Hi everyone!
(I'm sorry it turned out to be such a long post. Conclusion is below.)
Yesterday my old group of friends and I saw each other again. And at least I feel this way, but when we haven't seen each other for a while, it always seems like meeting again for the first time. (I mean the comfortable kind, not the socially awkward kind.)
I also met some of their partners, which shed a whole new light on those friends. (Again, the good kind.)
All this made me think about the relationships we form (friendships and romantic relationships), what kind of person we attract and who we actually need.
(I'll define "to need a person" as someone who makes you enjoy life more and supports you along the way. Not in the sense of two halves make a whole, but more like two wholes that fit each other well. If that makes any sense at all...)
When I looked at some of the couples together, it felt like a picture perfect. They just clicked, just like we did as friends so many years ago, which is just utterly beautiful to see.
And it's kind of funny how many of them can be fitted into a stereotype (which isn't all they are, of course).
In some cases, I would've never put those two people together. Imagine, 'the serious one' with 'the rebel', or 'the dreamer' with 'the more conservative one'... That said, I would never have put us together as a group of friends either, even though it works out so well.
And as I started imagining myself with a partner, as I do, I realized I have no clue about what kind of person I actually 'need'. I'm only sure about this: “Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” A quote by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (Airman's Odyssey).
But that speaks for itself, in my opinion. Yet I feel the need for specifics. (As impossible and ridiculous that is.)
I'm not asking because I want to control the situation, which should develop naturally. I just never had much experience with dating (specifically) and making new friends (as I have known these people for a long time). So I have nothing to compare it to. To be honest, my fears and past may have something to do with it too.
That aside, yes, I know we could probably work with any type of person, but apparently the absurd idea of a soulmate hasn't left my brain yet. Even though I know there is no 'one', but 'many' in fact.
So, INFPs, although I hate to generalize, we usually end up with a similar conclusion (even if we are all very different individuals). My question for you: What kind of person in your experience fitted you best in your life?
OR IN SHORT: if someone would ask me what I'm looking for in a person (in a romantic relationship or friendship) I would have no idea how to answer them. I don't know what I need, which can be easier to notice as an outsider or as an INFP yourself.
I'm looking forward to reading your replies!
(again, I'm sorry for the lenght and the possible banality of this thread)
(Also, I know I'm overthinking this... what else is new?)
(I'm sorry it turned out to be such a long post. Conclusion is below.)
Yesterday my old group of friends and I saw each other again. And at least I feel this way, but when we haven't seen each other for a while, it always seems like meeting again for the first time. (I mean the comfortable kind, not the socially awkward kind.)
I also met some of their partners, which shed a whole new light on those friends. (Again, the good kind.)
All this made me think about the relationships we form (friendships and romantic relationships), what kind of person we attract and who we actually need.
(I'll define "to need a person" as someone who makes you enjoy life more and supports you along the way. Not in the sense of two halves make a whole, but more like two wholes that fit each other well. If that makes any sense at all...)
When I looked at some of the couples together, it felt like a picture perfect. They just clicked, just like we did as friends so many years ago, which is just utterly beautiful to see.
And it's kind of funny how many of them can be fitted into a stereotype (which isn't all they are, of course).
In some cases, I would've never put those two people together. Imagine, 'the serious one' with 'the rebel', or 'the dreamer' with 'the more conservative one'... That said, I would never have put us together as a group of friends either, even though it works out so well.
And as I started imagining myself with a partner, as I do, I realized I have no clue about what kind of person I actually 'need'. I'm only sure about this: “Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” A quote by Antoine de Saint-Exupéry (Airman's Odyssey).
But that speaks for itself, in my opinion. Yet I feel the need for specifics. (As impossible and ridiculous that is.)
I'm not asking because I want to control the situation, which should develop naturally. I just never had much experience with dating (specifically) and making new friends (as I have known these people for a long time). So I have nothing to compare it to. To be honest, my fears and past may have something to do with it too.
That aside, yes, I know we could probably work with any type of person, but apparently the absurd idea of a soulmate hasn't left my brain yet. Even though I know there is no 'one', but 'many' in fact.
So, INFPs, although I hate to generalize, we usually end up with a similar conclusion (even if we are all very different individuals). My question for you: What kind of person in your experience fitted you best in your life?
OR IN SHORT: if someone would ask me what I'm looking for in a person (in a romantic relationship or friendship) I would have no idea how to answer them. I don't know what I need, which can be easier to notice as an outsider or as an INFP yourself.
I'm looking forward to reading your replies!
(again, I'm sorry for the lenght and the possible banality of this thread)
(Also, I know I'm overthinking this... what else is new?)