[jack london]

If you could give dating advice to your children what would it be?

Try to be specific. What has worked? What hasn't worked?

The only advice my father gave me was to "look at her mother because that is what she will become".

Since then I would add watch out for (not necessarily avoid)

1. only children
2. children of divorced parents
3. single mothers - that takes a serious commitment that isn't always present at the beginning
4. people who suffer from mental issues - hey there are lots of fish in the sea


My advice to my son is to
1. Act like a King and you will attract a queen - kings are kind, above being mean, generous, etc.
2. and treat others how you want to be treated


Any others???

 

[mrscientist]

Considering my need to improve aswell, i would ask them for advice.

2. children of divorced parents...why this btw?

 

[jack london]

Considering my need to improve aswell, i would ask them for advice.

2. children of divorced parents...why this btw?

just something that i noticed - they have one finger on the eject button the whole time

 

[Halcy0n]

Not that I have much experience, but I would say that you should treat the one you're interested in as a friend first...if it's meant to be, the romance will come on its own.

 

[Iraneken]

Only date someone who you like for being them, not because your lonely and not to change them or yourself.

 

[feefafo]

1. only children
2. children of divorced parents

*crawls back into corner*

 

[EYENTJ]

1) Pay close attention to behavior, not words.

 

[SlowPoke68]

Don't make a big deal out of it. Date casually.
Whatever irritates you about the person is only going to get worse.
Sex does not equal love or commitment. Enjoy it anyway.
Be honest to a fault.
Don't waste time with anyone who doesn't give you joy.
You don't have to get married.
Avoid addicts, especially those who won't accept that they are.
Use condoms.

 

[JoetheBull]

Become confident in yourself first and figure out what you really want with out the influence of others

 

[PyrLove]

I would add watch out for (not necessarily avoid)
2. children of divorced parents

just something that i noticed - they have one finger on the eject button the whole time

In my case, this is completely false. I have stayed in a marriage much longer than I should have because I didn't want to repeat my parents' mistakes.

I have told my daughter to not wait until she is in love to have sex for the first time. All that is really necessary is respect and trust. And a helluva right hook in case he turns into an ass.

 

[Mutatio NOmenis]

Bring:

1. $20 cash
2. Valid photo ID
3. Credit Card
4. Condom
5. Effective weapon

Leave behind

1. Expectations
2. Preconceived Notions
3. Sloppy clothes
4. B.O.
5. Cigarettes

Seek

1. Decency
2. Modesty
3. Intelligence
4. Open mindedness
5. Sexiness

Avoid

1. Arrogance
2. Bitchiness
3. Insanity
4. Lesbians
5. Ones who are potentially taken

Do

1. Be a good person
2. Be courteous
3. Stay sober
4. Keep your weapon hidden unless you have to fight for your life
5. Be honest

Don't

1. Brag
2. Be overly ostentatious
3. Dote on her
4. Be caught without a means of paying
5. Try to have sex for the first five date.

 

[SlowPoke68]

Bring:

1. $20 cash
2. Valid photo ID
3. Credit Card
4. Condom
5. Effective weapon

Maybe it's gender specific, but I don't remember weapons playing much of a part in the whole dating thing. Except for maybe when we would go to the range for a date.

Also, type A much? :laughing:

 

[JoetheBull]

Dating is a war zone sometimes. from what I heard anyway

 

[Neon Knight]

My best advice is the old saying: Don't trust anyone, because more than likely you'll end up disappointed if you do. And lower your expectations of other people, that's probably redundant but whatever :tongue:

 

[monotan]

1st time in tis forum, still i see the weapon as a predicted pervert creeping up on you n your date and you being the hero... P.S the pervert is your friend in disguise.

 

[Drea]

Wow xD If my parents gave me any of this advice, I'd be pretty offended.

&'Stay away from only children' = ouch.

 

[Neon Knight]

We only children and single parent children take a lot of flak in the forum by the looks of it. Of course from what I can see it's all from conservatives anyway, so I'm not shocked.

 

[pinkrasputin]

Don't leave the house without your chastity belt.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

Don't be blinded by romantic feelings into something stupid.
Don't be a whore if you expect respect.

 

[pinkrasputin]

Love takes time.
Love is an action
Just because someone is nice, doesn't mean you have to be with them.
Anyone can have sex. It doesn't make you special.
Your genitals are beautiful and a special part of you, don't give them to just anyone.
Trust your gut.
Sometimes people will say "I love you" just to have sex.
Stay true to yourself and trust your gut. If it feels wrong, that's justification enough.
If someone breaks up with you because you didn't go far enough, they are a jerk.
Don't trust manipulative women.
Often the sweetest girls are the biggest "hoes". Learn to be comfortable with saying "no".
Date. Don't get so serious.
Know yourself.
Think about your future.
Why do you think that senior is interested in an 8th grader? Why can't they just be with another senior?
If he doesn't come to the door or if he honks, he is an ass.
If he doesn't show your parent's respect, he is an ass.
If he doesn't treat you well, he is an ass.
If he doesn't wait, he is an ass.
Don't drink or do drugs around opposite sex. You may not be able to control yourself.
If someone convinces you that there is no need for a condom, be very WORRIED.
A girl who forces you into fatherhood is the same as a rapist.
Concentrate on school and having fun. There is nothing wrong with masturbation.
You're never going to regret the sex you didn't have at this age.
Don't use sex to keep a person.
Be with someone who respects you and who can communicate.
Be with someone who makes you feel good about yourself.
It's not just about sex, it's about being mature enough to handle the intense emotions afterwards.
Are you ready to become a parent?
Were their parents' involved in their lives?
If he or she uses drugs, dump them. You can't save them. They will never love you over their drug. You will always be second.
Look at the quality of your life when you are dating this person. Are you as successful in your studies/work when you are alone?
Don't date a person out of anger for your parents. YOU are the one who has to pay for that mistake.
Don't mercy date.
There are PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA.
Always remain respectful.
Don't make excuses for yourself.
Just sit back and judge for a loooong time.
In the beginning, it's not "love", it's infatuation. Infatuation doesn't last. At some point you both have to get real. You can either go a faulty lopsided route. Or you both can grow together as a couple and independently as well.
Pace your relationship. You both can be like two kids in a candy shop, but your tummies will get full fast. If the other partner can't pace it, do your job at pacing things the best you can. Just because you can be together all the time, doesn't mean you should be. PACE IT.
If someone is rushing you in a relationship, that is a red flag.