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Hi all, I am an ENTP. I recently got dumped by my INFP ex. My INFP ex is really depressive to the point that she was suicidal. I also think that she's afraid to trust new people as she got used a lot. She recently slipped back in to depression and I kinda pushed her buttons one time unintentionally which I really regret. She told me that she wanted to fix her life, alone, and that she does not want a relationship right now. I asked her if we could ever get back, but she just answered "I don't know". I really do love her and I want her back in my life. I also think that she's afraid I'm jsut gonna end up like her exes, leaving her when it gets rough. My question is, is there any chance we could be together again? And what are the things I should do even if we aren't in a relationship anymore? What are the things I should avoid doing?
 

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Hi all, I am an ENTP. I recently got dumped by my INFP ex. My INFP ex is really depressive to the point that she was suicidal. I also think that she's afraid to trust new people as she got used a lot. She recently slipped back in to depression and I kinda pushed her buttons one time unintentionally which I really regret. She told me that she wanted to fix her life, alone, and that she does not want a relationship right now. I asked her if we could ever get back, but she just answered "I don't know". I really do love her and I want her back in my life. I also think that she's afraid I'm jsut gonna end up like her exes, leaving her when it gets rough. My question is, is there any chance we could be together again? And what are the things I should do even if we aren't in a relationship anymore? What are the things I should avoid doing?
the first thing you need to do is back off & let her be. Leave it for at least 4 weeks & then send her a short message telling her that you hope she's ok & to not hesitate to ping you if you can help. Be honest & authentic - it's ok - tell her you're hurting but you really do understand & she's important enough to you that you will wait. If she tells you it really is over after that, dude - move on.

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She means every letter of that 'i don't know'. She needs time to process on her own, and as the poster above said a month is a good time to check in. You've already hurt her in the past so you are already in the negative. If you asked me it is unlikely you will get back together. Avoid saying anything other than 'how are you?' or something along those lines. The reply you get will determine where you are in her life.
 

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it sounds like you hurt her and pushed her in ways she didnt like. She is also suicidal, the last thing you should be doing is finding a way back in with her in a relationship. Leave her be. Be as supportive as possible as a good friend, and if that itself doesnt appeal to her or makes things hard on her, move back and let her deal with things in a life without you.
 
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