@Stawker I noticed the change to bolded over ever square inch of the One SX description and almost none on the Four SX. Does this mean we're done with 'am I a One or a Four?' and we're down to double checking tritype now? I know we still have to answer the 'why do you get fixated on being sad like a four' question -- I thought we'd try to answer it after confirming your tritype first.
Theoretically, I relate more with 4w5. But from the examples given of these types, 4w3 seems closer. Albert Camus, Marcel Proust, and Walt Whitman, express my own thoughts. On the other hand, I've always found the works of Kafka, Bergman, and Kierkegaard, somehow dry. Although they have had profound influence on me, and I love their works, it still seems to lack vitality. I'm also noticing a strange pattern here: the 4w5 people have accompanied me through my depressions, and 4w3 people have been there at every parole from depression. I don't really see myself in the purely theoretical description of a 4w3 though; I neither suffer from a low self-esteem nor a very high one. I've never been particularly sensual. All my charm consists of.. .I don't know. Others are better equipped to answer that.
It's an interesting problem to work out bc we suspect you have 5 in your tritype so the 4w5 may be picking up the five wing from there on the potentially false positive side and for a potential false negative, it just so happens that the 3 descriptions are pretty bad so there can be a downplay of 3. SX 3 descriptions are better but still too shallow/narrow and they are skewed towards females (and I don't mean XNTJ females either). The idea behind 3 SX is archetypal masculinity/femininity but they don't separate what that would look like for each (or keep it purely general) which strikes me as missing the entire point they're making!
I'd like to put down the clean type 3 SX and type 5 SX descriptions to see how much bolded that returns (we can look at 4w3 & 4w5 tomorrow). When you read the 3 SX descriptions below, remember that the spirit is masculinity and being charming/attractive with that in the widest possible sense (or what, if anything, you do in that regard). Yeah, some SX 3 men might live at the gym to make that happen, others will use things other than their looks to draw people in with their masculinity (personality/strength/masculine charm/leadership etc).
E3 SX is meant to be deeper, Naranjo specifically said not Hollywood version of femininity/masculinity -- less flashy/shallow, more traditional/grounded in spirit. It's still meant to be about connection/intensity/merging and you can't do that with a couple of narcissists glued to their mirrors. I have no idea why none of these 3 SX descriptions point out the obvious either: masculine-feminine polarity creates intense tension/desire and a structure to connect/merge that is more 'team'/'one'/'ideal', less competitive/divided (for compatible SX types anyway). Of all the ways for an SX type to get their kicks (on the enneagram), this is the most obvious one imo. The simplest too: boy + girl.
Even with all those caveats (and since I'm a 3 SX personally), I still must say, these 3 SX descriptions are terrible. It's like they simply can't grasp the essence of it. Maybe they are trying to cover too much ground. The notable thing is that this is the only SX heart type (2, 3, 4) that isn't prideful. I think a healthy/secure SX 3 quietly knows the value of whatever they have that can attract a mate but they don't even need to mention it. They'll do what you did with your modest "others are better equipped to answer" move. I could go on but you get the idea -- read between the lines while reading the 3 SX one in particular.
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3 SX
Naranjo -- 'Masculine or Feminine' -- tend to identify this way but not in a Hollywood appearance only way, more traditional masculine/feminine in a 'passion for family/please partner' way. Achieves in service of others [3s are an 'earning' type] Charismatic, excels in looking good to attract others who then become the focal point of their efforts. The most emotional 3, can be shy but can support with great enthusiasm & dedication.
Riso/Hudson
'The Catch'
SX 3s are characterized by a powerful desire to be desired. This is not just sexual desirability but an overall drive to be valued and wanted. They work at developing an appealing, alluring image, striving to become the ideal of their gender and often enjoy helping others maximize their attractiveness as well. SX 3s want to be the kind of person that their love interest would want to show off to his/her friends. Whether male or female they tend to cultivate whatever personal qualities they feel will get others interested in them. They can be seductive, but unlike 2s who seduce by lavishing attention on the other, 3s seduce by drawing attention to their own exceptional qualities -- the type to work out/find the right look/carefully groom etc.
SX 3s often know how to attract mates, but they may not know how to sustain relationships. As SX types they possess a strong desire for intimacy, but as 3s they fear deep emotion connection. They may attempt to achieve emotional intimacy through sexual connection, but in the lower levels, fears of their own undesirability will cause them to reject even people they deeply care about. In some cases, they may use sexual conquests to dispel fears of being unattractive. Less healthy SX 3s also tend to be exhibitionists -- wanting to display themselves either to seduce others or to reassure themselves that they are attractive and valued.
