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In pursuit of a meaningful life - desperately seeking co-motivators

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Hey guys,

After months of lurking around, I am finally doing a post - yay! Apologies if I'm breaking any rules.

So I've recently realised I'm an INFP after many years of struggling with my personality, loneliness, not fitting in, having seemingly far-fetched and idealistic goals. Despite this, I've remained grounded and pursued an analytical and logical career path. BSc in Economics, MSc in project management which led to good paying jobs. I had good grades at school but I remember struggling to concentrate, day dreaming in class or even not going at all. But I was motivated by the light at the end of the tunnel - one day, I would belong to the workforce, be free and independent. This was my main motivation to study hard at school.

Anyway, it didn't quite work out that way. I have now ended up in an analyst role in a bank with good managers and salary and prospects etc. But I truly cannot stand the activities I do in my day job. It bores me to tears and I have no interest in it whatsoever. It involves messing about with spreadsheets, doing some data quality. I spend 75% of my day pretending to be busy and the remaining 25% rushing to complete everything I should have done earlier.

I am not one to sit around and moan (well not anymore) so I have decided to actively seek a career that I actually give a s**t about. I'm setting up a business with a couple of other people who I can delegate stuff to. It's the simplest business model to execute (for me anyway) - we've actually started selling. Yes, I know that new businesses rarely succeed etc... so I'm going into this with my eyes wide open. I hope to start test running my two other income streams soon. I have a date to leave my bank job i.e. December 31st.

Now this all sounds well and good but I have one big problem that could mar this plan - PROCRASTINATION. I can assure you nobody around me thinks this is a good idea. I don't have any real friends so nobody actually cares what I do. In any case, I really don't want to be one of those people who are stuck in their jobs, living above their means and pining desperately for the weekend while playing the lottery and hoping it will rescue them from their day jobs. Not that there's anything wrong with that - it's just not for me.

I am eager to hear from people also implementing or considering a life plan of any kind right now. What are you doing? Can we motivate each other? Pretty please be nice to the newbie :)
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I too have just made my first post today and realized after alot of trial and error that I am an INFP.

I am almost thirty and have been in the IT field for nearly 10 years.

Procrastination gets me everyday. Hell its getting me right now. I am posting this here instead of doing some mundane IT task.

I used to love IT work and as we know INFP's need passion in order to do a good job. I am so bored with it I absolutely am horrid. I get things done like at the very very last minute.

I am currently about to move into another field as a Cisco Network Engineer. I have been telling myself that I will be connecting everyone around the world and that is what gives me the drive to go forth with it.

I love music more than anything and that is what I would love to do as a job.. but its not realistic.

Depending on how old you are I would say the sky is the limit on you finding a job that makes you happy. I really never give up hope even as hard as times get sometimes.

Try to find something you can be doing that has good things going for it even if its not exactly what you want. I am going into the network engineer field with the hope of getting my secret clearance again so I can travel around the world.

Sorry about the ramblings. :tongue:
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You are complaining about procrastination?

This complaint doesn't even compute.

On a severity scale, your problems are minor in comparison to other major issues, like, having no money and no food.
Shes procrastinating because shes bored. Having a job that is boring and meaningless to her does not make her happy. If she is not happy she is not happy and that's not good.

Being happy in life is very important and severe in my opinion.

Does that compute? :happy:
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Hey waggz, why do you think music is not realistic as a job? Have you explored any possibilities? Do you play any instruments? What type of music do you like? I'm starting piano and singing classes next month but only as a hobby as I've always wanted to learn.

Yes, I'm just trying to find a career that will give me more control of my time - I've checked and it doesn't exist so I have to create one. Your plans sound exciting - is it difficult to get your secret clearance?
Its just not realistic for me personally. I found out that I was actually naturally quite good at it... but way too late. I could probably explore possibilities, but I would have to dedicate a lot of time that I don't have right now. I actually started to sign up for this college for music production and engineering just to do it. I may end up still doing it and if I get a job with that I will be very happy.

I like really weird electronic music. I always Stuff you may have never heard of.. but maybe you have ;). I really like all music that is actually musical. I don't have a huge appreciation for the mainstream stuff that has been coming out lately.

I play the keyboard/midi and computer. I am not really any good.. but I do have fun!

Ah... more control of your time. Feeling the crunch from your mundane hourly schedule like a vice squeezing the life out of you? hehe me too.

Yes traveling around the world sounds very exciting to me too. I will get to see many types of people and things. I am going to look at it as my life adventure. I have already been on one life adventure with the Air Force when I was younger and need another one now... so hopefully this will be the last adventure that I need.

It is sort of difficult to get your clearance but not really. If you are from the U.S it requires good credit and no felonies or crazy stuff on your record. The secret clearance is the lowest level clearance for the U.S military.

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