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Hey everyone,

So I'm apparently meant to introduce myself. I've known I'm an INFJ for many years now, and have generally always been quite certain of it. I understand and can relate to INFPs but I must conclude that INFJ is very prominent for me.

I'm an enneagram type 4, and it's a freaking pain in the backside to be very honest, but I love it, too. My wing is 3, and sometimes people can think I'm more extraverted than I really am, even other INFJs. Trust me... I'm a major introvert.

I've discovered recently that my tri-type is 469 (The Seeker) and this rings true to me.

A little more about myself: I'm a Counsellor and really love to be there for people but this is purely because of this huge depth of emotion that I feel, and I want there to be peace and harmony in the world. If I'm that much of an empath that I absorb what others feel, I may as well try to do something about it, right? I'm trying to get out of this "fixer" complex, and instead create the mentality that people don't need fixing, because that implies that they're broken and I don't want anybody to feel broken. How counter-productive...

When I was little, my idol was MJ, and I wanted to change the world. Now I'm more intent on changing the worlds of individual people I meet, and my own worldly perception as I mature in life. Hopefully it creates a ripple effect. In general, I'm pretty damn emotional. I have a major hard time controlling my moodiness but on the surface I speak as if I'm kind of disconnected from what I feel and that's been something I'm working on. I love art, and I love to write so much. I go through existential crises pretty often but that's alright. It's a learning process.

Finally, I used to go on about how alone I always felt when I was young, because I was misunderstood and people always abandoned me. I still have this issue but I'm growing out of it and changing my perspective as time goes on.

Nice to meet you, and hopefully I haven't bored you too much yet ;)

I'd love you to pick my brain and give me insights based on what I've told you about my type/s.
 

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Welcome, fellow 4!

The same happened to me trying to figure out my MBTI type but I'm quite certain is INTP. An INTP 4w5. Crazy, right? My tri-type is 458, though.

I had to go through a similar state of mind, first because I thought I was the one broken, than I thought the world was broken although I already grew out of it. I also encourage people to know that they don't need fixing, many people tell me this and I think it's a 4 thing, we have this kind of "aura" that allow other people to be themselves without worrying about being judged.

It feels like I'm kind of reading myself here, because I also want to have an impact among individuals I meet, I want to show people that there is necessarily something wrong with them. That they should embrace their "weirdness". As long as it doesn't harm anyone else, of course.

Nice to meet you too, you sound really interesting!
 

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I'd love you to pick my brain
*As ButIHaveCheer wanders past a familiar shop window, something catches her eye*

"Hi, ButIHaveCheer! Anything I can get you?"

"Yes, I think I'd like to select a brain today."

*ButIHaveCheer looks over the options, but one particular glistening pink brain catches her eye. She smiles.*

"I'll pick that one!"

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What are some painful things about being an enneagram 4?
 
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Nice to meet you too, you sound really interesting!
So nice to meet you! Thanks for sharing that with me, I can understand exactly what you mean. It's really the same with me. People do feel comfortable around us, like they're not going to be judged. I'm glad we can have that affect on people because we know what it's like to be rejected. Definitely a 4 thing.

Looking forward to hearing more from you!
 

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*As ButIHaveCheer wanders past a familiar shop window, something catches her eye*

"Hi, ButIHaveCheer! Anything I can get you?"

"Yes, I think I'd like to select a brain today."

*ButIHaveCheer looks over the options, but one particular glistening pink brain catches her eye. She smiles.*

"I'll pick that one!"

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What are some painful things about being an enneagram 4?
I LOVE THAT SO MUCH! Haha.

Painful things about being a 4: Super intense emotions. Basically it's the end of the world whenever some emotion bubbles up inside that's anything but peaceful... When it comes, it's like "I WANT TO RIP MY HEART OUT. OH GOD!"
Difficulty regulating those emotions. Also, the fact that when something good happens, there's always that need for some form of melancholy. Like... Yes, there's so much love here and that's so beautiful, but it might be taken away from me and that makes me really sad and I'm not sure if I should even let myself feel that beauty AT ALL. Noooooooo....

There's more but I don't want to embarrass myself too much :eek:h:
 
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