Hello INTJs 😊😊😊
I have a friend who is INTJ.
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I have a friend who is INTJ.
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The problem is that I am INFP and I tend to fantacise, idolize and over-interpret. To me it was flirty but what if it wasn’t? I can't deal with rejection.You say she was flirty, but you never clarified that with her. You said, "Goodbye, best of luck," but you never said "I'll miss you. Keep in touch." It was like a dance, one step up, one step back. INTJs like to know where they stand.
When she came back to interact, you took offense at her for saying something honest and direct. Want my advice? Don't give up on your friendship, but notch down the dramatic conversation, and start discussing (or doing) things you both like.
This wasn't inviting me to sing a love serenade you know? I wasn't prepared to meet Anna vs Elsa situation, to sing to a closed door. Also my speech was longer than just "Goodbye, best luck." She didn't come out whatever the reason (she was already fully dressed so definitely not this). And I stood there like an idiot.She didn't even bother to look at me or open that door that hid her.
That was humiliating. This is where game-playing, flirting, not making intentions clear will lead.The problem is that I am INFP and I tend to fantacise, idolize and over-interpret. To me it was flirty but what if it wasn’t? I can't deal with rejection... She didn't come out whatever the reason.. And I stood there like an idiot.
This is the enjoyment I've been truly waiting for. You did not turn into her though. If you were her you'd say "My friend put a hamster to a microvawe". (actual "scientific fact" she used and she is in her mid 20s). I really thought it was serious. Now that I know it was playful, then it may have some sense, if she wanted to be funny.Okay, for your enjoyment, I am now going to turn into your INTJ friend:
My thoughts exactly.How can a person who debates the cruelty of killing animals for fur make a joke about putting a hamster in a microwave? That doesn't make sense. Does not compute.
You are actually helping me a lot. Thank you very much. I have too many thoughts at the same time, and you help me to verify where there is a hit and where is the mis. So sorry I write so much but it is helpful for me too. I can read that once again after I get more info and then I start to see more.I think you're right. She has low self-esteem. The signs are there: She hasn't developed her own, independent life goals. She falls into "dark" humor. She doesn't recognize your benevolence.
What causes low self-esteem? Unlimited things -- from tiny injustices to real abuse. The one factor that saves people: resiliency. In the same situation, the resilient person will thrive, while the vulnerable person will crumble. We're not psychologists, so only she can decide to pull herself up and fix that.
Her friends are not good influences. Figure out why she is impressed with them. INTJs have Se for comfort, so maybe she is indulging her physical senses. (You go figure how.) Then replace that activity with something you can do better for her. It has to be a sensory high, like sailing a little boat or finding and preparing rare foods. Education is like candy to an INTJ, and sensory highs are irresistible.
It may be. Maybe I am judgey. Or maybe I am overinterpretating. Notes taken.Op seems very judgey to me, and a bit too eager to find a belittling or even pathologizing interpretation for any deviation from their own standards and expectations for me. I'm getting the squicks from this thread by this point. Think both parties should leave each other severely alone.
Really? Bullshit. She is presenting herself somehow. Men react to it. Then she goes berserk. And you almost called the police on some guy? No, no, no. She has a serious issue. She has to fix it.She told me that she always attracts some creeps to stalk her or yell at her and she doesn't know why.
Really? Bullshit. She is presenting herself somehow. Men react to it. Then she goes berserk. And you almost called the police on some guy? No, no, no. She has a serious issue. She has to fix it.
INTJs are one of most objective of all the types if not THE most. I read a lot about Mbti and it is clear that some types are not that objective especially driven on emotions. My type is one of the least objective ones.the op is hardly what i'd call an objective source; and probably that is what bothers me here.
Then I’d ask my fellow INFPs rather than INTJ masterminds who are Logic.the op wants to find buddies to help her pathologize it
She is in her mid 20s and I am in my late 20s. We are all abit too old for „certain demographics” but nowadays I think the line really has moved up. We represent much younger emotional and physical traits than we are expected to have. We both agreed to that.I don't know their age, but this is common behavior for a certain demographic.
Exciting and mysterious. Most people are like an open book to me and it is no fun. With her it may be dark but it is finally something thrilling.She got attracted to an exciting new friend.