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I just found out that my cousin (who lives in UK) is ISTJ. I want to help him in some way, and understand how he is feeling, better, in order to give him support, anything really.
He is such a nice guy but he has had a crappy life for a few years now. Married his girlfriend of about 8 years, 1 year later over Christmas, she cheats on him. Then she asks for a divorce and takes him to court and gets half of everything. Her family have plagued him with all sorts of other stuff too.
He has tried to re-integrate into the social scene in the hopes of finding a someone who is marriage material so he can settle down and have kids etc, but they all seem very shallow and two-faced. He is admittedly a bit messed up after all the crap that the ex and her family put him through. He had therapy for a while to get past the depression. They basically wanted to financially ruin him and damn near succeeded. He went from owning a nice house and a flash car to having to sell up and buy out of London where it was cheaper.
Anyway he is waiting to hear back about a really great job. He is a smart guy and is capable of doing quite a specialised job. If he doesn't get it he is thinking of leaving UK for a while to try and find himself.
I can tell that he is so lost and unhappy and it pains me that I can't do anything to help.
Has anyone been through this amount of trauma/ crisis in their life before?
And how did you get yourself back to normal again?
He is such a nice guy but he has had a crappy life for a few years now. Married his girlfriend of about 8 years, 1 year later over Christmas, she cheats on him. Then she asks for a divorce and takes him to court and gets half of everything. Her family have plagued him with all sorts of other stuff too.
He has tried to re-integrate into the social scene in the hopes of finding a someone who is marriage material so he can settle down and have kids etc, but they all seem very shallow and two-faced. He is admittedly a bit messed up after all the crap that the ex and her family put him through. He had therapy for a while to get past the depression. They basically wanted to financially ruin him and damn near succeeded. He went from owning a nice house and a flash car to having to sell up and buy out of London where it was cheaper.
Anyway he is waiting to hear back about a really great job. He is a smart guy and is capable of doing quite a specialised job. If he doesn't get it he is thinking of leaving UK for a while to try and find himself.
I can tell that he is so lost and unhappy and it pains me that I can't do anything to help.
Has anyone been through this amount of trauma/ crisis in their life before?
And how did you get yourself back to normal again?