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Hey there! Most times that I've taken the test, I have gotten INFP. However after reading into the other types I'm now not so sure I am an INFP. I identify
alot with the profiles and forums of INFP, INFJ, and ISFP.

I have looked at the different cognitive functions but most of the time, I don't really understand what they mean. I guess it would be helpful to have some
real life examples of the functions in action. I'm not sure I even understand some of the meanings of the questions in the various tests that I've taken.
That may have affected my results too.

It would be great to hear what you folk here at PerC think :) I'll list things about my personality! Sorry if it's long!

*I like socialising with friends but I also like time to myself. So if I feel like I've had no alone time in a while, I'll stop going out and just stay in by
myself. I might even make excuses.
*When I'm in this phase, I'll just hang out in my room by myself and listen to music, dance like nobody is watching, read, watch tv, watch movies or browse
the internet.
*After a while of not socialising, I might start to feel lonely, get negative thoughts and begin to think that I have no life. Then I'll start socialising
and feel happy again.
*I wouldn't aproach a stranger and just start talking to them, although in my job I have to approach customers and I have no problem doing this or
interacting with them.
*If someone approached me though, I would happily talk away to them.
*I have no problem approaching strangers when I'm drunk!

*I think it's hard to get to know me because I don't like talking about myself. I don't know why but I don't even like talking about my interests or giving
my thoughts and opinions on things. Probably because I'm scared people will think I'm weird or won't like me. However, the more I get to know someone and the
more time we spend together, the more likely I am to share things.
*My closest friends probably think I'm loud and extraverted whereas 'aquaintances' probably think I'm quiet and introverted.
*Sometimes 'aquaintances' who haven't gotten to know me at all, think I'm snobby, which couldn't be anymore further from the truth!
*I never talk about my feelings, problems or things that are bothering or worrying me. Not even with my closest friends. I dream of being able to open upto
people.
* My friends are much more likely to hear me share these types of things when I'm drunk.

Can I just say here, I am not an alcoholic!

*In group situations with people I don't know, I tend to listen and observe rather than speak up.
*I would absolutley dread having to give a presentaion to a large group of people.
*I much prefer one on one conversations with people I don't know and I can be quite talkative. I prefer it when the other person leads the conversation but I
do ask lots of questions too.
*I feel awkward when silences occur in conversations with people I don't know and some acquaintances. I don't mind sitting in silence with people I'm really
close to.
*When going on a date, I really worry beforehand that I won't know what to say, or will have nothing to talk about or that my mind will go blank and that my
date will find me boring.
*Nervousness can make me really talkative.
*When in a one on one situation and the other person isn't talking and doesn't seem to know what to say, I start talking, rambling on about random crap, just
to keep the conversation going and to stop awkward silences.

* When around other people, my mood will reflect their mood. Eg. If I'm with someone who's feeling down, I'll feel down too or if they're happy, I'll feel
happy.
*I can usually tell how someone is feeling immediately.
*I am very good at recognising who has feelings for who, although I'm not so good at recognising guy's feelings for me. I spotted an affair in work months
before anyone else started to notice and it eventually came out.
*In my job I find it easy to tell which customers need help and those who don't.
*In my job I sometimes have to give quotes and I always know before giving the customer the quote whether they will place an order or not.
*I do feel at times as though I have a sixth sense.
*The day my granny died, I was out of the country and I just knew something bad like that had happened. There were no tell tale signs that my granny was
unhealthy or ill at the time.
*If I've arranged to do something with someone, I might get a feeling earlier that day or something that they are going to cancel on me and then they do.
*Sometimes I suddenly think of someone I haven't seen in years and it's unlikely for me to bump into them. But then later that day or week, I'll see them!
*This also happens with songs that I haven't heard in ages.

