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I'm so confused. I'm just thinking, do these two - IEI type 4 and SLE type 7 - even work? Because the socionics says one thing - that the IEI and SLE are a duality - while the Enneagram says that a type 3 is better for a type 7, and a type 8 is better for a type 4.

So would a type 3 person be better for my SLE type 7 friend, since I am a Type 4? But I'm an IEI in socionics, and apparently that's the best pair for an SLE...? But then... Ugh!

Because my friend seems to have a lot more fun with a type 3 chick more than with me, to be honest. Seems a lot more interested and talks a lot more. Between me and the SLE, we have a lot of problems, but I feel almost a bit of a magnetic draw to her, and I think she may feel it towards me too, but we have a lot of problems - mainly that I'm way too emotional and I keep being complaining about my life around her [my type 4 coming out]. I know I need to stop, but... It's a problem because I feel like I can be completely natural around her.. [Socionics duality coming out?] But then, does my need to restrain myself, emotionally, conflict with being my 'real self' around her? But I admit that sometimes I'm way too sentimental around her and that makes her uncomfortable. So is this a duality, because we're an IEI-SLE, or is it not - but then the Enneagram says otherwise... ? Help!!!

[Btw do subtypes play in? I reckon I'm an IEI-Fe and she's an SLE-Ti...]
 

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I'm so confused. I'm just thinking, do these two - IEI type 4 and SLE type 7 - even work? Because the socionics says one thing - that the IEI and SLE are a duality - while the Enneagram says that a type 3 is better for a type 7, and a type 8 is better for a type 4.

So would a type 3 person be better for my SLE type 7 friend, since I am a Type 4? But I'm an IEI in socionics, and apparently that's the best pair for an SLE...? But then... Ugh!

Because my friend seems to have a lot more fun with a type 3 chick more than with me, to be honest. Seems a lot more interested and talks a lot more. Between me and the SLE, we have a lot of problems, but I feel almost a bit of a magnetic draw to her, and I think she may feel it towards me too, but we have a lot of problems - mainly that I'm way too emotional and I keep being complaining about my life around her [my type 4 coming out]. I know I need to stop, but... It's a problem because I feel like I can be completely natural around her.. [Socionics duality coming out?] But then, does my need to restrain myself, emotionally, conflict with being my 'real self' around her? But I admit that sometimes I'm way too sentimental around her and that makes her uncomfortable. So is this a duality, because we're an IEI-SLE, or is it not - but then the Enneagram says otherwise... ? Help!!!

[Btw do subtypes play in? I reckon I'm an IEI-Fe and she's an SLE-Ti...]
Enneagrams are probably closer to DCNH subtypes than to primary types.
 

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[Btw do subtypes play in? I reckon I'm an IEI-Fe and she's an SLE-Ti...]
That's the correct combination. So now you know, you can dismiss all information, and just live :)

From what you said it suggests that you're a little wound up, which is good.

Activity partners tend to be more stimulating than dual.
 
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