In the unhealthy levels,SX 3s can become caught up in promiscuity. Underneath the surface, they are extremely vulnerable but tend to strike out at others who question their value in any way. Slights to their narcissism, real or imagined, can lead to vindictiveness, sexual rage and jealousy, often out of all proportion to their actual disappointments.
Oceans Moonshine
Sexual/Social 3s
The focus of this subtype is less on material gain. The basic fear for this type is loss of intimate love. The sex/soc subtype, like the sex/self-pres, lacks trust in their intimates. Because they feel unworthy of true love, they don’t believe that anyone can love them solely for themselves. Therefore, they continuously strive to hold onto their intimates’ admiration, deluding themselves that if they are admired, they may become worthy of love. They do this through vigorous maintenance of their appearance, achievements, etc. Ageing is often especially difficult for this subtype.
This insecurity leads to an incessant need for reassurance from intimates, in the form of words of affirmation or time spent together (to the exclusion of others). This insatiable need often leads to intense jealousy, which only serves to distance others from them, thus erroneously affirming the Three’s basic fear that they are unworthy of true love. While they share a lot with the sex/self-pres Three, the secondary social instinct adds an element of competition when it comes to questions of desirability. This subtype likes to be seen as the alpha male or alpha female.
When the sex/soc is healthier, they realize this competition is self-defeating. They can take comfort in the thought that another person’s success and attention do not take away their worth in any way.
Sexual Threes (according to Beatrice Chestnut)
The Sexual Three - "Charisma"
The victory or goal that the Sexual Three subtype is interested in (that expresses this Three’s vanity) is one of sex appeal and beauty rather than money or prestige-but they are just as competitive in pursuing these goals as a business executive is in work matters. In this Three, vanity is not denied (as with the Self-Preservation Three) or embraced (like the Social Three); rather, it's somewhere in between, being employed in the service of creating an attractive image and promoting important others.
The Sexual Three is sweet and shy and not as extroverted as the Social Three-especially when it comes to speaking about himself. It's hard for these Threes to promote themselves, so they often put the focus on others they want to support.
Although they are just as capable as the other Threes of achieving worldly success through competence and hard work, these Threes don't feel the need to achieve goals in the external world because their focus is much more on pleasing and making themselves attractive as a way of earning love. They see their accomplishments in the successes and happiness of the people around them.
Although Ichazo called this type "Masculinity/Femininity," Naranjo explains that this is not Hollywood-style masculinity or femininity, or even necessarily a very sexualized masculinity or femininity This type is more concerned with having an attractive presentation as a man or a woman-and, subtly at times, with pleasing others by being attractive in a classically masculine or feminine way. And while Threes are heart types, in this subtype the pleasing may occur less through emotional connection or sexual seductiveness and more through a mental connection or enthusiastic support. Naranjo changed the name to "Charisma" to reflect the special way Sexual Threes motivate and excite the admiration of others through a quality of "personal magnetism."
Sexual Threes achieve within relationships. These Threes are pleasers and helpers; they tend to work hard in support of someone else, expending a lot of energy in promoting others. Sexual Threes can be very ambitious and hardworking, but it’s always to make someone else look good. Often this Three doesn't seem like a Three because they are not so focused on their own status and achievement, but for them it's more about being attractive and supporting others-it's enough for them to be beautiful [this is so female aimed], they don't have to achieve to get love. It's the pleasing that brings approval or love, so they don't have to be conventional achievers. [Like XNTJ women are going to pass on achieving things outside of our relationship just bc we don't have to]
Sexual Threes put a lot of energy into seducing and pleasing others. They may have a fear of disappointing others, and so they justify themselves with excuses to avoid confrontation. People with this subtype may have fantasies about the "ideal partner," and they may want to change their partner to be like they would like him or her to be. They may have fantasies of waiting for "Prince Charming" (or "Princess Charming") and living "happily ever after."
These Threes tend to be oriented toward pleasing others in the sense of having a family or team mentality. They may focus narrowly on what is good for the family (at home or at work) and project the image of someone who is good in this way.
Because so much depends on their being attractive to others, Sexual Threes think they need to be good and perfect to be loved. They tend to be very helpful to prove their lovability-they aspire to have the image of the "best lover" or the "perfect wife."
