I can think of many problems believing in an ideal match can create.
1. I am in a long-term relationship with someone wonderful, the relationship is rewarding and beneficial—but they aren’t the “right” type— so it must be doomed? I should break up right? Their type is supposed to be scary at some point, right? My ideal awaits out there? I should break up.
2. I am dating my ideal type and it is sooo perfect! We just click! I’m so glad I found a XXXX type! Wait... their temper scared me last night... but it’s all fine because with their functions they don’t even feel anger... they are so perfect! Wait... um.. We broke up. They weren’t who I thought! They must have been mistyped! I need to find a real XXXX and everything will be perfect because that type is so perfect!
3. I have been married to someone of the “wrong” type for 20 years... I should have held out, but I didn’t know about MBTI ideals back then.. I know there must be greener pastures out there. Anytime we are in a rocky patch then I know this would never happen if I was with an XXXX type. Then I would never have to deal with this disappointing part of our relationship. Everything would be so much more wonderful. But I am trapped in this pretty good relationship with someone I love but probably not as I would love the glorious ideal. Sigh...
4. I am now in a solid relationship with my ideal type, but.... oh no! I found out I am actually mis-typed! I have been wrong all along. I wonder if my partner would be so much happier with a real XXXX. ? I can tell we are not in sync really now, I misunderstood everything before. What about me? I dated this person thinking I was another type! What happens now?
5. I wish I could be the ideal type for my partner. I don’t think I will ever be able to fully help them since I am not their ideal.
6. My friend says XXXX is my ideal type, but I think the ideal for my type would be YYYY. But it seems like ZZZZ is the only type attracted to me and I think I’m only attracted to GGGG. Plus I can’t type anybody myself, I rely on my friends who found out about MBTI a few months ago and people’s online profiles to date, also I just read an article by Joe Schmo who thinks HHHH and my type would be a “Golden pairing” and explains that it’s the only way CCCC will ever truly be happy and able to grow and CCCC is a rare type and so is HHHH and I love this idea of the “golden pairing”— at least the author says it is so perfect.
I’m either doomed or MBTI isn’t really a thing. But I like saying I’m a CCCC, I get more dates that way. I think I am one anyway.
7. I love the idea of this type for my type. We are the ideal. But this isn’t working. Maybe this type is better as a friend than a lover. Why do I not feel attracted? Maybe Socionics had it correct? Let me jump into that idealology to figure out my life since what I heard in the MBTI community done me wrong. Who cares if we have 5 kids, I NEED my ideal!
8. My last love interest was a VVVV and liked SSSS types. They actually thought they hated my type that I thought I was then and wouldn’t give me the time of day. I think I want to see what having a profile with SSSS might do for my dating life. I can act SSSS, I probably am one. The irony for my old interest is that I actually AM SSSS. Oh,man, the irony!
Question: Do we truly see others as individuals beyond type?
Question: Do we get too mixed up in whatever anyone is saying about ideal pairings?
Question: What have you experienced? What have you seen?
1. I am in a long-term relationship with someone wonderful, the relationship is rewarding and beneficial—but they aren’t the “right” type— so it must be doomed? I should break up right? Their type is supposed to be scary at some point, right? My ideal awaits out there? I should break up.
2. I am dating my ideal type and it is sooo perfect! We just click! I’m so glad I found a XXXX type! Wait... their temper scared me last night... but it’s all fine because with their functions they don’t even feel anger... they are so perfect! Wait... um.. We broke up. They weren’t who I thought! They must have been mistyped! I need to find a real XXXX and everything will be perfect because that type is so perfect!
3. I have been married to someone of the “wrong” type for 20 years... I should have held out, but I didn’t know about MBTI ideals back then.. I know there must be greener pastures out there. Anytime we are in a rocky patch then I know this would never happen if I was with an XXXX type. Then I would never have to deal with this disappointing part of our relationship. Everything would be so much more wonderful. But I am trapped in this pretty good relationship with someone I love but probably not as I would love the glorious ideal. Sigh...
4. I am now in a solid relationship with my ideal type, but.... oh no! I found out I am actually mis-typed! I have been wrong all along. I wonder if my partner would be so much happier with a real XXXX. ? I can tell we are not in sync really now, I misunderstood everything before. What about me? I dated this person thinking I was another type! What happens now?
5. I wish I could be the ideal type for my partner. I don’t think I will ever be able to fully help them since I am not their ideal.
6. My friend says XXXX is my ideal type, but I think the ideal for my type would be YYYY. But it seems like ZZZZ is the only type attracted to me and I think I’m only attracted to GGGG. Plus I can’t type anybody myself, I rely on my friends who found out about MBTI a few months ago and people’s online profiles to date, also I just read an article by Joe Schmo who thinks HHHH and my type would be a “Golden pairing” and explains that it’s the only way CCCC will ever truly be happy and able to grow and CCCC is a rare type and so is HHHH and I love this idea of the “golden pairing”— at least the author says it is so perfect.
I’m either doomed or MBTI isn’t really a thing. But I like saying I’m a CCCC, I get more dates that way. I think I am one anyway.
7. I love the idea of this type for my type. We are the ideal. But this isn’t working. Maybe this type is better as a friend than a lover. Why do I not feel attracted? Maybe Socionics had it correct? Let me jump into that idealology to figure out my life since what I heard in the MBTI community done me wrong. Who cares if we have 5 kids, I NEED my ideal!
8. My last love interest was a VVVV and liked SSSS types. They actually thought they hated my type that I thought I was then and wouldn’t give me the time of day. I think I want to see what having a profile with SSSS might do for my dating life. I can act SSSS, I probably am one. The irony for my old interest is that I actually AM SSSS. Oh,man, the irony!
Question: Do we truly see others as individuals beyond type?
Question: Do we get too mixed up in whatever anyone is saying about ideal pairings?
Question: What have you experienced? What have you seen?