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In pursuit of a meaningful life - desperately seeking co-motivators

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Hey guys,

After months of lurking around, I am finally doing a post - yay! Apologies if I'm breaking any rules.

So I've recently realised I'm an INFP after many years of struggling with my personality, loneliness, not fitting in, having seemingly far-fetched and idealistic goals. Despite this, I've remained grounded and pursued an analytical and logical career path. BSc in Economics, MSc in project management which led to good paying jobs. I had good grades at school but I remember struggling to concentrate, day dreaming in class or even not going at all. But I was motivated by the light at the end of the tunnel - one day, I would belong to the workforce, be free and independent. This was my main motivation to study hard at school.

Anyway, it didn't quite work out that way. I have now ended up in an analyst role in a bank with good managers and salary and prospects etc. But I truly cannot stand the activities I do in my day job. It bores me to tears and I have no interest in it whatsoever. It involves messing about with spreadsheets, doing some data quality. I spend 75% of my day pretending to be busy and the remaining 25% rushing to complete everything I should have done earlier.

I am not one to sit around and moan (well not anymore) so I have decided to actively seek a career that I actually give a s**t about. I'm setting up a business with a couple of other people who I can delegate stuff to. It's the simplest business model to execute (for me anyway) - we've actually started selling. Yes, I know that new businesses rarely succeed etc... so I'm going into this with my eyes wide open. I hope to start test running my two other income streams soon. I have a date to leave my bank job i.e. December 31st.

Now this all sounds well and good but I have one big problem that could mar this plan - PROCRASTINATION. I can assure you nobody around me thinks this is a good idea. I don't have any real friends so nobody actually cares what I do. In any case, I really don't want to be one of those people who are stuck in their jobs, living above their means and pining desperately for the weekend while playing the lottery and hoping it will rescue them from their day jobs. Not that there's anything wrong with that - it's just not for me.

I am eager to hear from people also implementing or considering a life plan of any kind right now. What are you doing? Can we motivate each other? Pretty please be nice to the newbie :)
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You are complaining about procrastination?

This complaint doesn't even compute.

On a severity scale, your problems are minor in comparison to other major issues, like, having no money and no food.
You do not understand, the procastination is not wanting to do something cos there is something inside of your heart that is holding it back, so each day is a struggle to bypass that and push beyond it to complete the task. So hence the OP is asking, "what is the best strategy for me to find something and do something as a job that I cannot have this feeling of needing to stop myself from doing this?" To me, this is a very mature thing to do, cos it is taking responsibility of oneself, and their life.

I have read the original post, and I myself have gone down a similar path too, but I can say to the OP that, maybe it is best to always start a business which you find curious and has an interest in. Also, maybe your life's journey will not be static. You can try different things, and gain different experiences to suit you as well. I set myself a goal 11 years ago, and in 2 year's time, I too would be financially free.

What I have forsaken was to settle down and have children, which was my original aim. I also thought about starting my own little business too around this time. But it took me a long of emotional credits to be where I am now, and I am totally burnt.

I thought of a lot of ideas back then, but even now, I have not thought of a more solid idea, but I have better ideas on what I like best. i.e. food, dancing, nutrition, ayurvedic (which is something I found out today, and is equivalent to Chinese medicine too). To me, I won't ever be a psychologist, cos it is not me, and not what I represent. Healthcare and eastern medicine is more and more popular now in the UK than ever before, so there is a gap somewhere too. I may consider things like that.

To me, to add value to society is to provide something of offer which does not exist. Why does "social networking" works so well in the US and is labelled as such? Because in the move towards globalisation, the community spirit is dead. this also explains why the increase of psychologists exists in the past 10-20 years, rather than to create communities, ,and enhance social cohesion. There is a movement now across many US states in bringing manufacturing back as a local basis. I whole-heartedly embrace this. I read a magazine called Monocle and this shows you the trend of how people live these days. If you are serious about starting a business, which holds true to your heart, and add social values, then the magazine may give you some ideas?

I would if I could, eliminate obseities... and how people cannot even get access to fresh food ! Basic human right. I too hope to add value to society...
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I understand quite well.
I procrastinated a lot when I was in college and my grades suffered.
It was boring and I didn't really like what I was doing.
At least the OP is making good money.
Stop whining and find a hobby. You are more fortunate than most people.
Somebody is jealous.....!
I do not see the problem at all for bettering oneself and being actually open in asking for that help. Maybe you do... but that's you. Anyway, I say well done to the OP for really asking this Q. :)

Well, I just read another article previously the other week about an intern dying from overworking and exhaustion. He was trying to get into banking and stay there, but it was obvious that he was used... "Fortunate than most" ? You have to walk in someone else's shoes to understand what they have and what they are dealing with. If you cannot be sympathetic, then shush and do not contribute ! Ta-da !

My so-called life as*an intern*at Merrill Lynch - Home News - UK - The Independent
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