Attaining love or desire from others becomes a goal, an achievement, a conquest for Sexual Threes. To support this, they have a passion for projecting a handsome, pretty, or sexy image. They feel an urgent need to be looked at and recognized as attractive by people they want to attract (romantically)-perhaps reflecting a lack of attention and admiration from their mother or father.
In this Three there is a sense of disconnection from feelings and from the real self. They often have no real contact with themselves or others. This disconnection is emotional, sexual, and physical. One Three with this subtype commented, "it's like we put out an 'Out to Lunch' sign." This is the main issue for Sexual Threes. They typically experience a feeling of emptiness, like a void. This Three experiences an empty feeling in terms of having a lack of a clear sense of self or identity. This is related to the fact that the Sexual Three experiences difficulty in being, feeling, and expressing authentically. While they may be very attractive, they may also have low self-esteem and be unable to love themselves. In the face of this, they may "put on a good face" and look sweet and complacent while hiding their strengths as a way to look good for others.
The Sexual Three is the most emotional of the Threes, so you are more likely to see them expressing their feelings. This Three doesn't wear the kind of social mask that a Social Three wears. There is a deep sadness within the Sexual Three. They often had a difficult early life, and they use "disconnections" from themselves as a way to forget, or to make up for and minimize, past abuses. There is a lot of fear of feeling emotional pain and sorrow, and so they learn to disconnect from their deeper emotional experience. They also experience criticism as very threatening, as it destroys their mask of being a "perfectly good person."
Sexual Threes can look like Twos or Sevens. They can look like Twos because they seek to connect with others through being pleasing and attractive. They differ from Twos, however, in that they focus more on a specific image of physical attractiveness and less on shape-shifting, prideful self-elevation, and meeting emotional needs. They may be mistaken for Sevens in that they tend to be positive and enthusiastic in their support of others. They can be excellent cheerleaders. However, while Sevens are fundamentally self-referencing, Threes reference others as a way of determining how to be. Threes are more disconnected from themselves, while Sevens typically know what they need and want.
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5 SX (the countertype)
Naranjo, 'Confidence' -- tend to be very passionate with/about one person ('frequently someone they can't find'). They search for absolute love, the exemplar person who will be with them no matter what (beyond normal dedication). One of the most Romantic types. This Romanticism gives a vibrant inner life. They trust that special someone with their private inner world. Only open to deep intimacy with one or two people.
Riso/Hudson
5 SX 'This Is My World'
In the average range, the detachment and avoidance characteristics of Fives clash with sexual variants desire for intense connection. SX 5s like sharing secret information with their intimates. But they are always experiencing some degree of tension between pursuing those they are attracted to and lacking confidence in their social skills. Thus SX fives are driven to engage intensely with people, although often with anxiety and a tendency to withdraw at a moment's notice. They are more affable and talkative than the other two instincts of the type, but they can cause others surprise and consternation when they unexpectedly drop out and disappear for periods of time. On the other hand, when romantically interested in someone, they can become extremely open and merged, more like 9s. On the other, when they feel unappreciated or misunderstood, they can quickly become emotionally distant. Powerful connections with others alternate with long periods of isolation.
The SX instinct mixes with intellect to produce intense imagination. SX 5s create alternative realities -- private "worlds" of various kinds -- that they present to potential intimates. They are looking for the ideal mate, the mate for life, who will not be turned off by their strangeness ('Does this intensity frighten you?) Strong sexuality [the most sexual of all the enneagram types according to Riso] gives SX 5s the impetus to risk emotional contact and also provides relief from their constant mental activity. It becomes a way to ground themselves. But in less healthy 5s, the mix of imagination and sexuality can become dark & fetishistic: they can become lost in disturbing fantasies & dreams.
In the unhealthy range, longing for lost love and feelings of rejection can lead SX 5s into isolation and self destructive behavior. They are often drawn, through voyeurism, into dangerous lifestyles and can be attracted to society's underbelly.
Ocean Moonshine
Sexual/social 5s
This subtype is the most dramatic of the instinctual stackings of type Five. They are less concerned than the social/sexual subtype with social rejection, but take rejection from intimates very much to heart. They have a strong desire to express themselves, and can be the most Four-like of all the instinctual subtypes of type Five.
