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How to woo an ESTP female.

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I'm interested in an ESTP classmate of mine. What sort of things do I say to start up a conversation with her?
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Talk to her like any other girl? I don't know her, we don't have some collective ESTP connection where we all have meetings to decide as a group what we like. It's the enneagram that would give you better idea of what her interests/motives are rather than her Jung/MBTI type.
Talk to her like any other girl? I don't know her, we don't have some collective ESTP connection where we all have meetings to decide as a group what we like. It's the enneagram that would give you better idea of what her interests/motives are rather than her Jung/MBTI type.
Oh Fizz come on, you know we're all interested in the latest episode of Jersey Shore and how hot -insert ridiculous name here- is.
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Oh Fizz come on, you know we're all interested in the latest episode of Jersey Shore and how hot -insert ridiculous name here- is.
Damn it! Don't foil our secrets!
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It doesn't matter what you say. Just hit her over the head with your club and drag her back to your cave. Then don't forget the shackles.
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It doesn't matter what you say. Just hit her over the head with your club and drag her back to your cave. Then don't forget the shackles.
I forgot the shackles once... ESTP's bite.
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Is there a thread about how to get rid of an ESTP male? In a nice way?
Is there a thread about how to get rid of an ESTP male? In a nice way?

Tell him the truth and why you want to get rid of him. It's the nicest thing you can do.
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Is there a thread about how to get rid of an ESTP male? In a nice way?
Create a TV series based on him and you.
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I'm interested in an ESTP classmate of mine. What sort of things do I say to start up a conversation with her?
Doesn't really matter what you say, just suprise and interest her, ask her something she wouldn't expect you say.

Is there a thread about how to get rid of an ESTP male? In a nice way?
Just give him too much attention, act as if you want to tie him down, be too expressive with your feelings.. He'll run away from you as fast as he can..
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I'm interested in an ESTP classmate of mine. What sort of things do I say to start up a conversation with her?
Dude, you're an ISTP. Observe her, gather subject matter... then hit her over the head and drag her back to your cave. Use previously collected subject matter to keep her around willingly after the fact.
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Doesn't really matter what you say, just suprise and interest her, ask her something she wouldn't expect you say.


Just give him too much attention, act as if you want to tie him down, be too expressive with your feelings.. He'll run away from you as fast as he can..
LOL, I can't do that!

And for the record I have told him I'm not interested, he didn't get the message.
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I've come close to wooing an ESTP female twice and did it the same way both times....

Both times were 8 w 7 ESTP females as well. The first time: I was at this Pastor friend of mine's house and he had a huge social gathering for a dinner one day. Anyway, there was this really bossy bitch that was ordering everyone around and being a total bitch. She was interesting and had pink hair and was clearly very artistic. Anyway, she tried to order my ass around and when the food was ready for the dinner, she told me to forcefully, "Get up!". But, I wasn't gonna take that shit from her and told her, "Kiss my ass, you aren't going to talk to me like that". She then said, "Damn it! I said get up! I then said, "Fucking, make me lady!" She then got super pissed, and kept harassing me when I was getting dinner and poking fun at everything that I did. It was getting pretty damn annoying, but I just didn't let it bother me. Finally, it's like I had passed some crazy test of hers, and she then started chatting to me with open arms. The girl was a senior in high school, and then started chatting me with, and trying to get all cozy with me and shit. I could clearly tell that she would have let me have sex with her, but then I found out that she was only 17. I originally thought she was 18, but once I found out she was only 17, I left her alone cuz I didn't want to go to jail.

The second time was in a similar situation. I took a job where I was selling sports plaques all over the state of Wisconsin when the Packers won the super bowl. Anyway, I went to one bar and started to try and peddle my plaques there. There I met really hot blonde was who was loud as fuck at the bar, and seemed to have an opinion on everything. I then approached her with my plaques. She told me she was a huge Packer fan and wanted to see my plaques. I then told her that the pictures were taken at Lambough field where the Packers played. We then got into this huge argument about whether the pics were real or not because other people had become interested in purchasing the plaques as well, so I had to prove their authenticity. Finally I found a way to prove their authenticity and I began to get to know her better. She seemed to be very turned on by me because apparently not that many people would stand up to her like that. She even began to put her arms around me and get up in my face like she wanted to kiss me. It was crazy. I really think that I could have fucked her, but then I realized that I had to go and had a meeting to attend. Like a dumbass I forgot to get her number.
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Tell her "bitch you ain't got shit on this."

