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So essentially. I'm the guy who has only ever had one girl not call him back after a first date (this year actually, thats a ratio of about 1/70) but has an insane amount of trouble getting to that first date stage. I realize I'm claiming I have trouble with this yet have gone on 70+ first dates, but I suppose I really only have trouble with the ones I'm REALLY interested in.

To that point. You're going to ask, how do you meet this many girls. A: In class, at the coffee shop, online, at work, in professional organizations, etc....its not hard for me to talk to anyone in person if I'm interested in that way.

Anyway, the issue comes in with texting. I don't really want to have conversations via text unless its really short and just to plan out when we are going to go out or hang out or what have you.

Women of perc, specifically 18-35 (I have a huge range of interest haha) what do you want a potential romantic interest to text you about? How often? What are some good subject and what are some things to avoid! I'd be glad to reciprocate with dating advice as well. I've had a ton of experience so I like to think I have something to offer in that field. Feel free to comment here or PM me.

Edit: @Bassmasterzac wants advice too tagged as requested.
 

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All I know is that sending dick pics usually doesn't turn out well. Don't ask me how I know that though. :unsure:
Yeah. If I could write a dating book it would be 10000 pages long and every page would have one sentence. "DO NOT SEND DICK PICS"

on every page.

it would cost 1000$ and for a lot of guys it would be worth every penny lolool
 

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Yeah. If I could write a dating book it would be 10000 pages long and every page would have one sentence. "DO NOT SEND DICK PICS"
It's one of those failures to understand that the brains of women and men are fundamentally different.

Guy brain: I really hope this girl sends me pics of her tits. :crazy:
Girl brain: I really hope this guy doesn't send me dick pics. :frustrating:
 

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It's one of those failures to understand that the brains of women and men are fundamentally different.

Guy brain: I really hope this girl sends me pics of her tits. :crazy:
Girl brain: I really hope this guy doesn't send me dick pics. :frustrating:
I'd be lying if I ever said I didn't want to see tits so this pretty much holds true....This self realization makes me feel like a terrible person lol
 

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Can this turn into a rom com? She might just not be interested in you, bud. If you got other 69 [LOL 69] girls without any problem, then you might have been doing something right. But if a girl is not interested, you can do all the right things, it would still be meh.
 

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Depends on how the date goes, if it went well, and you guys talked a lot, do it the day after, using either planning another date as an excuse, or saying how interesting he/she/it is.

Also.
howto70dfirstates?
Just.
How the hell man?
I thought about a dozen was too much.
But 70?
Wait, how old are you?
 

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don't overthink it and just text. if they can't handle it, well...if you're capable of getting 70 first dates...who cares what they can handle? just move on to the next.

most women are off it anyway. can't respect today's women...go online and watch em get get sexed by dogs and horses, 10 men and whatever else nasty crap is out there. watch em get shat on, spit on, drink piss...and this is on video. who the hell knows what's happened off camera? you think your friend that goes to dubai every vacation is going just to go? you should read about what these women are up to. it's amazing to me that they find husbands...you know, i'm never ever marrying a woman? i can't trust a girl from today. 100 years ago, maybe. today? no thanks, can't marry a piss whore sorry. that's just the way life is.

why would you want to talk to a creature that is willingly getting shat on? women want respect yet if i go to google and look for a video of them drinking piss, eating shit...guaranteed i'd find it. no respect for a woman today, honestly. i can't respect something that eats its own feces.

when texting, compliments work. as well as your random thoughts, if you're funny. some girls text more than others. don't overthink and just text. most these women aren't too likeable anyway. you'll find you don't want to text them after a while..
 
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don't overthink it and just text. if they can't handle it, well...if you're capable of getting 70 first dates...who cares what they can handle? just move on to the next.

most women are off it anyway. can't respect today's women...go online and watch em get get sexed by dogs and horses, 10 men and whatever else nasty crap is out there. watch em get shat on, spit on, drink piss...and this is on video. who the hell knows what's happened off camera? you think your friend that goes to dubai every vacation is going just to go? you should read about what these women are up to. it's amazing to me that they find husbands...you know, i'm never ever marrying a woman? i can't trust a girl from today. 100 years ago, maybe. today? no thanks, can't marry a piss whore sorry. that's just the way life is.

why would you want to talk to a creature that is willingly getting shat on? women want respect yet if i go to google and look for a video of them drinking piss, eating shit...guaranteed i'd find it. no respect for a woman today, honestly. i can't respect something that eats its own feces.

when texting, compliments work. as well as your random thoughts, if you're funny. some girls text more than others. don't overthink and just text. most these women aren't too likeable anyway. you'll find you don't want to text them after a while..
Are you high?
 
