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You can stop masturbating all together, to get more sensitive.

note i am on medication
Solved. Get better -> stop medicating -> start ejaculating eventually. :)
 
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Oh I read it as "not medicating"
if you are on drugs like antidepressants they can have that effect. It's still possible just might need more effort
 

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A vagina may not have the same grip as your hand (dependent upon what you prefer while jacking off) It could be you are desensitized and as someone above mentions---lay of masturbating or it could be your medicine. Or it could be your head space. If you are using porn to get off every time then that could be the issue. Porn is not real and it would take that level of visual to get you turned on enough to get off. *shrugs* Good luck!
 

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i can ejaculate when i masturbate but during sex i cant?,i can get a hard on but just cant finish or ejaculate any help?note i am on medication
Are you wearing a condom?
 
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many medications cause this, and most of them don't mention this side effect unless you look them up in the fine print (if at all). Especially Anti-depressants, muscle relaxers, anxiety meds, and pain medications. For some of them, when you take your meds changes the degree of this effect. Like muscle relaxers and pain meds, the effect tapers off after about 6 hours.

Change your masturbation style, perhaps a toy like a flesh light. It's closer to the real thing than a hand, and you can position it in a way that simulates intercourse. Then you can "practice" with out the stress of another person.
 

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9o without slappin9 your ham for about 4 days, and wait until or have become relaxed with your partner.
 

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i can ejaculate when i masturbate but during sex i cant?,i can get a hard on but just cant finish or ejaculate any help?note i am on medication
Anti depressants will do that to you. Tell your doctor you have this problem and get the SSRIs switched out for something else. Trust me, that's your issue
 

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Used to have this issue. I masturbated long before I had sex for the first time (late to the dating scene, not abnormally early to the masturbating scene). I was too used to myself. I just had to get my experience in and it solved itself eventually. Don't know if this applies to OP or not.
 

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Used to have this issue. I masturbated long before I had sex for the first time (late to the dating scene, not abnormally early to the masturbating scene). I was too used to myself. I just had to get my experience in and it solved itself eventually. Don't know if this applies to OP or not.
nice tell me more about what you mean by this post?
 

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There are plenty of possibilities
It is the medication.
You are anxious.
You might need extended foreplay.
Your partner might not be the right one.
You're sticking it in the toaster.
 

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There are plenty of possibilities
It is the medication.
You are anxious.
You might need extended foreplay.
Your partner might not be the right one.
You're sticking it in the toaster.
or thought you were going to say.''you sticking in the poop hole' lol no im sticking it in the blender
 

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@naren - props to you for making a thread and asking about this so publicly. I don't think many men would really talk about this (or we are really the only ones out there).

You're not alone, it is something that doesn't seem to happen with me either, no matter who I ''interact'' with. The only real difference I have been able to pinpoint is having proper levels of horniness. So in all in this lifetime I may have only ejaculate twice (without using my own hand) or so due to close proximity of someone else (it were girls in these instances).
However this is like 10 years ago, in the meantime I've had my fair share of experimenting with sex (both guys/girls). Also I had a longterm relationship with a girl which I always found really attractive and I think I came very close to climaxing a couple of times with her. Usually it worked better the more she was into it as well, so i'm also quite affected by the horniness levels of the other. You just want to be really wanted.

Why all this is like this I do not know, but I know it is possible to quite effortlessly ejaculate when I am super horny, which frankly almost never happens. So I think it is mostly psychological in my case, which may be for you as well.
Sure, I believe a too firm hand-grip and porn can partly rewire your brain to which it may be less likely you get off in other ways, but I also know that if someone makes me very horny to the point I can't contain myself, that it easily works ''downstairs'' just fine.

You may respond to some specific fetishjes or fantasies better as well. Turn up the kink or excitement. But that takes someone to trust well and trusting they are committed to you. I know for example that I respond well somehow to when someone speaks naughty/dirty to me or downright taunts or humiliates me. I know I am not a submissive person, but I surely like to play like one in the bedroom I think. Why? Who knows, it is like it is and what works works. No shame!

Anyway, I actually bought some sextoys lately to see if i can uncover more things (I never had any, so why not see what happens?). Also I will try and see how much difference it will make if i can reduce death-grip hand masturbation (i got a FleshLight, it worked for ejaculating, but only when I ramp up my own horniness levels --- doesnt always work).

Also, it is no secret to me that the prostate can do magic, you may respond well to that too. If you know the tricks you may already start leaking down there without touching it or without even being erect.

But ''simply put'', I think most part is about becoming proper horny - and your dick will feel like it explodes quite effortlessly (like it seems to do for most men regardless). I am not sure if you can relate to that, but it would be my two cents.

So yeah, like others suggested it might help to lay of the masturbation and reduce watching and sexual content (if you do that), because that is sort of making yourself artificially horny.

It is not like girls ever complained with me though, because I can go on for quite some time LMAO - though my ex got a bit insecure after a while.... But yeah... it's nice if things just happen during the act some time.
 
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