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My Mom tested as ENTJ...I had her pegged as ISFP because her functions coincide with ISFP. She is a very complicated person though. She is very friendly, empathetic, apologetic, makes friendly small talk, etc. She adores taking care of her family and friends in terms of hosting, feeding them well, making them comfortable, and values traditions and rituals such as celebrating every birthday and special date, etc. she also lets my Dad rule the roost for the most part.
So when she told me she was ENTJ I immediately thought she didn't answer the questions correctly. I called her to go over the functions with her and I was shocked by what she told me...she said she was a completely different person before she found God. She said she wasn't very nice. Of course, this doesn't mean ENTJ's aren't nice people, it is how she perceived herself.
Anyway, she has a rock solid faith in God and I believe he is her deep personal "high standard" and deal breaker. She said God says men are in charge of the home, therefore she let my Dad be in charge...I don't share her same beliefs, but I keep it to myself. She further explained that in the past, she was always very assertive at work and naturally took charge, she didn't let many people in and trusts very few. She didnt care what others thought of her choices, and didn't care if it hurt their feelings. She also strategizes and plans. I am just stunned by all of this. She even asked my Dad while I was the phone "would you say I was different before I found God?" I heard my Dad say "an extremely different person".
Correct me if I'm wrong (which I know you will, if I am
but her numbers are all low except for J. She was 11/12/11/56 or something very close to that. So, because she most certainly utilizes the functions of an ISFP and the functions of an ENTJ, is it possible that she has learned how to live her life in her shadow relatively easily and happily?
When I told my Husband all of this, he immediately said "she must be living in hell". I can see what he's saying, but she seems truly happy. Perhaps her core personal standard of God is just that rock solid? When I look back on my childhood I can most certainly see ENTJ over ISFP now that I think about it. ISFP seems to fit how she is now. Either way, this is completely fascinating to me.
What do you think of this as an ENTJ? Would it be extremely hard for you to live in your shadow functions? Can you relate to any of this?
By the way, my Dad is ENTJ as well, which I HIGHLY suspected
So when she told me she was ENTJ I immediately thought she didn't answer the questions correctly. I called her to go over the functions with her and I was shocked by what she told me...she said she was a completely different person before she found God. She said she wasn't very nice. Of course, this doesn't mean ENTJ's aren't nice people, it is how she perceived herself.
Anyway, she has a rock solid faith in God and I believe he is her deep personal "high standard" and deal breaker. She said God says men are in charge of the home, therefore she let my Dad be in charge...I don't share her same beliefs, but I keep it to myself. She further explained that in the past, she was always very assertive at work and naturally took charge, she didn't let many people in and trusts very few. She didnt care what others thought of her choices, and didn't care if it hurt their feelings. She also strategizes and plans. I am just stunned by all of this. She even asked my Dad while I was the phone "would you say I was different before I found God?" I heard my Dad say "an extremely different person".
Correct me if I'm wrong (which I know you will, if I am
When I told my Husband all of this, he immediately said "she must be living in hell". I can see what he's saying, but she seems truly happy. Perhaps her core personal standard of God is just that rock solid? When I look back on my childhood I can most certainly see ENTJ over ISFP now that I think about it. ISFP seems to fit how she is now. Either way, this is completely fascinating to me.
What do you think of this as an ENTJ? Would it be extremely hard for you to live in your shadow functions? Can you relate to any of this?
By the way, my Dad is ENTJ as well, which I HIGHLY suspected