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Life quality with age

  • I generally enjoy life less as I get older

    Votes: 1 9.1%
  • It depends, but overall there is a downward trend

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • It's SO circumstantial, I don't think there is much of a trend

    Votes: 2 18.2%
  • It depends, but overall there is an upward trend

    Votes: 4 36.4%
  • I generally enjoy life more as I get older

    Votes: 4 36.4%
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When I was a teen, and afterwards going through my quarter-life crisis as an early20s (which btw, I think has replaced the mid-life crisis.. people are so conscious of avoiding mid-life regrets that early life anxiety and craziness has become more prevalent- at least that is my half-baked theory), a huge fear of mine was that growing into adulthood would be incredibly dull...

At that age you are doing all these exciting things- I was traveling/partying/socialising a lot, discovering a lot.. It seemed impossible that I would adjust to being that adult stereotype where your bedtime gets ever earlier and club nights are replaced by dinner parties, etc. But at the age of 26, which is probably near a sort of median for transitioning between youth and adulthood- I find that while I am still "young", I am most certainly on this journey.

The average age of people I prefer talking to? around 30... as a postgrad I've been to a few events with undergrads, where just a few years ago I was right at home- now they bore the crap out of me. A 30+ year old is INFINITELY more interesting! They have actual life stories, they have advice, they have perspective, they have accumulated intelligence.

I may be less adventurous with each passing year, but life also gets better with each passing year. I actually know what I am doing now, and can make choices I know will have a good result, rather than just trying and hoping....


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Strangely, the older I get the more I feel my life is slipping away from me and the more driven I feel.

I remember the girl who "wasted" enormous chunks of her teen years reading books instead of doing things.

Now, I find it hard to stop doing things and to start wasting time reading books. :p
 

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It's all real. My love for my family intensifies-- I think that was something I worried about earlier. You become more powerful in what you're trying to accomplish on earth and have true experience. It's not boring. Not at all.
@angelcat I have totally admired you as someone working hard on her dreams and basically I'm trying to be more like you! Getting that book written!
 
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Life is getting more and more stressful and consequences of deliberate psychological liquidation by other people in first 16 years of my life are becoming more and more severe. I was cheated out of my life and I'm perfectly aware of what was done to me and I'm talking about it to people but they just don't care. Almost everyone wants me dead.
Over last 4 years, I feel increasing hatred towards humans.
 

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Life is getting more and more stressful and consequences of deliberate psychological liquidation by other people in first 16 years of my life are becoming more and more severe. I was cheated out of my life and I'm perfectly aware of what was done to me and I'm talking about it to people but they just don't care. Almost everyone wants me dead.
Over last 4 years, I feel increasing hatred towards humans.
Stop looking back. It will suck out your soul.

Look forward.
 

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Life is getting more and more stressful and consequences of deliberate psychological liquidation by other people in first 16 years of my life are becoming more and more severe. I was cheated out of my life and I'm perfectly aware of what was done to me and I'm talking about it to people but they just don't care. Almost everyone wants me dead.
Over last 4 years, I feel increasing hatred towards humans.
I'd be interested to hear your story. Would you care to elaborate?
 
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Stop looking back. It will suck out your soul.

Look forward.
It doesn't work like that. The point of psychological liquidation is damaging brain (areas responsible for memory, attention, emotional regulation, etc.) of the victim so no matter what direction I look at. Also, I don't have anything to look forward to because the society wants me dead.

The old psychology starting with Freud was focused on blaming the victim, even denying abuse (Freud was specializing in denying child abuse and inventing fake diagnoses like "female hysteria" or "penis envy" or "incestous fantasies" - because he was paid by family of the victims, that is the abusers - he delayed the discovery of PTSD and fucked over next generations of victims, war veterans, etc. because of his corruption) and inventing bullshit about "escaping into illness" from stress and various stuff like that while reality is that trauma can cause sensitization to stress, biological changes in brain, weakening immune system, etc.

I'm not looking back in sense of living in memories but in sense of knowing where I come from, what abilities I used to have, how they were taken away from me, etc.

Currently, I'm trying to learn programming but it's very hard due to problems with memory and . I can study in very little part of free time that I have. I started the course in late April and it's about 100 hours long, so if I wouldn't have damaged attention and memory, I'd finish it in May.

My main problem is the future, namely the world wanting me dead for being subjected to psychological liquidation by it.

I'd be interested to hear your story. Would you care to elaborate?
It begins in the bottom.
 

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I'm still learning since I'm in my early twenties. I remember my brother said to me,"Life ain't a race. If you want to do shit right it doesn't matter how long you take as long as you get there." I was very anxious before, I dreamed of having and experiencing everything NOW. Things shouldn't be rushed. It's a process, but the anxiety isn't as present as before and I can enjoy myself and the ride (however how slow or fast paced it may be) and I'm enjoying life. Needless to say, I'm going to graduate soon. Fuck yes.
 

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I think my childhood was the happiest. Got bullied badly during my highschool years, then struggled with mental illness as a young adult. Even now, I'm feeling a bit lost and experiancing a bit of conflict within my family. Hopefully by the time I'm 30, I'll be somewhere worthwhile and happy (28 and not quite there).
 

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I remember enjoying parts of my life and being happy in most ages that I have been. I have dealt with depression and anxiety, I guess that was when I was starting out working and when I had jobs that didn't really fit. I don't really have a job that fits now but I am more peaceful about it. I guess that yes, I am more content and ok with my life, not where I am but more so who I am. I have been through therapy and am more prone to seek help instead of ignoring it and letting it go. I realized something big about my relationship with my mother that let me move on that was really helpful to my emotional well being.

I am just not sure about calling it my capacity to enjoy life. I have always had that in me, have always known I had it, always felt it's presence even when I could not access it. I think it is more about being content and being more in touch with what I need. That is what I have found as I grew older but I had to examine things about myself and work towards this. I still am working towards this.
 

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people are so conscious of avoiding mid-life regrets that early life anxiety and craziness has become more prevalent
That's what I went through: in my early 20s, I was always anxious about not losing my time and "prime", to the extent that, say, being 21, I saw people doing something I found cool when they were 19, and told myself: oh it's tooooo late for me to begin!!:angry: There was too much of ever-present self-consciousness. I was afraid of getting older and entering to this regretful adult life; of having no more opportunity to change, enjoy, gain power, have the joy of life, be physically attractive.. name it! I felt very firmly like I lost the time to experience many new things. And the anxiety actually prevented me from realizing what I needed to do.
I started to use many of my hidden potentials at 26, while before, I wrongly believed that you must have done all before you reach 25. Now I'm getting more mature and know much better what to do to satisfy my needs, and feel much more powerful than my early 20s. Looking back, I really didn't know how to navigate my life those days.
An interesting point is that people say the late teens/early 20s are the best age for love, but I swear, I'm much better at it now.
 
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