I think I've stopped talking to women in attempts to see if they come talk to me, because I didn't want to seem clingy.
But now I'm starting to think I have no reason to believe I'm clingy.
i completely disagree with this. sounds like a pointless game and manipulation. something i wouldnt do. i would however ignore the partner, but there is no test involved. im just mentally done with your bullshit.So supposedly ISTP's are prone to hurt their partners as a means to test their love?
How do you think this manifests itself, and do you think you do this?
I've never hurt someone to test their love but I do sometimes screw with people to test them in other ways.So supposedly ISTP's are prone to hurt their partners as a means to test their love?
I've noticed that some ISTPs can get kind of clingy when they fall in love. A friend of mine was with an ISTP a while ago and she eventually had to dump him for being so emotionally attached.But I sincerely doubt you're clingy. Some woman out there will find your level of attention exactly to her liking. At least, that's what I believe should happen. "Lots of fish in the sea" and "the perfect one is out there somewhere" and all that happy crappy bullshit people say when you just broke up with someone awesome.
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You kind of got me there - I don't think I got "clingy" with my last boyfriend, but I definitely was so excited by the experience of being with him and having someone who "got" me that I spent a great deal of time trying to repeat the high. When combined with his intense introversion and his poor self image, it was maybe the perfect storm. But (as someone said to me in a private messageI've noticed that some ISTPs can get kind of clingy when they fall in love. A friend of mine was with an ISTP a while ago and she eventually had to dump him for being so emotionally attached.
I disagree with this also for all the reasons previously listed. It'd take too much effort, a waste of time, is self-defeating, and is a really shitty thing to do.So supposedly ISTP's are prone to hurt their partners as a means to test their love?
How do you think this manifests itself, and do you think you do this?
Just cause you're not doing it on purpose doesn't mean you're not doing it.i completely disagree with this. sounds like a pointless game and manipulation. something i wouldnt do. i would however ignore the partner, but there is no test involved. im just mentally done with your bullshit.
It just comes down to perception, don't you think? I don't believe we're subconsciously "hurting" loved ones to see how far we can play them, or to test the validity of their affection. Even if it was on a subconscious level, how on earth would that work into the ISTP framework, anyway?Just cause you're not doing it on purpose doesn't mean you're not doing it.
Yes, and honesty.It just comes down to perception, don't you think?
Of course you don't believe it.I don't believe we're subconsciously "hurting" loved ones to see how far we can play them, or to test the validity of their affection. Even if it was on a subconscious level, how on earth would that work into the ISTP framework, anyway?
The most common human need is to love and be loved.I'm pretty simple - I can't wrap my head around why (anyone, but particularly) an ISTP would, consciously or subconsciously, set out to harm others for their own psychological benefit. It just doesn't wash with me.
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In that case, then, I would imagine that *everyone* does this at a subconscious level - it wouldn't be exclusive to ISTPs.The most common human need is to love and be loved.
In socionics the ISTP hidden agenda is to be loved.
Much of your behaviour is structured around achieving that goal.
Everyone does it, but the question is how does it manifest itself and how to others percieve it?In that case, then, I would imagine that *everyone* does this at a subconscious level - it wouldn't be exclusive to ISTPs.
How come this clingy stuff seems to contradict everything else I hear about ISTPs and emotions? My ISTP told me he was the most emotional out of 6 boys. I don't get how that ties in with being ISTP. (Or maybe he just doesn't express his emotional side often, but he feels things deeply?)I've noticed that some ISTPs can get kind of clingy when they fall in love. A friend of mine was with an ISTP a while ago and she eventually had to dump him for being so emotionally attached.