the person, i won't always ask them directly for it - but ill probably find out
- i wanna talk to them a lot, and talking to them becomes my source of happiness
- i get really cheerful thinking of them, and i think about them a lot
- it happens when i feel someone close, so i guess i have more to talk about and im thinking less about what im gonna say
- i get all nice once we are romantic, i get very tactile for a change
- i usually have a lot of laugh with that person cuz i feel free joking about anything with them (hence why i fall in love with him)
- i get a bit worried about our relationship after awhile (paranoia can't help it)

but also never mind that - i am very careful with showing my feelings, i am aware of them but they still can surprise me and i am not very open so i start showing everything in more subtle way like spending time with that person, im not so direct. I need time to show how i really feel, and i mean time - hence why my ex boyfriends were often insecure about my feelings. I was sure it was noticeable btu ti wasn't, i can get very controlling of my own feelings in the beginning cuz i have self-protective and self-preserving tendencies. In general - spending time and wanting to be around that person and wanting to know things about him is the best sign i like you.

I often, after awhile, i get that feeling that there is so much inside of me and in my heart to give and show but i feel like it's blocked there and all that i could show is hardly enough to say how i feel when im in love. I feel like it's showing on the outside from my inner world, but i guess i am so closed that it's not visible enough. I often have that sentence in my head "if only i could tell you in right words how many wonderful things i feel for you..."

When I am in love an not sure how the person feels I:
-Look for excuses to see the person or spend more time with her
-am super cautious about what I say, dont want to offend her or make her uncomfortable
-fell very nervous around her (almost like im playing pokemon in the safari zone and come across a rear pokemon, dont want to get too close too fast to scare her off)
-Try to get her to notice me and notice i like her alot without actually saying it
-try to get as much information about her likes and dislikes so I will know things to do that would make her smile and things that may annoy her

When I am in love and I know the person loves me too I:
-Smother her with love and affection
-always try to please her and make her smile, laugh, just generally happy
-spend alot of time talking to her about any and everything
-try my best to do special things for her to impress her
-will be very protective of her but give her her space when needed
-basically try to be the best boyfriend I can be
-and try to avoid arguments at all cost sometimes agreeing to disagree (even when i know im right lol as long as it is not something that i have a big issue with or know will become an issue in the future)

There cannot be an universal answer, as there are many ways to express true love. INFP-wise, I would think:

-Trying to get to know the most "real" you as possible, trying to figure you out, what makes you tick, what makes you happy or sad.
-Accepting the real you without conditions. Unconditional acceptance is one of the most sincere ways to show affection, although this probably goes for all types as well. But INFPs are generally very good at accepting you as-is, not wanting you to change to meet what they wish you were-for they wish you are who you REALLY are.

As far as THIS INFP is concerned (and in addition to the above):

-Words of reaffirmation-I would let you know how awesome and special you are, and will always lift your spirits. I want to see you happy and confident about yourself, I want you to learn that you are a wonderful, special person that deserve to be the happiest individual in the world.

-Self-sacrifice: I will sacrifice my time/money/even a few of the things I like for you. The reason I say "few" is not to limit my love, but because I shall do so without never stopping to love myself. Love puts the significant other first, but truly, one should never stop loving oneself either, because we are as much deserving of our own love as our significant other. In practice, when I am in love, I gladly sacrifice myself for the person I love, although I do so with much more wisdom now than I used to a few years back. Love can't be selfish to me-it must be selflessness incarnate (of course, paired with self-love and self-respect.)

-Unique gifts (regardless price-they can be expensive or affordable), used mainly as symbols of love, that note that I've been paying attention to what you say/express. I will find out what makes you happy and give you gifts accordingly. Gifts that speak about our conversations. Gifts that honor what your ideals are. I love romantic gifts like that, and don't like gift giving to impress, but rather to express how I deeply care about you and your values.

-I will seek your happiness rather than something in exchange from you. I won't look after you for my own pleasure, but rather will lookout for whatever makes you happy. Of course, as similarly stated above, I will not neglect that I need to be happy as well, but I will make sure you know that I love you without strings attached, and don't plan to ever use you, gain something from you, or betray your trust.

Thinking about it, I used to be not so clear in the past, and did many of the above things without ever expressing that I loved the person. I've changed since, and will let her know sooner rather than later, as it's only fair for each of us to know where we are standing. Some of these symbols of love of mine were not taken as such in the past, and were constituted to be no more than friendly gestures, even though I was really loving the person. So I do recommend for INFPs to, whenever possible, make your intentions clearer-you won't be the less romantic due to it.

I guess I can only speak for myself...

I tend to ask a lot of personal questions, I suppose try to probe in a way that wouldn't make the person uncomfortable. I think I generally have a sense of what would be alright to ask and what wouldn't be... though who knows? I try to gather as much information as possible and in doing so I remain somewhat guarded about myself.

In the past when I've had a crush on someone, in group situations, I tend to zone out and not pay attention to the conversation. But if whoever I like starts talking, I'd snap out it and get engaged in what they're saying. This is probably an obvious clue lol.

Also, I relate to what IcarusDreams said, these are true for me as well:

-Words of reaffirmation-I would let you know how awesome and special you are, and will always lift your spirits. I want to see you happy and confident about yourself.

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Unique gifts (regardless price-they can be expensive or affordable), used mainly as symbols of love, that note that I've been paying attention to what you say/express. I will find out what makes you happy and give you gifts accordingly. Gifts that speak about our conversations. Gifts that honor what your ideals are. I love romantic gifts like that, and don't like gift giving to impress, but rather to express how I deeply care about you and your values.

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First time subscriber here and thought I pitch in my thoughts about falling in love as an INFP.

Falling in love requires that someone be let in which to me is very scary. I do not show that I like someone at first. I really have to get to know them. I may hide and come out for awhile and then probably give off some really confusing vibes because self-disclosure may lead to rejection and the pain of being rejected after someone knows you is really quite unbearable for me.

But once there is a reciprocated love, I am quite demonstrative and open and a romantic idealist wanting courtly love as well as passion.

In my experience as an INFP's OOA (Object Of Affection):

-stalking OOA
-trying to spend lots of time with OOA
-memorizing daily schedule of OOA
-asking OOA personal questions
-prying into OOA's life/thoughts/beliefs
-reaffirming OOA/complimenting OOA
-getting nervous/walking on eggshells around OOA
-paying excessive amounts of attention to OOA

I act differently depending on if I know he loves me back

If I don't know he loves me:
1. I'm very shy...probably more-so than usual and will not come clean about my love so as not to make our friendship awkward
2. I tend to blush profusely even if he doesn't flirt with me, but it's worse if he does flirt
3. I try so hard to impress him with things I do
4. I'll make fun of his favorte sports team if it's a team I can't stand. Dallas Cowboys = Cowgirls

If I know he loves me:
1. I'll still make fun of his favorite sports team if i can't stand them.
2. I'm a snuggler and give lots of love and kisses. My ex called me a tumor
3. I'm not afraid of PDA. The whole world shall know I love him.
4. I feel like I can communicate to him without words.

First, I get pissed at myself for breaking my own rules(love is off the menu!) From then on I can't control the intensity...

I surprise her, tell her how amazing of a woman she is, whisper things too X rated for this thread to her, just take her on a rollercoaster of emotions and endorphins.

Ahhh, love!