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For the past few days i have been struggling to decide between ISFP and INFJ even after reading for hours on cognitive functions. I just can't get it off my mind at all, so i would really appreciate any help from you guys on this.

Reasons why i think i'm ISFP:
-I tend to take things very personally
-I'm impulse, i usually don't think before acting
-I'm aggressively opinionated
-Bad Te, i don't get things done
-I'm 4w3

And why i also think i'm INFJ:
-I'm an outgoing person, i actually get energized just from socializing
-Despite having my beliefs, i'm still very "soft-hearted"
-I can get obsessed with a certain subject for no real reasons, sometimes to the point of spending hours on it. But only to lose interest after a day or two
-I live inside my head, i would always miss small details and at times things right in front of me which i think is pretty much the opposite of an aux Se
-Tendency to mimic other people's actions

So there's that, thank you for taking the time to read it, just ask me if you have any question :)
 

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-I'm an outgoing person, i actually get energized just from socializing
That is not an INFJ trait, though? INFJs are often called the most introverted type for a reason.

Being soft-hearted is also not related to being INFJ. I mean, that plus some of the other things you mention can be related to Fe, but it is one thing to use Fe, it is another to be an INFJ. There is also no guarantee that indicates Fe in your stack.

You don't give nearly enough information for someone to type you, so all I can say your evidence for being INFJ is flawed.

Try responding to the questionnaires and posting the responses here, it is rare for people to not attempt to help others type themselves (just have a little patience). I am particularly fond of this questionnaire.
 

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Reasons why i think i'm ISFP:
-I tend to take things very personally
-I'm impulse, i usually don't think before acting
-I'm aggressively opinionated
-Bad Te, i don't get things done
-I'm 4w3
Being impulsive and acting before thinking are signs of extraversion.
When you say "aggressively opinionated" - do you mean you're vocal with your opinions as well? If so, another indication of extraversion.


And why i also think i'm INFJ:
-I'm an outgoing person, i actually get energized just from socializing
-Despite having my beliefs, i'm still very "soft-hearted"
-I can get obsessed with a certain subject for no real reasons, sometimes to the point of spending hours on it. But only to lose interest after a day or two
-I live inside my head, i would always miss small details and at times things right in front of me which i think is pretty much the opposite of an aux Se
-Tendency to mimic other people's actions
INFJs are commonly referred to as the most extraverted of the introverts due to their Fe (why does no one mention ISFJs in the same breath here..), however they, like all other introverts, don't gain energy from socializing. I think at the very least, it's safe to assume you are an extravert of some sort.

Getting obsessed with particular things only to lose interest in them so quickly suggests a preference towards an extraverted perceiving function, as introverted perceivers pretty much lose themselves in their interests until they die - it's the extraverted perceivers who are like "oh well, next!"..

You say you live inside your head and miss small details - well, everyone misses small details, there's no cognitive function or type who just notices all of the details all of the time, doesn't miss a trick - Se is broad. Broad A.F.

Quick example of how broad - you drive up the road and go past say, 3 young kids on skateboards, an old lady walking a dog, and some guy in a business suit with a briefcase.
Upon arriving at your destination, someone asks you what kinds of people you drove past - someone who prefers Se is likely to respond with some ridonkulously broad statement like "yeah, I drove past a few people actually".
You'd have to press them for specific information. Their immediate impression will be that they drove past some people - the details, who gives a shit, not how Se works.

Si on the other hand is often touted as detail oriented, but it's only with regards to things they are interested in - if they don't give a shit about no old lady or people on skateboards but they notice the businessman is wearing a nice suit - they'll say something like "I went past this guy with a nice suit and a briefcase" and yes, they could probably get more specific - but they'll automatically hone in on what interested them.
They don't give two shits about anything else.


What goes on in your head? What are you thinking about, when you're living in your own head?


Mimicing other peoples actions is reflective of solid usage of Se as well, it's a natural tendency for Se users to do this and they'll look fluid when doing it perhaps not even realising.
Se users are the guys who will go for a jog, see someone they know ahead of them, catch up to them and naturally and immediately alter the pace of their breathing and their body movements to match the other person.
 

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Ah sorry, i think i didn't worded some of my thoughts right.

When i say i was "aggressively opinionated", what i meant was that i see my opinions as objective, although i'm not necessarily vocal about them, i spend time convincing other people of it if they say otherwise.

For the Se part, i have a hard time just simply "observing" my surroundings, i find living in my head much easier , and i have always thought that mimicking other people was more of a Fe trait rather.

I can be social, i can be alone with my thoughts. I'm fine with either but i have always spent more time indoor and am quite happy with it.

I'm perfectionistic with things i put my time into,though most of them are pretty trivial and those are the only ones that i lose interest in.

