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0. Is there anything that may affect the way you answer the questions? For example, a stressful time, mental illness, medications, special life circumstances? Other useful information includes sex, age, and current state of mind.

I have ICS (Irritable Colon Syndrome) which in my case means stress causes diarrhea. I really hate it.
It might be partly because of physical reasons (too much stomach acid is my guess) though they found nothing (but they didn't check acid). They found a mild case of NALD (Non-alcoholic fatty liver disease) but that's really nothing.
Or it might be purely psychological (which I doubt because antacids do help - OTOH that might be a placebo effect). I have developed something that I self-diagnose as agoraphobia: when I know I need to go to some unknown place or to some bureau I'm already stressed because I know I'll get diarrhea from the stress. When I do get a sudden diarrhea it really feels like a form of panic attack but I might be wrong.
This is very very very unpleasant. The fear of crapping my pants is much worse than your usual fear of death panic.

I'm writing this from work "in secret". That might affect my answers as well.

1. Click on this link: Flickr: Explore! Look at the random photo for about 30 seconds. Copy and paste it here, and write about your impression of it.
I'm not sure I can copy the image here as I have too few post counts. Here is the cropped link:
photos/irenesuchocki/9090860029/in/explore-2013-06-20
It's a waterfall in black and white. Originally I looked it for half a second and thought this looks like neurons. Then I checked the other photos but there was way too many of them. I went back and forced myself to look at the waterfalls for 30 seconds while counting in my head. I found it also reminds me of long hair or spiderwebs. It somehow has a nice silvery glow to it. And I also like the rocks. (The shine also appeared to me during the initial half second look, it's just hard to describe with words thus I left it to the end.)

2. You are with a group of people in a car, heading to a different town to see your favourite band/artist/musician. Suddenly, the car breaks down for an unknown reason in the middle of nowhere. What are your initial thoughts? What are your outward reactions?
"OH MY GOD! Not that!" - Then I go panic and start to feel gripes. I'm busy trying to repress panic (that, or search for a bush) while the others find a solution.
If I'm in a better mood I suggest calling a car fixer (Yellow Angel it's called over here) and then wait unless it's something we're able to solve ourselves like changing a wheel. In this case I'll suggest ways how to do it and participate helping in the process but I'm not the one doing it -unless I'm the only one that can do it.

3. You somehow make it to the concert. The driver wants to go to the afterparty that was announced (and assure you they won't drink so they can drive back later). How do you feel about this party? What do you do?
I'd probably dislike the idea at first. I like to know plans like that in advance so I can prepare mentally. It depends much on the concrete situation. If I really like these people and feel like partying anyway than it's ok. Otherwise I might feel trapped. I might even come up with an alternative way to get home without them.

4. On the drive back, your friends are talking. A friend makes a claim that clashes with your current beliefs. What is your inward reaction? What do you outwardly say?
My inward reaction is: "No. That's BS." I say nothing outwardly. If they say it directly to me I'm nodding politely and search for something partly related to the claim with which I can agree and start talking about that. If they are really close to me then I express my view of the subject - that is, when I know I won't cause indignation.

5. What would you do if you actually saw/experienced something that clashes with your previous beliefs, experiences, and habits?
Like what? I have difficulties understanding this question. I think I'd just walk past ignoring it. If it's something disturbing like a tussle then I'll have my heart beating fast and feel really uncomfortable ... but end up still doing nothing. I'll have the event replayed in my head several times afterwards coming up with various ideas about what I should have done.

6. What are some of your most important values? How did you come about determining them? How can they change?
Creativity, intelligence, deepness, artistic talent.
That's really a shame but I think I've always been told by my parents and siblings how creative and deep thinking and talented I am.
They are fading due to sleep deprivation and me getting more and more disillusioned and uninterested in the world. (E.g. all those years of pondering about the world only awarded me with a thousand reasons to why finding the meaning of life is impossible.)

