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Hey I am an INTP and I carpool with an ESFP like once a month. We work together, but in different buildings. We have a great connection (at least in my opinion) and I have known her for about 10 months. ESFP's confuse me in general; I can never tell how she feels about me, it seems to be always changing!
Anways she has a boyfriend whom she lives with, so that is pretty serious (She never talks about him, but I have met him several times). The thing is, I am starting to develop feelings, and it sucks. I have had an experience with an ESFP before, and I end up feeling used for some reason. So I am trying to figure out some of her confusing behavior. It's just small, petty actions that I don't care about. But I find the overall behavior puzzling. If any ESPP's are familiar with some of the following behaviors, I'd appreciate it.
-Tries to play powergames and will lie / guilt trip me if I calmy call her out on her bullshit.
(i.e. it was her turn to carpool and she just implied it was my turn, twice)
-I left a message on her voicemail past weekend about a work-related issue and she did not call me back, or e-mail me. And another time I asked her for a work document and she never e-mailed it to me. Just acting passive aggressive in general.
-Has been somewhat shy recently, and is really quiet-almost sad look to her.
-Will playfully tease me
So I am just being neurotic, but I do not like someone trying to manipulate my feelings at all. Like I said we have a good connection and the above is rare occurence. Is this girl just using me for attention and should I forget about her? Could anyone clue me in who is an ESFP themself or familiar with ESFPs? I tend to be socially oblivious and its like this girl is like a social master. And I that is why I like her so much lol.
Anways she has a boyfriend whom she lives with, so that is pretty serious (She never talks about him, but I have met him several times). The thing is, I am starting to develop feelings, and it sucks. I have had an experience with an ESFP before, and I end up feeling used for some reason. So I am trying to figure out some of her confusing behavior. It's just small, petty actions that I don't care about. But I find the overall behavior puzzling. If any ESPP's are familiar with some of the following behaviors, I'd appreciate it.
-Tries to play powergames and will lie / guilt trip me if I calmy call her out on her bullshit.
(i.e. it was her turn to carpool and she just implied it was my turn, twice)
-I left a message on her voicemail past weekend about a work-related issue and she did not call me back, or e-mail me. And another time I asked her for a work document and she never e-mailed it to me. Just acting passive aggressive in general.
-Has been somewhat shy recently, and is really quiet-almost sad look to her.
-Will playfully tease me
So I am just being neurotic, but I do not like someone trying to manipulate my feelings at all. Like I said we have a good connection and the above is rare occurence. Is this girl just using me for attention and should I forget about her? Could anyone clue me in who is an ESFP themself or familiar with ESFPs? I tend to be socially oblivious and its like this girl is like a social master. And I that is why I like her so much lol.