What goes on in my head ? I'm actually not 100% sure as they are pretty hazy , but what i can remember is me analyzing pointless stuffs to death or planning what i would do in like 10 years or so.
@Reila
I spend time reading on the functions but the things that i read always contradict each other, so i just assumed that anyone with dom or aux Fe are energized by socializing. What do you think is that clear-cut guarantee that Fe is in your stack ?
 

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1. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind.
Not at the moment, pretty stable right now. I'm a 17 year old guy.
2. Study these two images here and here. Which one do you prefer and why? How would you describe it?
I prefer the first one, a beach in a beautiful twilight is how i would describe it, and why i prefer it ? The second one really isn't special, it's just a person having a meal.
4. What kind of person would you LIKE to be? Why? What kind of person would you NOT want to be? Why?
Exactly the who i am right now, i don't see any need for correcting as i'm already the "perfect" image that i created for myself. The kind of person i don't want to be i guess would be Te-dom types, they have the "the end justifies the means" sorta mentality and i really don't like that about them.
5. Do you think there are any differences to how you described yourself and how people actually perceive you? How do you think others would describe you? If there are any discrepancies between these two that are you are aware of; do you know why exactly that is ?
Of course, my friends see me as approachable and friendly but somewhat aggressive at times.They don't think i'm as empathetic of a person as actually am because i try not to be "too nice" as i used to be taken advantage of before for it.
6. What in life do you find to be of importance? Why?
I took the Value test and decided to just post a screenshot of it

7. How do you react to new situations in your life? Can you describe an event in your life where you were in an unknown situation? How did you deal with it?
I am fine with them unless it's too sudden, i at least need to "mentally" prepare for it. When my family decided to move to a new place and only telling me shortly before, i was pretty upset, but it only took me a day or to forget about it.
8. Please describe yourself when you are in a stressful situation. How do you act and why? Real life experiences are welcome.
It makes me more selfish,even more impulsive, and uncharacteristically violent. I really don't like when i'm that way.
9. Please describe yourself when you are in an enjoyable situation. How do you act and why? Real life experiences are welcome.
Calm, empathetic, able to think more clearly, things like that.
10. Describe your relationship to socialization. How do you perceive one-on-one interaction? How do you perceive group interaction?
I like socializing but i have always preferred one-on-one to group interaction. Conversing with a group is fun and all but i feel they are more "shallow" than if i was talking with only one person.
11. Describe your relationship to society. What are the elements of it you hold important or unimportant (e.g. social norms, values, customs, traditions)?
I think social norms are somewhat important, though it's not the same with customs or tradition, i only hold importance in what i think actually make sense.
12. Describe your relationship to authority. How do you perceive authority? What does it mean to you, and how do you deal with it?
I don't like authority, they often times make stupid rules and have no respect for their subordinates. I have opposed my teachers a few times and got in trouble for it.
14. What is it that you fear in life? Why? How does this fear manifest to you both in how you think and how you act?
I fear of dying without ever finding the happiness that i imagined, i'm extremely idealistic that it sometimes makes me sad to think about it, i only start to work for it when i'm feeling optimistic but often times i just laze around not doing anything.
15. What is it that you desire in life? What do you strive to achieve? Why? Where do you think these drives and desires stem from or are inspired by?
Happiness, i strive for a perfect world, a place full of love and compassion. Just simply knowing such a place exist makes me happy enough.
16. a) What activities energize you most? b) What activities drain you most? Why?
a) Socializing, deep conversation with another person about their emotions, their beliefs and the reasons for it. I just find them very interesting and energizing at the same time.

b)Anything Te or Se related (doing what i don't want, thinking on my feet, observing my surroundings, ect), they tires me out alot.
17. Why do you want to know your type? What type do you think you are? Why this/these type(s)? Is there a type that appeals to you, to your self-perception, that you would like to be? Why? If you know your enneagram, please post this here. If you have done any online function tests such as the Keys2Cognition, it helps if you post these results here as well.
Just for the sake of getting to the bottom of it, i'm a 4w3 and here's my key2cognition result

18. Finally, is there something else you find to be of importance you want to add about yourself you think might be of relevance when helping to type you?
This one is what makes me unsure of my type the most, in my childhood i have always been more of a 2w3 rather , i blindly help other people, had trouble saying "no" because i was afraid that they would hate me for it. Only until an "epiphany" i had recently makes me more of a 4w3.
@Reila @La Bella Luna Took a bit of time but i answered the questionare
 

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I got some Fi/Te from this. Also, you're 17 so your functions won't truly develop till your around 21. You could be in a Fi-Ni loop or haven't developed your Se yet.
 
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