Not only do they have a strong desire to merge with a significant other, they also want to make their mark in the larger social sphere. The intensity, aggression, counterphobic stance and desire to connect deeply, all combine with the social instinct to produce a highly charged personality. This subtype can become quite accomplished if they are able to form an intimate connection with someone who will help ground them and provide them with a feeling of security. When Fives of this subtype feel a sense of safety due to healthy intimate relationships, they will want to share whatever knowledge, talent or insight they may have.
When unhealthy, this subtype can be very dark, pessimistic and the most confrontational of all the subtypes of Five. They can also become very arrogant.
Sexual 5s - Beatrice Chestnut
Sexual Fives (the countertype)
In the Sexual Five, avarice is expressed through an ongoing search for a connection that will satisfy their need for an experience of the most perfect, safest, and most satisfying (idealized) union. This Five may look like the other two five subtypes on the outside, having all the regular five inhibitions and introversion in the area of relationship, but the sexual five places a special value on one-to-one or intimate connections.
This five has a passion for finding a special person they can connect with deeply, sometimes a person they cannot find or have yet to find. Like the social five, this five also searches for a high ideal, but this five looks for the ideal in the realm of love. This five feels a need to find a high exemplar of absolute love. Like the search for the extraordinary of the social five, the ideal kind of connection this five searches for represents a very high standard. Sexual fives seek something like the ultimate mystical union- an experience of the divine in human relationships. And this can also happen with the search for good friends or a spiritual teacher.
While social and self-preservation fives are more removed from their emotions, the sexual five is intense, romantic, and more emotionally sensitive. This five suffers more, resembles the four more, and has more overt desires. This is the countertype among the fives. It may not be completely obvious from the outside, however- they may seem very much like other fives until you touch their romantic spot and inspire their romantic feelings.
While they can appear reserved or laconic on the outside, sexual fives have a vibrant internal life that is highly romantic. There are examples of sexual five artists- like Chopin, who Naranjo notes is the most romantic of the classical composers- who display extreme emotional expressiveness through their artistic creations but are cut off in many ways from others in the everyday world.
Sexual fives live in an inner world filled with ideation, theories, and utopian fantasies about finding unconditional love. They live for a couple's love as a kind of ultimate or ideal experience of connection. However, what they search for represents an idealized form of relationship that may not exist in the human world. [Or we can just date another 5 SX, duh]
Trust is the basic issue with the sexual five. The name Naranjo ascribes to this subtype is “confidence,” which has a special meaning related to an ability to trust the other, and suggests a search for the person who will be with you no matter what, the partner (or friend) that you can trust with all your secrets. Confidence is the kind of ideal that makes sexual fives very romantic deep inside. They search for an idealized version of love and relationship as a source of meaning in life.
The sexual five's search for a high exemplar of connection is so exacting that it's very hard to pass their test with consistency if you are the person in relationship with them. It's very easy for the sexual five to be disappointed. This subtype has such a great need to trust in the other that the need is not easily satisfied, and so there can be a lot of testing in their relationships.
Fives tend to be a private people, but this five has a great need for intimacy under the right circumstances--if they can find a person they can really trust to love them despite their flaws. This sub-type expresses a need to be completely transparent with their partner, and they need their partner to be very open as well; this ideal of trust and intimacy is not easy to find.
Because of this, sexual fives can get very picky about the people they have relationships with, and they can become frustrated when they discover that the other is human.
If a partner does not live up to their expectations of transparency and openness, they tend to feel disappointed and--because they have a fear of being hurt by others--to isolate themselves.
Some sexual fives say that their search for an ultimate kind of connection does not only center on relationship with a lover or life partner. One five said he related to the idea of “emotional promiscuity,” saying, “I want ultimate contact with a lot of people,” one at a time.
And some fives with this sub-type report that although they feel guarded in the face of too much emotional intensity, they have a deep desire for intimacy with a trusted few. One five with this sub-type described especially appreciating the experience of “clicking” with someone-- the feeling of having chemistry with another person--saying that when he felt this he could become infatuated very quickly.
Although the sexual five may look like a type four, this five is still quite five-ish, so is not likely to be mistaken for a four. And while this sub-type is the five counter-type and seeks to manifest an ideal of intimacy, it may be hard to discern the difference between this five and the other two fives, as all of the five sub-types experience a need to withdraw. However, this five has a need to find a special relationship that will provide both safety and an ultimate kind of love.
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While we're at it, let's knock out the possibility of you having 7 in your tritype (I suspect it's a place you visit than live).