She'll be all like,



Then its smooth sailing after that.
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I've come close to wooing an ESTP female twice and did it the same way both times....

Both times were 8 w 7 ESTP females as well. The first time: I was at this Pastor friend of mine's house and he had a huge social gathering for a dinner one day. Anyway, there was this really bossy bitch that was ordering everyone around and being a total bitch. She was interesting and had pink hair and was clearly very artistic. Anyway, she tried to order my ass around and when the food was ready for the dinner, she told me to forcefully, "Get up!". But, I wasn't gonna take that shit from her and told her, "Kiss my ass, you aren't going to talk to me like that". She then said, "Damn it! I said get up! I then said, "Fucking, make me lady!" She then got super pissed, and kept harassing me when I was getting dinner and poking fun at everything that I did. It was getting pretty damn annoying, but I just didn't let it bother me. Finally, it's like I had passed some crazy test of hers, and she then started chatting to me with open arms. The girl was a senior in high school, and then started chatting me with, and trying to get all cozy with me and shit. I could clearly tell that she would have let me have sex with her, but then I found out that she was only 17. I originally thought she was 18, but once I found out she was only 17, I left her alone cuz I didn't want to go to jail.

The second time was in a similar situation. I took a job where I was selling sports plaques all over the state of Wisconsin when the Packers won the super bowl. Anyway, I went to one bar and started to try and peddle my plaques there. There I met really hot blonde was who was loud as fuck at the bar, and seemed to have an opinion on everything. I then approached her with my plaques. She told me she was a huge Packer fan and wanted to see my plaques. I then told her that the pictures were taken at Lambough field where the Packers played. We then got into this huge argument about whether the pics were real or not because other people had become interested in purchasing the plaques as well, so I had to prove their authenticity. Finally I found a way to prove their authenticity and I began to get to know her better. She seemed to be very turned on by me because apparently not that many people would stand up to her like that. She even began to put her arms around me and get up in my face like she wanted to kiss me. It was crazy. I really think that I could have fucked her, but then I realized that I had to go and had a meeting to attend. Like a dumbass I forgot to get her number.
Hehe, thank you.
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Hehe, thank you.
So basically, put her ass in check, don't let her boss you around, stand up to her, show her that you are a strong person, and show her that you are a fun person to be around. That's my spark notes version.
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Be unconventional!

I can't stand guys that just agree with everybody. Show how different you are, then she'll be interested in getting to know your true self.

But also, don't fall in love too fast, you can't force ESTP's to fall for you, so beware :)
Be unconventional!

I can't stand guys that just agree with everybody. Show how different you are, then she'll be interested in getting to know your true self.

But also, don't fall in love too fast, you can't force ESTP's to fall for you, so beware :)
Which brings me to another key point....INDIFFERENCE. You can't be desperate and just have to have a "I really don't give a shit whether I seduce her successfully or not" attitude. When seducing the ESTP female, one must be confident and bold, and if you come off as one off these weak, nervous mother fuckers....you will almost undoubtedly fail at your goal
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So basically, put her ass in check, don't let her boss you around, stand up to her, show her that you are a strong person, and show her that you are a fun person to be around. That's my spark notes version.
That must be a piece of cake!
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That must be a piece of cake!
It should be a cake walk for you yes. According to your functions, you use hardly any feeling functions and a shitload of thinking functions. This probably means that you don't take much shit from anyone naturally. Plus, you are an ENTJ and speaks for itself. So this really should be a problem for you.

Here is more advice I can give you....

If you are an ENTJ you are probably really planned. You like to have a tight schedule, know what's going on, aren't good at being spontaneous, and may take things too seriously. This could be a potential problem for trying to get with an ESTP because you can't be overly planned with the ESTP. ESTP's are some of the most spontaneous people out there. The vast majority live in the present moment, and don't plan jack shit. If you ask 9/10 ESTP's what they are doing tomorrow you won't get a classic ENTJ answer like: "Well I have this to do, then this, then this, and I may have some free time here." No, with ESTP's you get, "Well I don't really know. We'll just have to see what happens." Also you have learn to come off as fun to be around the ESTP. ESTP types are hedonists and love to have fun. If ESTP women see you as uptight and boring then they'll give you a boot.

So in other words, try not to be as planned around the ESTP, and try not to be so uptight.
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