I'm a somewhat social INTP male who just ended a 6-month relationship and in true INTP fashion I am trying to figure out the whole experience and what went wrong so I don't make the same mistakes twice. The first thing that attracted me to my ex-girlfriend (aside from her Grace Kelly looks) was her fun-loving and free spirited nature. She is the type that says hello to everyone she knows when she enters a room. We met during a trivia league at a local sports bar and I was told by her best friend that she thought I was very funny and that she loved my sense of humor and intelligence. After going on a few dates, she started texting me like crazy, which I found a little annoying but exciting and new. That first month, I confided in her best friend that I didn't know if I had the energy to keep up with her -- happy hours with her friends turned into staying out until 3am on the weekends. As it turns out, the social craziness indeed slowed down towards the beginning of the school year (she had kids), which I thought was going to make things easier. Well, little things crept up: she would nonchalantly inquire while I was being quiet when we were watching sporting events together; she kept harping on the fact that I didn't complement her on her new haircut; and she felt like I was smothering her and that she "never lived up to my expectations" when I used "an inappropriate tone" to emphasize that I needed more one-on-one / date-night time. Finally, she claimed she needed "a teeny bit of space" because she "wasn't 100%" because of her busy schedule and not feeling well. I gave her the space for about a month and even sent her a card letting know I was there for her. The space thing made me extremely anxious (I have very little experience with stuff like that) but I tried to respect her wishes and limited my contact with text messages. I finally broke up with her because she accused me of one-upping her with my texts (telling her where I was going for the evening, etc) and that I never invited her to do anything for a month. How illogical! She is the one who wanted space! I've concluded that she is very sensitive / I'm not; she likes socializing in groups / I want more one-on-one time; and she resents me trying to steer her into deeper waters so to speak. I just don't think we "get" each other but I must admit I'm totally drawn to her personality type and wish I knew how to relate to someone like her -- an ESFP I think -- should I date her type again in the future.