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Greetings fair people of PC,

My boyfriend of 6 months, a dictionary INTP, and I, an ENTP that teeters on ENTJ, broke up. Our relationship has been extremely unfair, and it is completely my fault. Here is why:

He gave me absolutely everything and never said no to me. He understands me like no other, and for all intents and purposes is absolutely in love with me. He is the only person that ever appealed to my heart. But unfortunately, being the overachieving social butterfly that I am, I did not return the same affection and love. I was far too independent and focused entirely on myself and my career to fully appreciate and leverage this, and by the time I realized my mistake it was far too late and I drove him away. I am fully aware that he did this for me, that he wants to give me the time and the space to think about what I want from this relationship, and more importantly, where I went wrong with him and how I can go about fixing it.

I can tell that he is emotional about it too, because in my bumbling eagerness to patch things up, I invited him to coffee and after a while of back and forth, he ended with "but until you stop thinking about you and think about what you did and what i REALLY want, you won't get it", the "it" in this scenario is his love for me.

The ball is entirely in his court now, and am ready to show him that I am hopelessly in love with him. I think (hope) he realizes this as well but wants full confirmation.

This is where you come in, my new friends. How do I go about doing this? Because it requires a steady hand and a mountain of patience and I am so scared that I'll blow even this last chance because of my tendency to jump the gun. Because if I do this right, I have every chance of getting back together with him.

Please help a girl out!
 

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Bring out the cookies!

Also, welcome to the forum! ^^
 

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INTPs usually do not care much about relationships, and if they know it will not work out usually have no problem cutting the person off.

My personal recommendation is to prove to him that you deserve him, if you keep blindly chasing him he will not allow you to catch up. You need to stop and think about what would get him back. In his mind you have likely gone back to where you were before you met, and you must get past all the yellow tape all over again.

(Im an INTP myself BTW, and am just telling you what would happen for me)
 
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