*I like to try and understand people's motives.
*When other people are involved in arguments, I like to look at both sides to see where they are coming from and to see how the issue can be resolved.
*I myself am not argumentative and very rarely get involved in any kind of conflict.
*If I find myself in an argument, it's because someone else started it.
*When I do get into an argument, I listen to the other person, try and understand them, try to get them to listen and understand me and from there, either
resolve the issue or come to sort of compromise. I don't mind agreeing to disagreeing as long as we're friends again after and remain civil.
*I don't hold grudges and I easily forgive and forget. Life is too short.

*I am a positive person and for the most part optimistic.
*I very rarely get stressed out.
*I'd say I'm quite calm although sometimes I may be freaking out on the inside, when it comes to exams and interviews for example.
*I try to see the best in everyone.
*I'm very accepting.
*I'm non judgemental.
*I like to get to know people before I form any opinions about them.
*I might listen to others' opionons about people, but I'll always form my own opinions.
*I do not like to take sides and think it's wrong to expect others to do so.
*I'm very easygoing compared to most people. It takes a lot to annoy, anger or upset me. There's no point getting hung up on little things.
*I get embarrassed when people pay me compliments.

*I much prefer texting and emailing to speaking on the phone.
*I find it very hard to express myself coherently when speaking.
*I might know what I mean in my head, but I don't know how to express it verbally.
*I am crap at story telling! I need to explain everything even if it's not important to the point of the story. Some of my friends actually tell me just to
get to the point.
*Sometimes I lose my train of thought and then start rambling on about something else before remembering what I was talking about in the first place.
*I don't know 'big words' and never use them although I may understand them when other people use them.
*I hate texts which use lots of big words. It makes it hard for me to understand them.
*I have a rubbish memory. Sometimes my friend recalls memories from years ago involving both of us. She remembers every single little detail, whilst I'll
have little or usually no recollection of the event at all!!!
*Sometimes, I'll be doing something and have to go off and do something else only to forget what I was doing in the first place.
*I think I repress memories or just choose not to remember something.
*I might start to think about something but if I don't want to I can easily just start thinking about something else.
*I think this might keep me happy, because I know if I think too deeply about certain things, it might make me really depressed and obviously I don't want
that to happen.

*I love music and like all different types, whether it's pop, rock, hip hop, dance, classical. That doesn't mean however that I like every song or every
artist.
*I don't play any instruments but I can play the piano with one hand easily. I don't need to read the music. I can do the same with a recorder!
*I wouldn't say I'm good at art and I don't draw or paint, but I once drew a picture of my cat which everyone thinks is great!
*I like to make photo collages for my friends on special occasions.
*I try to keep a diary, but I don't like it all to be just writing so I'll stick stuff in, make little collages or brighten it up with coloured pencils, felt
tip pens or doodles.
*I like cooking and baking but don't do it often.
*I recently learnt how to use a sewing machine. I'd love to be able to make my own clothes and curtains and stuff, but I probably won't.
*I love going to the cinema. I like movies which make you think. I also like comedies and sappy romantic ones. Same with books. I quite like mystery novels
too. I prefer movies to books.
*I love dancing when I'm out after a few drinks ;)
*I love singing but I'd never sing in public, even though I think I'm pretty decent.
*I don't follow fashion, but I love clothes and jewellery and shoes and bags!!!
*I like to look good and and try to dress for my shape and choose colours which suit my pale skin.
*I never use fake tan. I hate the stuff! It would be nice to have darker skin but I'm embracing my paleness :)
*I never leave the house with make up. I just don't have the confidence unfortunately.
*I don't play any sports, but wish I did. I played badminton and tennis when I was younger before I gave them up. I regret that now.
*I love cycling but there are two many hills where I live and the weather doesn't make cycling here easy.
*I love ice skating and would like to get some rollerblades.
*If I did play a sport it would be for fun, rather than for the competition although I can get very passionate!
*I love travelling and seeing new places. I like to see other people's cultures and way of life.
*I enjoy beach holidays too!
*I love scenic views, whether it be the coast, mountains, countryside or a hilltop view of a city.
*I like reading those gossip magazines about celebrities but I also like reading the newspaper and watching the news for the more serious matters in life.