7 SX
Naranjo -- 'Heavenly, not Earthly': passion to imagine something better than reality ---> idealization. Passion to dream, go for imagined rather than ordinary, not so interesting reality. Need for rose colored glasses. Tend to look at things with the optimism of a person in love. Gluttony for things of the higher world. Tendency to display too much optimism & enthusiasm.
Riso/Hudson
SX 7 'The Neophile'
In the average range SX 7s are constantly looking for something new and beyond the ordinary; like 4s, they tend to reject the mundane. In all their activities/interactions, they want to experience the intense charge of being alive. They see life through heightened imagination, idealizing themselves, their relationships, and reality. They often have a wide ranging curiosity and interests and are fascinated by new ideas and topics they see as being on the cutting edge. SX 7s are magnetized by people whom they find interesting or refreshing. When the radar of their sexual instinct locks onto such a person, they do not hesitate to approach the person with charm and genuine interest. They feel temporarily dazzled and hypnotized by the object of their curiosity and may induce similar feelings in others. Sexual 7s enjoy the excitement of fantasizing about future adventures and shared interests with the new person. They love wild ideas, wit, and humor -- their minds move very quickly, but this can also cause restlessness with themselves and their relationships. [Sounds a lot like Ne dominants which are usually 7s]
Less healthy SX 7s can become fickle -- both with their interests and with their affections. They fear commitment, preferring the intense feelings of infatuation that occur in the earliest stages of a relationship (they love falling in love). They revel in romance and in the process of mutual discovery, but as soon as the feelings become familiar, they are ready to explore other possibilities. Similarly, restlessness causes them to lack discernment. They may get involved in faddish or sensational ideas in glitzy packaging that are little more than temporary distractions. Disappointment soon follows.
In the unhealthy range, SX 7s become even more reckless in their pursuit of charged excitement. They may involve themselves in crazy schemes and unrealistic or dangerous love affairs. They become thrill seekers, looking for more and more extraordinary sources of entertainment while being less and less affected by any of it. They become hardened and dissipated from living on the edge, often burning out or damaging themselves in some permanent way from their excesses.
Ocean Moonshine
Sexual/Social 7s
This subtype has a lot of energy, crazy, intense energy and this energy is going to find a way to manifest. This subtype of Seven can have the biggest extremes in behavior and with material success in life. With the self-pres instinct last in the stacking they aren’t afraid of taking risks, so they sometimes become very successful but they typically also take too many risks, look for too many easy ways out. With the self-pres least developed, they can become dependent on others to add a much needed stabilizing element to their busy hedonistic lives. They have many of the same issues and share many of the same problems as the other sexual first subtype with regards to relationship addiction and have even more dependency issues then the sexual/self-pres. They can lose focus and drift similar to the social/sexual subtype and their high energy can likewise be draining for others.
With this subtype, you have drama mixed with mental energy. What separates them from Fours who they might resemble superficially is their planning and future orientation. Their drama and intensity is focused on what they are going to do, not on what has happened. They are usually blind to their past, moving forward and not looking back.
Sexual Sevens (according to Beatrice Chestnut)
The Sexual Seven - "Suggestibility"
Individuals with the Sexual Seven subtype are gluttons for things of the higher world-for optimistically seeing things as they could be in the ideal world of their imaginations. Sexual Sevens are dreamers with a need to imagine something better than stark, ordinary reality. These Sevens have a passion for embellishing everyday reality, for being too enthusiastic, and for idealizing things and seeing the world as better than it actually is. Their gluttony gets expressed as a need for idealization.
Sexual Sevens are not as interested in the things of this world as they are in the things of a more highly advanced dimension. They look at the sky as an escape from the earth; they are more “heavenly” than “earthy.” People with this subtype are light-hearted enjoyers with a need to dream and to idealize and embellish the ordinary. In line with this tendency, they can be very idealistic and somewhat naïve.
These Sevens tend to look at things with the optimism of somebody who is in love. Everything looks better when you are in love, and the Sexual Seven takes refuge in this kind of ideal, positive experience as a way of unconsciously avoiding what might be unpleasant in life. They focus on a highly positive view of life to distract themselves from the uncomfortable or scary emotions they would rather remain unaware of.
It is said that “love is blind.” Naranjo contends that Sexual Sevens may be said to be blind in this same sense: they display a bit too much enthusiasm and optimism and pay disproportionate attention to the positive data in a situation. These Sevens can fall in love very intensely, and they relate to their world through dreaming and imagination. They imagine what the world could be, and they can believe that this optimistic view is real.
