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I was wondering and sitting here dwelling in my own thoughts and feelings that there would be so many tidbits of advice that I would loved to have heard from someone growing up to deal with living in an extroverted-sensation seeking world. So just wondering if you could tell your younger self anything what would it be? What encouragement would you give to other ENFPs who feel different and misunderstood?
 

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I was wondering and sitting here dwelling in my own thoughts and feelings that there would be so many tidbits of advice that I would loved to have heard from someone growing up to deal with living in an extroverted-sensation seeking world. So just wondering if you could tell your younger self anything what would it be? What encouragement would you give to other ENFPs who feel different and misunderstood?
I would try to explain that they're unique as they're, not less competent than others and to allow the brain to lead when it comes to dealing with humans, it's always better.
 

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Reminds me of movies involving time travel :)

Please note I tend to be quite different from the majority in many things I say, but here is what I would tell my younger self:

"Learn to rely on your self and your own experience more than on any book, trend, fashion, mentality, culture, philosophy, model of reality, lifestyle or standard of values that exists outside of you. Remain indifferent to the experience of others, as yours can be completely different.

When you're unsure and looking for advice from others, follow the option that is based on the most ideal assumption of what you think would be ideal.

To make your life simpler and your mind independent of others, don't watch TV, stay indifferent or oblivious to popular culture, and in general, use your own mind when making judgments.

Try and live as healthy as possible.

Don't get tangled up in debate, but lead by example.
Don't wait for the approval of others but persuade through results.

Don't be distracted by naysayers while you pursue your dreams.

We are the creation, or rather "embodiment", of an entity approximately described by Christian tradition as God, but present in numerous alternative reality models which may or may not be accurate. The Orthodox and Roman Catholic Christian allegories of life match reality as closest as possible.
While their role in history is marked with much controversy, many parts of their original message permeate consistently in the pattern of leaps of scientific exploration and discovery.

Atheists are good thinkers but often dogmatic in their core beliefs about the unexplored and unproven. The agnostics are generally more consistent with the current stage of scientific exploration. Much is yet to be defined.

Just like the opportunistic Christian false prophets, also worldly populists use rhetoric and inconclusive data to spread propaganda on atheist views. Of course, none of that is science but pure ideological dictatorship inspired by a largely competition-oriented capitalist society.

Our increasingly atheist world places much importance on what feels good and what gives pleasure to the senses.
Don't be deceived by what seems to bring pleasure, don't be deceived by appearances.

Our entire human history was built on sweat, creative thinking, defiance towards the establishment and continuous evolution of our mind. Do try to figure out how come some people equate the promotion of shagging around like primates (promiscuous behavior) with evolution - whether as a species or as individuals.

Many of the arguments of populist atheism are flawed, or at LEAST unscientific.
Relativism for example: how can there be multiple factual truths?
At most, they are multiple interpretations, but not truths.

In time you will find a greater truth built in faith.
Because it was faith, boldness and courage that evolved our society and keeps evolving it, brought progress in values, technology and health - not the cynics to whom sex and booze represent the ultimate purpose of life!

Learn to love, love even if you are hated. You will discover many unexpected surprises when those who hate you know you love them."

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This is what I would tell the teenager I used to be around 10 years ago.
I wonder whether he would take any of this seriously :)
But somehow, life made him become who I am today.
I am proud indeed.
 
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Sit back and enjoy the ride. There are gonna be times where you question yourself, when you'd give anything go back and change the past. Take a step back and look at how everything that's happened has shaped who you are. You notice patterns so realize that this pain you're going through now will be a footnote by the time you're me. And if you happen to read this years in the future, just imagine you never wrote this and that it's the you even further down. He'd say the same thing.

I have inside resources. :proud:
 

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I would say - "good job!"

And then maybe "you are a beautiful person" and "you will find out what normal is"

And also "trust your instincts - you make the best decisions with your gut and your heart, not your head"
 
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1. Quit reading so much - go do something productive! I know you don't think you have the energy, but that is because you eat too much crap! Eat better, feel better, and get BUSIER! Get out your Mom's sewing machine and learn to use it! Learn to knit or crochet from your Grandma so that you won't have to teach yourself in twenty years!

2.Talk to your Grandmother more! Talk to your Grandfather more! Stop being so self-centered!!!!

3. Stop believing that life for everyone else really is like life is in the movies; everyone else's life really is as mundane as yours.

4.Quit spending all your time out and about scanning the room for "the one"! You are coming off needy and desperate and that is man-repellant. It is causing the following depressing cycle: "no one loves me. do you love me? You MUST love me! Oh, I'm obsessive. You've left me. No one loves me." Relax and be the cool person you are! You can find a husband later; now is the time to explore all of life's possibilities!

Oh, so many things...
 

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Sam Grewal is my sister. I Love her to death and she left home about a month ago. I want her to come back home. I don't know why she left but i really miss her. Sam I know you are reading this. I need you to come home PLEASE, or just call me!!!! I LOVE YOU AND I MISS YOU SO MUCH!
 

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Sam I don't know why you left and I don't know why your not calling me or texting me. Just contact me one time and we can talk and thats all I am asking!
 

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Remember that life goes on, you get stronger. Just keep on going. You'll meet amazing people who will change your life. The obsessive, formal, adorkable astrophysicist that you end up crushing on and meeting on the roof every night to use the telescope, the hyper, theatrical, yet scared little girl who you desperately want to keep safe? You're more than you think. And you'll end up in an amazing world, that has problems, true, but you can work to change them.
 

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Bad experiences happen, avoid dwelling, but learn from suffering. Don't be afraid to see what the red button does... be yourself and don't be afraid of it! Dress the wacky way you want too, be loud, be silly, get out there... don't be afraid that people won't like you - you'll discover that you have a gift for cheering people up, even at the worst of times. Don't let the tedious, uniform, painful and depressing moments of life get you down, you know the glass is always half-full and you really suck at being pessimistic, calculating or cold. You need to climb out of the hole you've fallen into, the only thing stopping you from being great is your own lack of self-esteem.
 

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your life is going to get so much better, just keep your head up, look forward to being around a whole new set of people in college, but for right now set a whole bunch of big goals for yourself, dont quit and go balls out on everything you do, get a tutor in school and ask for help, dont be a dickhead in school to get popular because in a few years all those kids arent even going to matter, and on the grand scale of life popularity is peanuts, practice love forgiving, being nonjudgemental and confident, when you turn 20 youre gonna loose the baby face and girls are gonna start thinking your a hotty, in the mean time buckle down and work your ass off
 

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"Don't go to college. Go to film school instead. And do it in a different state. Louisiana has really good tax breaks for filmmakers, go there and you'll be successful. Seriously, don't go to college. You will crash and burn, not only that, you're going to meet someone who's going to rip your heart out. Best not to meet him at all. Also try harder to get into acting and plays. Those memories will be more valuable to you than the memories of what you did with your family."
 
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