When people become cold and aggressive, for seemingly no reason, and you mention none here, then you simply MUST ask them why they are suddenly cold and aggressive. If you can't do that, you ARE NOT ready to be in any relationship.Hi,
I just want to share to story in a couple of words and get some advise because I do not know what to do.
My boyfriend and I are living together for 4 months. Recently I noticed that he became cold and aggressive to me sometimes.
Relationships REQUIRE communication. It's not an option in a healthy relationship. Further, if you can't communicate to other people, you have serious maturity and confidence issues. It is likely that you are letting fear run your life.
There is NOTHING specific in this wording. Unless you have specific evidence to suggest he is cheating, it is too great an accusation to lead with. Still, I BELIEVE in intuition. If your gut is screaming at you that he is cheating, maybe something like that is correct. That means maybe he IS entertaining other options. Are you in a committed relationship? Living together IS NOT a guarantee of that. You have to use your words, communicate, and get him to SAY and seem to mean, that you are in a committed relationship with him. If he will not do this, then you have your explanation right there. A TON of guys I knew about in college practiced that kind of misdirection on women all the time. They LET the woman think they were interested by actions SHE thought meant he was. But there was never any formal agreement. Other people knew, the two were just roommates. Your way of NOT COMMUNICATING is imprisoning you in a world of silence, a world of lies. Communicating openly with everyone will help you escape this prison you have chosen.And I hear the messages are constantly coming to his phone.Maybe I'm too jealous and paranoid but I think he's cheating...
Yes, you CAN and SHOULD talk to him. And certainty is not ever possible. You MUST learn to live comfortably with doubt.I can't talk to him about it cause I don't know for sure,
Regardless of whether or not he is mad or more mad, if your intuition tells you something, you should address it in communication. A mature partner will understand. If he has a too harsh reaction, that is not good on his part.maybe it's only my imagination and he will be even more mad at me.
Spying reflects poorly on you. It is not a moral aim. It is never 'worth it'.Found a lot of info on how to spy on him with a lot of different spying tools. They kind of help to read the messages on his phone secretly but I don't know whether it's worth it.