So the last girl I loved was my best friend and dating another guy (at the time my friend). Two years ago she had liked me and confessed to me, but I rejected her because I liked her and another girl at the time, she then told me to tell her if I ever liked her in the future. So a few months later she gets with my friend and dated him for the next 2 years. One day I find on her blog that she's thinking about breaking up with him and feels 'unworthy' to be his girlfriend. Fast forward to the present, now we had just started talking again due to her boyfriend's (who is insanely insecure and jealous) selfish request and while we are all hanging out we get to talking about our other friend's wedding that was coming up, after a few laughs and an exchange of words, she asks if I would marry her. So I just laugh it off and later tell her that she shouldn't have asked such an important question so casually, she then gets mad at me and tells me that we shouldn't be friends anymore, so I ask her if she would meet up with me to talk. We meet up, she tells me I'm her best friend, kisses me and tells me she's breaking up with him, I tell her to think about it and make sure she's making the right decision, we talk on the phone for hours during the week and the next week she goes to Hawaii with him and his family and tells me that she won't be breaking up with him, and that I'm just a friend to her. I keep my cool and tell her that if that's what she wants to do, then do it, and that I'm happy if she's happy. Her boyfriend then finds out that she had kissed me and breaks up with her. The boyfriend calls me and tells me that I should comfort her, so I go to her place and after much debate with the boyfriend to try and convince him to change his mind, I stay with her for the night. For the next couple days or so we hang out and do things that any friends would do because I'm not trying to make her my girlfriend, I mean she had JUST broken up with her ex. One night when I'm playing poker I get a call and obviously she had been crying, she asks me if I can come over so I tell her that I'll be there right after I finish this game. She says ok but when I call her later she doesn't pick up, and she's not sleeping. Later I receive a text saying that she wants to talk. So we meet up the next day and she tells me that she's not giving up on her ex and that in order for them to work out, I need to be out of the picture, and tells me that we can't talk anymore. So again I say fine and leave. A few weeks later we see each other at the wedding reception (for the friends who were getting married) and she's all by herself, she compliments my outfit and asks me how i'm doing, I say that I'm doing ok and she looks cold so I offer her my jacket, she refuses and then tells me that she's going to go inside (we are on a cruise btw). So I've been avoiding her like the plague and we haven't talked/seen each other in a few weeks.
Questions:
A. Should I have not rejected her in the first place?
B. Did I make a mistake in meeting up with her to keep our friendship?
C. Should I have been more honest/forceful of my feelings instead of trying to 'please' her and letting her do what she wanted?
D. Any other mistakes?
It's kind of long and boring so thanks for reading/answering
Questions:
A. Should I have not rejected her in the first place?
B. Did I make a mistake in meeting up with her to keep our friendship?
C. Should I have been more honest/forceful of my feelings instead of trying to 'please' her and letting her do what she wanted?
D. Any other mistakes?
It's kind of long and boring so thanks for reading/answering