Hi everyone!
Some of you might already be tired of seeing me asking "what's wrong with me" and whatnot... but bear with me!
So, I have a hard time making friends. I do make acquaintances easy, but I rarely connect. I have very, VERY few people who I consider friends.
Now, interestingly, two people I have spoken with through the computer (Facebook chat) have told me that I seem like the person who makes friends easily... I was never told that in person, though.
What I'm trying to say is - apparently, I'm friendly when it comes to virtual/impersonal(?) means of communication, but not when it is "real life".
How do I figure out what's "wrong" when I'm in person that I don't do when I'm on a virtual chat? Or what's right on the virtual chat that I don't do in person?
Thanks!
Hi everyone!
Some of you might already be tired of seeing me asking "what's wrong with me" and whatnot... but bear with me!
So, I have a hard time making friends. I do make acquaintances easy, but I rarely connect. I have very, VERY few people who I consider friends.
Now, interestingly, two people I have spoken with through the computer (Facebook chat) have told me that I seem like the person who makes friends easily... I was never told that in person, though.
What I'm trying to say is - apparently, I'm friendly when it comes to virtual/impersonal(?) means of communication, but not when it is "real life".
How do I figure out what's "wrong" when I'm in person that I don't do when I'm on a virtual chat? Or what's right on the virtual chat that I don't do in person?
Thanks!
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Welll, I don't know if this is your problem but some of the ENTJs I know or have known really love being social and connecting and in some more unhealthy cases selling themselves to as many people as possible.
I think that's the problem! Thank you SO MUCH!So while they can be very charming in short doses, they either don't stick around long enough to make any serious connections, or they continue to sell, sell, sell, and the person they're communicating with senses it, believes there's nothing genuine in it, and loses interest.
You have just described me PERFECTLY.
I think that's the problem! Thank you SO MUCH!
Maybe I was coming off as arrogant and uncaring...
So I guess I should try on focusing on few people and sticking with them, right? Makes total sense!
THANK YOU.
EDIT: The thing about selling myself to the biggest amount of people... you see, I'm afraid that, if I don't do that, I might end up NOT meeting a special person (not a love interest, but a special person in some way or another). Yes, everyone is special, but you know what I mean - someone who will end up really connecting with me. If I meet few people, how will I be sure to meet the right ones? Because I don't think it's possible to judge right off the bat.
(It's okay to judge people a little beforehand - it saves time)
I would agree with that if I had a different background on judging people.
I never - EVER EVER EVER - judged someone correctly.
@Shale Well... when I AM honest/open about myself in real life, I believe I scare people away - because my past history isn't "awesome" like everyone else's (I mean the people I am talking to).
So what is the "awesomeness" of which you speak? (I don't know your age so I cannot picture what life experiences makes someone "awesome")
I'm just into college, 17yo.
High School: Parties, drinking, kissing. 3 things I've never done.
Now, I don't think I did "wrong" in not doing these things - it's just me. But I don't understand why I, who don't have problems accepting people who did those things, have problems BEING accepted.
It seems they look at the past as indication of the future... I've changed so much, but people don't seem to care - if I was like that in the past, you don't belong with us.
The problem is, I would like to belong with those people because they do seem like a fun bunch!