In this way, Sexual Sevens express a need to fantasize, a need to dream, or a need for rose-colored glasses. These Sevens have a tendency to be too happy. They display a need to live in a charmed reality, to fantasize-to live in a world seen as an overcompensation that reflects an unconscious desire to deny or avoid the painful or boring or frightening parts of life. Sexual Sevens tend to experience an underlying fear of getting stuck in these kinds of feelings and so take refuge in optimism.
This Seven’s need to dream is a form of idealization-a passion for viewing life as it could be or as they imagine it to be; a tendency to live for the sweetness in a dreamed-of or imagined world rather than for the ordinary and not-so-interesting reality. They don’t want to pay attention to anything bad or difficult that might be happening.
Sexual Sevens think, “I’m okay, everything’s okay.” Naranjo points out that this way of thinking is very therapeutic for everyone who is not a Seven. Sexual Sevens often had some sort of painful experience growing up and they’ve adopted a sense of lightness as a defense against feeling their pain. They defensively take refuge in a happy, or excessively happy, and expansive mood that operates as a way of unconsciously diverting themselves from recognizing and feeling a deeper pain. It’s like walking lightly above things or hovering at an elevated level as a means of escaping the uncomfortable emotions.
The name given to this type is “Suggestibility,” which implies a readiness to be mentally flexible and imaginative-but it also has to do with being gullible, easy to hypnotize, and susceptible to the infection of enthusiasm. Naranjo points out that Sexual Sevens’ cognitive defenses are shaped as suggestion, fantasy, and illusion. They can naively believe that people are what they say they are, and they can be very trusting, seeing the world and people in beautiful, perhaps overly positive, terms. They run to an idyllic future and away from a potentially uncomfortable or painful present. They display a prevalence of thought and imagination over feeling and instinct.
In terms of personal style, Sexual Sevens are people who like to talk a lot. They are verbose and excited by their own discourse, and their speech is characterized by a flow of “wonderful ideas and possibilities.” They can also play the role of the carefree clown whom nothing seems to affect. People with this subtype tend to use ironic humor, which can be escapist, and they test limits through seduction and humor. They seek acceptance, appreciation, and recognition, and they manipulate through seduction.
Sexual Sevens plan and improvise a lot. They believe that they can do everything, and they feel a need to plan or mount successful strategies that will ensure their pleasure. They may experience anxiety, however, about the difficulty of engaging in many scenarios at once and having to give something up. They can have a restless and anxious energy, which can take the outer form of doing things on many fronts and engaging in many activities at the same time. Their excitement and anxiety can cloud their perception of reality. At times they may rebel through passive-aggression, which they tend to do by living in their imagination-relating to situations as they would like them to be and not taking action in the real world.
Sexual Sevens see the world as a marketplace of outstanding opportunities: the more you take, the more you can enjoy. These Sevens express excitement about the possibility of consuming many experiences-everything is exciting and spectacular-like someone who goes to a bakery and wants to try a bit of everything. They find a sense of satisfaction in being able to have it all, in not missing or losing out on anything.
Contrary to what we might expect from this “Sexual” Seven subtype, this Seven is not so much focused on sex as they are on the essence of love. Sexual Sevens fall in love very easily, but they’re not as interested in having sex with someone as they are in attaining a kind of idealized ultimate connection. Sexuality itself stays primarily in the head for these characters. It’s a normal sexuality on one hand, but it’s a promise for a bigger opening to a mystical union on the other.
Sexual Sevens are gluttons for things of the higher world, and this makes them dreamers. They often feel an attraction to spiritual or metaphysical experience, as well as to extraordinary or esoteric things. Earthly, mundane things can be very hard to bear for a person who lives in a more idealized mental reality, and so this individual can have an intense dislike for activities they find routine, tedious, or boring.
For the Sexual Seven, earthly things take effort, and can therefore feel boring or tedious, whereas the mind works so easily and without friction. It’s so much easier to imagine doing something than to actually do it. So, this Seven finds comfort-indulging a kind of worldly laziness-in imagining instead of doing.
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Yes, but only when I'm at the best of my mental health. Mostly though I have a headache so I try to be as expedient with physical energy as possible. But when I get going at something, I feel that tension. It's almost like a signal now; when I want to get serious about something, I stiffen up, and vice-versa. And it's not just getting serious about physical activity. I approach mental enterprises in the same way.
Coincidence that a body/muscle tension type (E1) gets tension headaches daily?
I liked your "At the very least" re Hitchens btw.