7. a) What about your personality most distinguishes you from everyone else? b) If you could change one thing about you personality, what would it be? Why?
a) I honestly don't know if I'm more clever or more dumb than others but I definitely think differently than other people. I hide my views because I don't want to be hated for them. (E.g. generalization is not a morally bad thing. It's the basement of human thinking, come on. Or the contradictions in that tolerance crap (you should tolerate everyone, except those who don't think the same way... and those who do this and that... and those, and those).)
b) I'd like to be more brave and not so neurotic. Why? Because I'd be SO awesome then!

8. How do you treat hunches or gut feelings? In what situations are they most often triggered?
Those are very important to me. I think I rely on them most when relating to people. I can't tell why I like someone or why I dislike them (speaking of "normal" people here).

9. a) What activities energize you most? b) What activities drain you most? Why?
I don't know. Finding solution to a problem? Physical activities do have a positive after effect. But I do them rarely.
It rather works the other way around. There are days when I'm somehow magically energized. Then I'm proactive, funny, open. I don't know what triggers it, but I sure wish it would trigger more often.

10. What do you repress about your outward behavior or internal thought process when around others? Why?
Everything? (I admit, I'm getting tired by this quiz.) I'm consciously and sub-consciously acting as a chameleon. I'm trying to be what I auto-intuit other people would like me to be. Do I even have an own personality?
Imagine how I hate it when I somehow meet with two different people who both know me but don't know each other.
 

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Hmm. Am I that hard to type?
I can tell you that I'm INFP. And now you can tell me that no, you're rather ISFJ. But this kinda takes the fun away...
 

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generalization is not a morally bad thing. It's the basement of human thinking, come on.
True. It's also the hallmark of lazy thinking.

I have developed something that I self-diagnose as agoraphobia: when I know I need to go to some unknown place or to some bureau I'm already stressed because I know I'll get diarrhea from the stress.
Agoraphobia?

I'm consciously and sub-consciously acting as a chameleon. I'm trying to be what I auto-intuit other people would like me to be.
Why do you think you do this?
 
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First of all, thank you for your reply!
Unfortunately there is not much I can agree with, but still, I appreciate your response.

True. It's also the hallmark of lazy thinking.
Hmm. Now is it truly the basement of human thinking or is it the hallmark of lazy thinking? Or do you mean that human thinking is inherently lazy? Your statement was also a generalization btw.

Agoraphobia?
The fear of fear. Check it out on the Wikipedia (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agoraphobia). Note it's only something in me I identify as Agoraphobia. I have not been officially diagnosed with anything. At this point I was to delete my overly honest description of my ICS problems but it turns out the thread starting post is not editable... That's life.

Why do you think you do this?
I want to avoid being negatively judged by people.
 

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Do you think you could be an Fe user?
 

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How should I know?
Btw. as an ESFP aren't you supposed to be out there partying instead of gazing at a personality forum? :p
I could see you as an IxFJ. You know yourself best though.

Nah, us ESFPs are too lazy for that in the morning haha.
 
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I could see you as an IxFJ. You know yourself best though.

Nah, us ESFPs are too lazy for that in the morning haha.
Maybe I have a mutant X-personality. I do have J traits. Things can annoy me sometimes if they are not the way I'd want them to be. I'm not that overly tolerant. Also I don't like changes in my life - still, too much permanency makes me bored after a while. But the level of procrastination, laziness, getting late from _everywhere_, living in a messy apartment, not being authoritative, not having a strong will simply deny me to be a J I think.

My personal indicator for deciding between J-P-ness is to take a look at how someone wraps up a present. My father's (INTJ) presents are always very neatly and efficiently wrapped. Mines however... I use up a large chunk of paper, way too many pieces of duct tape and it still looks as if it was done by a 5 year old. :)
 

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Maybe I have a mutant X-personality. I do have J traits. Things can annoy me sometimes if they are not the way I'd want them to be. I'm not that overly tolerant. Also I don't like changes in my life - still, too much permanency makes me bored after a while. But the level of procrastination, laziness, getting late from _everywhere_, living in a messy apartment, not being authoritative, not having a strong will simply deny me to be a J I think.

My personal indicator for deciding between J-P-ness is to take a look at how someone wraps up a present. My father's (INTJ) presents are always very neatly and efficiently wrapped. Mines however... I use up a large chunk of paper, way too many pieces of duct tape and it still looks as if it was done by a 5 year old. :)
Taking a cognitive functions would be best IMO. But interesting personal indicator!
 

