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Okay, so I was pondering this one...

I widely consider "alone" to include my husband and daughter (i.e. if I'm asked a question about whether I'd rather be alone at home or at a party)

I enjoy my quiet time at home and don't need much more than the company of my family. But...I can't STAND to be absolutely alone, completely by myself. Hate it. I go crazy. As in spend the whole evening in bed alone and pass out as quickly as possible just to get it over with crazy.

When I was younger and living at home, I'd leave home and go all the way to town and drive around on the hopes of finding someone to hang out with. I'd never sit by myself. Growing up, my mom never let either of us be totally alone in the house, even when we were in high school. Other than bath/shower time or occasionally a quiet walk, I have never enjoyed being truly alone.

Does this mean I'm an extrovert, since I do rely on others as my source of energy? Or does it just mean I'm an introvert who has issues being alone?
 

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I guess to put it bluntly , you sound to me like an introvert with some early childhood attachment issues. But don't put too much credence into my words, I'm definitely not a professional. Many people experience similar attachment problems for reasons worth exploring and dissecting. I do and have.
 

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Oh no, don't feel bad, I for SURE have anxious attachment issues. I figured that out not too long ago. I'm trying to pinpoint if they have anything at all to do with my personality type, or if I got those all on my own :) Thank you!
 

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i think it just makes you human. being introverted doesn't necessarily mean you want to be alone and completely by yourself all the time. you just prefer less company, in your case that'd be your family I assume. it might just be something you grew up being used to and now its different and takes you out of your comfort zone. I don't think you're an extrovert just because you hate being completely by yourself.
 

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I enjoy my quiet time at home and don't need much more than the company of my family. But...I can't STAND to be absolutely alone, completely by myself. Hate it. I go crazy. As in spend the whole evening in bed alone and pass out as quickly as possible just to get it over with crazy.

When I was younger and living at home, I'd leave home and go all the way to town and drive around on the hopes of finding someone to hang out with. I'd never sit by myself. Growing up, my mom never let either of us be totally alone in the house, even when we were in high school. Other than bath/shower time or occasionally a quiet walk, I have never enjoyed being truly alone.

Does this mean I'm an extrovert, since I do rely on others as my source of energy? Or does it just mean I'm an introvert who has issues being alone?
No, not necessarily. I am an extrovert but I absolutely must have alone time. Maybe the fact that I am a wife and mother exaggerates that need in me, because spare time is so precious now. My husband goes out every second Monday night, and I love that because that is my alone time to do whatever I want with. I don't have to talk to anyone, I don't have to do anything if I don't want to.

I love to socialise, as long as I can have time when I just sit in a cinema or my lounge and watch a movie, play on PerC, go for a run, read a book or even just to daydream :happy:. I really need those moments in order to function properly as a person, or I would get overwhelmed with life. So I don't think what you are saying is right, at least not for this extrovert.
 

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Okay, so I was pondering this one...

I widely consider "alone" to include my husband and daughter (i.e. if I'm asked a question about whether I'd rather be alone at home or at a party)

I enjoy my quiet time at home and don't need much more than the company of my family. But...I can't STAND to be absolutely alone, completely by myself. Hate it. I go crazy. As in spend the whole evening in bed alone and pass out as quickly as possible just to get it over with crazy.

When I was younger and living at home, I'd leave home and go all the way to town and drive around on the hopes of finding someone to hang out with. I'd never sit by myself. Growing up, my mom never let either of us be totally alone in the house, even when we were in high school. Other than bath/shower time or occasionally a quiet walk, I have never enjoyed being truly alone.

Does this mean I'm an extrovert, since I do rely on others as my source of energy? Or does it just mean I'm an introvert who has issues being alone?
No extraverts often prefer large groups and introverts prefer small little groups. You definitelty seem like more of an introvert to me.
 

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Absolutely no. I am conpletely an introvert, a very strong introvert. However I do hate to be totally by myself. But I want to be with my close group, or my significant other, or my family. Though I would not perfer to be in a large group. I also find it painfully anxiety ridden to need to go out to an event with my bf where I am not going to know anyone. He is an ISFP, but he's a very light I border line E and he's gonna want to float around talk to everyone, which is fine they're his friends, but I'll be going along with him quiet and shy and by the end I'll be so tired.
 

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YES. GTFO, Extravert! :tongue:
 

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I don't think so.

On this test I took once - another version of the Myers-Briggs, I think - it asked something along the lines of "do you prefer to be alone or with your significant other, as opposed to a big group of people?" My answer was yes. I hate being COMPLETELY alone unless I've spent a ton of time with another (1 or 2 people, although 2 is pushing it) and need some space from the person/people I am talking to. I need time to process thoughts and such.

It's only crowds I can't stand. But most times, if I feel I don't have one person who understands me whom I at least know I can spend time with when needed, I'll get extremely lonely. I'm not 100% introverted. I need people just as some if not all others do - I just need very few.
 

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I think you might just be an introvert with an sx/sp instinctual stacking :) I also had the same dilemma when trying to figure out if I was extroverted or introverted because I couldn't stand being alone. At the same time though, I didn't want to be around just anyone, it had to be my close relationships in order for me to feel okay. It's almost a paradox when you're introverted but can't stand being alone ;)
 

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Does this mean I'm an extrovert, since I do rely on others as my source of energy? Or does it just mean I'm an introvert who has issues being alone?
I do too, as an introvert.

I believe anyone needs some time alone once in a while, but also need time with others once in a while. Depending on the person how often which one, but the longer I am in one of them, I rather want to be in the other situation.
 

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Hating being alone sounds natural and extremely important for survival and natural selection. But we don't live in trees anymore.
 

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Introverts crave attention just as extroverts do, introverts just find their internal world more stimulating than the external world. I myself, being an introvert, still long for companionships, friends and lovers, maybe even more so than common extrovert. I feel being a loner isn't really associated with introvert/extroverts
 

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Not necessarily. Extroverts get their energy from interacting with others as well as being around them. It could be that the fact that there's other people around makes you feel more secure, like that if they're there, if something happens, someone will look out for you.
My sister-in-law is like that. She's a definite introvert, but if my brother's away on a business trip, she goes to her parents' house so she doesn't have to be all alone in the apartment.
 

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No.

Firstly, Extroversion and Introversion are about focus. Although this often influences how we interact with others and how we socialise, it is not inherently about socialising or other people. Introversion simply means your focus is internal. You can get lonely just like anyone else.

Secondly, Introverts and Extroverts alike desire company. It is simply the nature or the company that differs. Extroverts like breadth of interaction, Introverts like depth of interaction. Besides that, we're just human beings, and it's perfectly natural for us to feel lonely and in need of company regardless of our "version".
 

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Introversion and extroversion have to do where you get where you draw your energy from. if you draw energy from yourself, introvert, if you draw energy from others, extrovert. bing bang boom.
of course you can't fit those into little boxes like that, but, yeah, those are the basics.
 
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