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don't overthink it and just text. if they can't handle it, well...if you're capable of getting 70 first dates...who cares what they can handle? just move on to the next.

most women are off it anyway. can't respect today's women...go online and watch em get get sexed by dogs and horses, 10 men and whatever else nasty crap is out there. watch em get shat on, spit on, drink piss...and this is on video. who the hell knows what's happened off camera? you think your friend that goes to dubai every vacation is going just to go? you should read about what these women are up to. it's amazing to me that they find husbands...you know, i'm never ever marrying a woman? i can't trust a girl from today. 100 years ago, maybe. today? no thanks, can't marry a piss whore sorry. that's just the way life is.

why would you want to talk to a creature that is willingly getting shat on? women want respect yet if i go to google and look for a video of them drinking piss, eating shit...guaranteed i'd find it. no respect for a woman today, honestly. i can't respect something that eats its own feces.

when texting, compliments work. as well as your random thoughts, if you're funny. some girls text more than others. don't overthink and just text. most these women aren't too likeable anyway. you'll find you don't want to text them after a while..
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@Penguin, @Bassmasterzac

I don't know what to tell you. First, your thread title says you need help texting girls, then you are struggling getting to the first date stage, then you say you've already gone on 70+ first dates. What's the real problem here? You can't meet girls, you can't talk to them, you don't know how to text them, or you can't get them to go on a second date with you?
 

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No offense, but it sort of seems like your only source for how women act is from some extreme porn site.
It's more about how they allow themselves to be mistreated and are too stupid to realize it. Go up to most any girl and ask how men have mistreated them and the stories you'll hear...it's disgusting. I don't know whether to pity women or just think they're stupid. I'm not inexperienced with romantic relationships, but I haven't had near 70 first dates. Closer to 20. And porn should be illegal.

Anyway, texting women, in my mind, should lead to dating. If you've had 70 first dates, then who cares about texting. You're not doing anything wrong..
 

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Anyway, the issue comes in with texting. I don't really want to have conversations via text unless its really short and just to plan out when we are going to go out or hang out or what have you.
I'm the same way, unless the person can actually hold a conversation. Too often I'll just get a text that's like "what's up?" without any real follow through regardless of what I say. It puts the burden of making conversation on me, and when it isn't reciprocated, it drives me crazy. Like why is this person putting me in this awkward situation and wth do they want from me? Lol. I get paranoid that they're just doing the e-maintain too - i.e. going through a massive list of contacts and doing the bare minimum to keep in touch in case the opportunity for convenient sex comes up. Real or the sexting variety when they're bored.

So text with intention. Make small talk, but then take the initiative to make plans if that's what you want and if you text first. If you're texting to say hi, have something to say. Something about your day, what you're up to, maybe a pic (and not even of yourself necessarily, just of whatever you're doing if it's interesting). Ask her questions too along those same lines, and then questions depending on what she says. Following that up with "just wanted to say hi" is always appreciated too. Even if that's not your style, those friendly little gestures help ensure future dates and keep the momentum going.

I don't care how often someone texts so long as it isn't massively inconsistent. Like if someone texts me everyday and then falls off the face of the earth, but then acts like nothing is wrong when they text again - I hate that crap. Games should be exciting, they shouldn't make the other person feel downright insecure and totally confused. So if you don't want to keep up with a daily text, don't put that foot forward first. Or at least acknowledge that there's been a change up in your communication if you do start with that and back off for whatever reason. Reassurance that you're just busy, etc is nice so long as it reads as sincere, since this is often a blow off too. A good way to ensure it reads that way is hey, I've been busy, but what are you up to Friday? Or whatever.
 
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It's more about how they allow themselves to be mistreated and are too stupid to realize it. Go up to most any girl and ask how men have mistreated them and the stories you'll hear...it's disgusting. I don't know whether to pity women or just think they're stupid. I
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