Hello my dear INTP friends 
So I'm wondering about something at the moment:
How can an INTP (me) stop overthinking everything in regard to being in a relationship?
As soon as I have an emotion which does not fit into the picture of my "logical self" it gets denied and repressed only to leave myself feeling dull and bottled up afterwards.
It's kind of annoying for me because my SO can't really connect to the true me because of this. I think it is the fear of emotions - because I don't really understand them :S.
My IXFP gf is very compassionate with me, but I still have a very hard time to stand up for myself and get into arguments when my logic doesn't support my emotion.
Example:
I want to spend time with her. We plan spending time with each other. Her friend gets ill and is in need of some support. Our plans get cancelled.
Well I advised her to take care of her friend, because she was really in need of her help (Logic). But I was really, really frustrated that she didn't spend time with me (Emotions).
Ok I feel emotionally retarded. How do I combine those things? Stop overthinking and just be pissed at my gf although she can't do anything about it? (assuming she really has to go)
I just hold the emotion in until it bottles up to infinity and explode.
How do you deal with your emotions in a relationship? I'm kinda scared of letting them take the upper hand - since I don't understand them obviously. Surpass logic and just stand by your emotions?
And how can I be more direct in what I want? I always catch myself Ti-ing things and leaving little hints and notes and becoming frustrated when my gf doesn't catch up on them.
Any advice?
So I'm wondering about something at the moment:
How can an INTP (me) stop overthinking everything in regard to being in a relationship?
As soon as I have an emotion which does not fit into the picture of my "logical self" it gets denied and repressed only to leave myself feeling dull and bottled up afterwards.
It's kind of annoying for me because my SO can't really connect to the true me because of this. I think it is the fear of emotions - because I don't really understand them :S.
My IXFP gf is very compassionate with me, but I still have a very hard time to stand up for myself and get into arguments when my logic doesn't support my emotion.
Example:
I want to spend time with her. We plan spending time with each other. Her friend gets ill and is in need of some support. Our plans get cancelled.
Well I advised her to take care of her friend, because she was really in need of her help (Logic). But I was really, really frustrated that she didn't spend time with me (Emotions).
Ok I feel emotionally retarded. How do I combine those things? Stop overthinking and just be pissed at my gf although she can't do anything about it? (assuming she really has to go)
I just hold the emotion in until it bottles up to infinity and explode.
How do you deal with your emotions in a relationship? I'm kinda scared of letting them take the upper hand - since I don't understand them obviously. Surpass logic and just stand by your emotions?
And how can I be more direct in what I want? I always catch myself Ti-ing things and leaving little hints and notes and becoming frustrated when my gf doesn't catch up on them.
Any advice?