I would have to agree with cappuccinocool in the sense that if you do choose to ask her out, it is useful to go into it knowing exactly what you want out of it. If you know, then you will be in a better position to make it yours. If you go in thinking all will be righted simply by making your feelings known, you may find you don't get what you want, as what you will have done is asked her to help you ask her out. Romance does not do well in such a situation, for either of you. If you are conflicted as to what to do, then your desire is to be helped. If you are able to really look this in the eye and grasp simultaneously your desire for her to help you and the impossibility and counter-productivity of this, the desire to be helped can be tamed and obviated, and perhaps your resolve will strengthen. In any case, you will feel a sense of resolution, which you have already stated as the goal. When they say, to love, you must love yourself first, this is one very clear instance of this. You will be unable to win love by trying to get it. If you are searching around for it, it will appear no where, for you can only have by giving. If your desire is for her well-being and flourishing, perhaps your offering will be accepted. If not, that is her choice. If it was a good gift, the rejection is not of you, but only of what she has made of you. Two very different things. Know your heart, its fullness and effulgence. You are of infinite inner wealth.