Hi,
I was hoping I could get some advice. I have some presuppositions that my boyfriend is with me out of loyalty rather than romantic love. It sounds very far fetched, extreme & silly but it's very probable in my situation as I have been very kind to him & offered him opportunities that have changed his life for ever.
The problem is that we've had a romantically unfullfilling relationship for quite a long time now & I'm still waiting for it to move into the next relationship phase (it's taken a really long time, years).
What I want to know is do type 6's equate loyalty with love? He claims he chose to be with me (he's told me it was out of appreciation) so it means he loves me yet he has no issue admitting he wasn't in love with me when we got together. He says he was so grateful for everything I did for him & so he began to love me. I still don't equate this with being in love. Am I being silly?
As for the difficult part, when we did get together he was most certainly still in love with his ex who tried to cheat on him with his best friend. Once again the 6 in him decided that he couldn't be with her no matter how much he loved her. In fact, the 6 in him hated her as much as his heart was hers.
But what part does it seem I play in his heart regardless of his loyalty to me?
I was hoping I could get some advice. I have some presuppositions that my boyfriend is with me out of loyalty rather than romantic love. It sounds very far fetched, extreme & silly but it's very probable in my situation as I have been very kind to him & offered him opportunities that have changed his life for ever.
The problem is that we've had a romantically unfullfilling relationship for quite a long time now & I'm still waiting for it to move into the next relationship phase (it's taken a really long time, years).
What I want to know is do type 6's equate loyalty with love? He claims he chose to be with me (he's told me it was out of appreciation) so it means he loves me yet he has no issue admitting he wasn't in love with me when we got together. He says he was so grateful for everything I did for him & so he began to love me. I still don't equate this with being in love. Am I being silly?
As for the difficult part, when we did get together he was most certainly still in love with his ex who tried to cheat on him with his best friend. Once again the 6 in him decided that he couldn't be with her no matter how much he loved her. In fact, the 6 in him hated her as much as his heart was hers.
But what part does it seem I play in his heart regardless of his loyalty to me?