I'm having a hard time choosing my words here, but I'll try my best to help as much as I can. Relationships are extremely difficult to handle because healthy ones require both parties present be equally responsible for creating something together. "Traditionally" speaking, (and I cannot stress this enough) -- I mean no offense by using "traditional" as my example of choice-- It's the male's "job" to initiate and the female's to reciprocate or respectfully decline. Unfortunately, we're talking about a scenario in which the subject of affection is a repeat customer where you are the employee. Ethically speaking, it is considered "inappropriate" to do it and for good reason: it over-complicates things which are already complicated to begin with. In short, it makes for bad bedfellows and the aftermath of a potential fallout afterwards could have dire consequences that range from civil to criminal liabilities; or in some cases, both. I guess what I'm saying is that 'love' is a gamble. Even if this girl doesn't reject you flat out, there's always a potential deal breaker that's going to rear its ugly head around the next corner. What I don't feel comfortable with is the fact she just broke up with her boyfriend. If you're not careful, you very well could be heading towards a rebound relationship. Are rebound relationships bad you ask? It varies from person to person. This is why I said earlier that whoever you choose to be with should already be an extension of who you already are. If you date a girl under false pretenses, rest assured... it will come to light eventually. If you care about your job, I would let her go; despite developing feelings for her. If you don't care about your job or any potential ramifications coming as a result of asking the girl out on a date, you've got more than enough wiggle room to spare.Thank you again for the answers. Now, my question is, isn't it off to ask for doing something out of the blue? Shouldn't I have to create a bond with her and then take a step forward?
All that being said, you need to ask yourself one important question: Is it love, lust, an infatuation, or is it limerance?
Love - an intense feeling of deep affection
Lust - a very strong sexual desire
Infatuation - An intense but short-lived passion or admiration for someone or something
Limerance - the state of being infatuated or obsessed with another person, typically experienced involuntarily and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship
Determining which bracket you fall into will determine the course of action required. And just so we're all clear, I know EXACTLY what limerance is and feels like. Which is why I got so heated in the first place. I've been struggling with my own limerance battle for over 20 years.