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I have nothing against INTPs at all. The INTP in question is actually on of my best friends. The deal is she has been put in a leadership position to where I (an ENFP, not an INFP as stated above, I just don't know how to change it) have to rely on her to be able to do my job. The deal is, she is a band officer and we have music play offs. Me being a raring and ready to go ENFP makes me want to play off my music ON TIME and not be kicked out. Even though she knows her music and people she can play off to are available...for some reason she doesn't do it. She doesn't understand the problems shes putting everyone in her squad in since we can't play off our music until she does, I guess.
Recently, I brought up to her face to face that she needs to go to her work because we rely on her. Instead of doing this she got very pissy saying that the reason she can't play off herself is because people won't stop playing off to her even though what they're doing is pointless since she hasn't played off yet. When I told her that she can refuse them until she gets her own business done she stormed off saying that she can't refuse anyone if they need to play off (which she can...I asked...). The next day, she still hasn't played off and it's the last day to do so. I confront her yet again telling her that she needs to play off so that I and 7 others in her squad can do so as well. Instead she says the drum majors (who she passes off to) are all busy and can't be bothered. One of them was sitting down in a seat...eating breakfast...yeah. When I told her to just go play off to him (and mistakenly, I raised my voice a little since I was pissed off at this point) she told me to just get away and it wasn't my job to tell her this stuff and walked away crying. Wow, did I feel like a horrible person.
So now...I face being taken out of the band along with 7 others and it's her fault (sounds harsh, but it's the truth) for not doing her job. I know I should back off since I'm not in charge but I'm an aggressive ENFP who likes to get everything done. How can I motivate this INTP to do her work so that I can get through okay, and she can get through without crying? She had two weeks, she knew the stuff...she didn't do it. Why? Yet again, I'm not hatin. I'm just aggravated.
Recently, I brought up to her face to face that she needs to go to her work because we rely on her. Instead of doing this she got very pissy saying that the reason she can't play off herself is because people won't stop playing off to her even though what they're doing is pointless since she hasn't played off yet. When I told her that she can refuse them until she gets her own business done she stormed off saying that she can't refuse anyone if they need to play off (which she can...I asked...). The next day, she still hasn't played off and it's the last day to do so. I confront her yet again telling her that she needs to play off so that I and 7 others in her squad can do so as well. Instead she says the drum majors (who she passes off to) are all busy and can't be bothered. One of them was sitting down in a seat...eating breakfast...yeah. When I told her to just go play off to him (and mistakenly, I raised my voice a little since I was pissed off at this point) she told me to just get away and it wasn't my job to tell her this stuff and walked away crying. Wow, did I feel like a horrible person.
So now...I face being taken out of the band along with 7 others and it's her fault (sounds harsh, but it's the truth) for not doing her job. I know I should back off since I'm not in charge but I'm an aggressive ENFP who likes to get everything done. How can I motivate this INTP to do her work so that I can get through okay, and she can get through without crying? She had two weeks, she knew the stuff...she didn't do it. Why? Yet again, I'm not hatin. I'm just aggravated.