*I'm very hygenic and don't like dirtiness. Despite this, my room is a mess!
*At work, I like to keep things neat, tidy and organised.

*I don't like making decisions.
*When making socialising decisions I prefer to go with the flow, because I know I'll enjoy whatever it is we do!
*When making big decisions, I think I use my heart and my gut feeling rather than my head.
*However when choosing for example, which mobile phone to buy, I'll thoroughly research it on the internet.
*The details of social plans are usually decided on the day or night.
*Obviously trips further afield need more planning.
*Generally speaking I don't make lists but I'll make a check list before going on holiday.
*I hate telling people what to do, but don't mind being told what to do.
*I have no idea what I want to do for a living and never have done.
*I don't think I'm very ambitious.
*I'd be happy enough with a salary that allowed me to own my own house and car (and I'm not talking about a huge mansion or sports car!) and with which I
could afford a few luxuries. One which allowed me to live comfortably without having to worry about the bills.
*I currently work in a shop and I enjoy it. I think it's because I'm active, I'm always busy and I don't have to use my brain too much.
*I do like using my brain, but in other ways and situations which don't involve lots of responsibility.
*I think I'd prefer a job where I use my hands so to speak.

*I daydream alot.
*I have conversations with other people in my head which I know I'll never have. Or I think of occurences with others which I know will never happen.
*I often come up with great ideas, or ones which I think are great but which I know will never materialise or would never work in real life.
*My biggest fear in life is probably loneliness. I want someone to share my life with. I would be happy not having a partner, but only if everyone else I
know didn't either. And this is most unlikely.

OK, I've written way too much! I really appreciate it if you've taken the time to read all of this! Thank you :)
 

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I'm a guy and I can relate to a ton of things on that list. The biggest difference for me is I have learned to be much more outspoken when I need to be. This comes from being a very submissive kid and getting picked on about being deaf in one ear. I also have no trouble expressing my emotions (not crying, but telling others how I feel). Consequently, I have been debating those three types. I pretty much dropped the INFJ because they are so rare and I get a gut feeling that I don't quite match the profile. So it is more likely that I am an ISFP or INFP. Those two are pretty similar just so you know.
 

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Thanks for the link Firedell :) After reading through that, I think I'm definitely a sensor! The main reason I've probably thought I could be N is because I have great intuition. But I read somewhere (I really should have noted where!), something about how sensors actually have better intuition than N's or something along those lines.

I'm glad you have lots more self confidence these days Tigerman! I'm still working on that! They do seem to be very similar!

Would you say ISFP's are more in touch with reality?
 

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As an infp i can say we have a lot of similarities. i read like every 13th line & it all seemed to fit. especially this "*I daydream alot.
*I have conversations with other people in my head which I know I'll never have. Or I think of occurences with others which I know will never happen.
*I often come up with great ideas, or ones which I think are great but which I know will never materialise or would never work in real life.
*My biggest fear in life is probably loneliness. I want someone to share my life with. I would be happy not having a partner, but only if everyone else I
know didn't either. And this is most unlikely"

infp's are constantly second guessing themselves & they are the hardest ones to define (says the meyers briggs test thing.) That may be why you wrote that entire book so i could define your life!

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Thanks for the link Firedell :) After reading through that, I think I'm definitely a sensor! The main reason I've probably thought I could be N is because I have great intuition. But I read somewhere (I really should have noted where!), something about how sensors actually have better intuition than N's or something along those lines.

I'm glad you have lots more self confidence these days Tigerman! I'm still working on that! They do seem to be very similar!

Would you say ISFP's are more in touch with reality?
Yes, it is a sensor trait. If I had of belived you were an INFP, I would have said so. What SmokeMonster, said goes back to high Fi.
 
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