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Ok. So I kinda concluded that I must be INFP. But then INFP-s are supposed to be selfless and I'm very selfish. So now I ponder if I'm a very lazy and messy INFJ? Problem is I can't find a detailed INFJ description only that they are introverted and rare.
So I took the "brutally honest" OCKupid test I found a link to around the PercC forum only to find out I'd need to register to receive my results. So I went and took the "basic" MBTI test one more time. Problem is some questions can be interpreted multiple ways and I'd answer differently based on which interpretation I take.
Aaaand, I scored ISTP! wtf? (S only 1% though).
So I'm still confused....
 

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I'll gather some info here from other threads that might be relevant:

Hmm, that stress situation question is really interesting! Stress is supposed to bring out your 4th function, right?
And the way you described your reaction seemed very Te to me.
I can relate as someone that has trouble deciding between INTP/INFP. I'm more inclined towards thinking I'm INFP.
However I don't buy into that 'value system' BS I'm supposed to have inside my head.

One time at a party this guy came up to me really violently and pushed me to the wall accusing me of having phoned his girlfriend in his name. It was an odd situation, I didn't even know the guy's name though I did know his gf.
I became extremely calm and logical as I tried to question why he thought it was me. Later this incident stirred up a lot of emotions in me. In fact now that I write about it I'm once again pissed up (that was like 10 years ago). I will never forgive that humiliation.

But the point is, my stress reaction was very similar to yours and I think it's our inferior Te in action.

Edit: now I'll spend the next 30 minutes fantasizing about taking my revenge... *evil laugh*
I'm not sure I'm INFP or INTP. My basic personality is very honest but of course I've learned to hide that.
My body structure is ok I think and I've never been too happy about my face but I kinda got used to it. I look like Harry Potter to be honest - that is before I grew a beard.
As somebody wrote: outwardly calm, inwardly intense. Also I'm somehow full of contradictions.
I'm kinda lazy and selfish though I'm caring at the same time (one of those contradictions again).
I have a high IQ and I'm a software developer. I used to constantly ponder about the world, the meaning of life, etc. But lately I'm becoming uninterested at the subject and I'm too sleepy for it too.

As for a partner.
Yes, the face is very very important. Also, she needs to be kind.
I somehow always fell for the "happy extrovert" type girls as someone put it before.
I think my wife is probably ESFP. There is a very deep, somehow child-like honest level on which we are bond.

I have a growing suspicion that INFP-s are a very bad match for each-other.
I suspect, since we tend to idealize much, INFP girls long for alpha males while INFP guys dream about models.
Wow! It's very interesting to me because quite a long time ago I saw on whatever forum a thread: what animal would you choose to be?

I thought long about it and I came up with choosing Galapagos Tortoise!
Why? Because I'd have no enemies. I'd have a peaceful life, countless years to be lost in my head. And everyone would just leave me alone. Ain't it the best animal to be?
Do I regret I don't have the patience to go through all the posts!

RE to whoever wrote these:
- Solaris (1972) is a great film but it's actually a Soviet film by Andrei Tarkovsky
- Stardust: hell yes! Best INFP movie ever if you ask me
- Office Space: I simply love that film (software developer here)
- Amelie: is that really really that good? I never actually saw it, but now I may need to give it a try. That girl staring at me with those eyes... freaks me out. (Love the soundtrack though.)

Some own nominations:
- Hunger Games: really loved the details of the portrayed negative utopia, plus parts were very touching
- The Village (2004): made my brain work the whole time coming up with various theories what the hell it was all about. Really enjoyed watching it.
- Adam's Apples: simply the movie which had the greatest effect on me ever. Must see!!!
 

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The fear of fear. Check it out on the Wikipedia (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agoraphobia). Note it's only something in me I identify as Agoraphobia. I have not been officially diagnosed with anything. At this point I was to delete my overly honest description of my ICS problems but it turns out the thread starting post is not editable... That's life.
LOL, sorry if I was unclear (I meant the question mark to act as a raised eyebrow). Agoraphobia is actually fear of crowded spaces.
 
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