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I'm having trouble discovering my type, that being said I'm rather open to my results, but I'd like to figure it out for both information and a little bit an emotional/ ego check. I have considered a couple different aspects of my situation and how those may affect my results. I'm a woman, a mother, in my late 20s, and was raised by sensing feelers.
I've been typed as an INTP and a 5 in my Enneagram.
I have a friend whose opinion I value (INTJ) who swears she believes I'm an ISFP or an INFP but with absolute certainty that I AM NOT an INTP.
I'm a recreational artist, I paint, sculpt, and do mixed media, I haven't ever found a medium I find difficult because usually I can make reasonable deductions of how to mold media to my will. In the past I didn't understand that not everyone could do this, I'm still often baffled but I know that technique can be taught but not intuition. After much consideration I think I can eliminate ISFP, what I described seems more of an NE artistic approach than an SE approach (correct me if I'm wrong).
So that leaves INFP or INTP.
I can enjoy conversations with "mom friends" though I will admit I pick up on the members of my group that have an extremely low tolerance of introspection or abstract conversation and I usually avoid them.
I can indulge the occasional small talk but I'm not sure what qualifies as small talk. We talk about weather, but we talk about affect weather can have on psyche. We talk about vaccinations and debate the ethical implications of not vaccinating and the actual validity of medical "professionals."
Is this still small talk?
I don't feel "cold" like most descriptions of INTPs, I do feel emotions don't have a place in difficult situations and when I do give counsel it's usually to tell my friends to stop being emotional and be rational. I don't think my friends like when I say that.
I sometimes have to excuse myself when they throw pity parties (Waa! My husband is the reason to all our marital problems. He won't listen to what I say but I have no interest in listening to him or helping him through his problems- true story. It happened last week and I almost gagged but instead I told her to stop complaining (it accomplishes nothing), distance herself from her feelings, be a reasonable adult and talk to her husband without judgement or bitterness. Everyone ignored me. I'm not sure why I actually have friends, maybe I just show up and make everyone uncomfortable. We may never know......).
However I digress!! Back to the subject.
I am not interested in reading history or creating a chronology. I'm an avid listener to passionate historians but find reading text books rather monotonous. The only other INTP I know is a male and a historian. He seems to have an unending wellspring of facts regarding alternate history but I can't bring myself to personally read about what he talks about. I know that every person has their own interests no matter their personality but it seems history is a common theme among INTPs.
That being said, I am deeply fascinated by the cosmos, physics and vibrations and have no problem reading and researching that topic. Albert Einstein was an INTP and he was AWESOME.
So what it comes down to is, I am analytical but not cold, I am interested in science but reading history facts bore me. With my husband I can be emotional and when people truly bother me I do become angry.
My biggest doubt is that my INTJ friend will swear up and down that I am not an INTP. I am somewhat doubtful of her motives because it is her husband that was the INTP and I am very little like him. She seems genuinely insulted that I've typed as an INTP or a 5.
I value her opinion but I am now wondering if I should ignore her insult and view myself as a logical individual, or if I should listen to her assessment and rethink if my "logical" perspective.
If I am an INFP then that would mean, what I would think is my objective perspective is in fact subjective, and worse still, subjective emotional opinion. It's a hard pill to swallow but the truth is the truth regardless of how I feel about it.
Does this resonate with an INFPs?
Am I an INFP who is fooling myself into believing I'm rational? (NOT saying that INFPs are irrational, merely that their rational comes from a subjective place rather than an objective global truth).
Like I said, I am ready to accept either, I merely want to know the processes I'm using.
So what is YOUR opinion? Am I completely off kilter? A rational mature INFP? An irrational, immature INTP? A borderline N ISFP? Or vice a versa? The combinations are endless!! Lol.
Also, if anyone has any advice on how to deal with my over opinionated INTJ friend I'd appreciate that. I'm ready to ignore her or concede to her but our relationship is at a stand still until I can reconcile myself one way or another.
Thank you!!
I've been typed as an INTP and a 5 in my Enneagram.
I have a friend whose opinion I value (INTJ) who swears she believes I'm an ISFP or an INFP but with absolute certainty that I AM NOT an INTP.
I'm a recreational artist, I paint, sculpt, and do mixed media, I haven't ever found a medium I find difficult because usually I can make reasonable deductions of how to mold media to my will. In the past I didn't understand that not everyone could do this, I'm still often baffled but I know that technique can be taught but not intuition. After much consideration I think I can eliminate ISFP, what I described seems more of an NE artistic approach than an SE approach (correct me if I'm wrong).
So that leaves INFP or INTP.
I can enjoy conversations with "mom friends" though I will admit I pick up on the members of my group that have an extremely low tolerance of introspection or abstract conversation and I usually avoid them.
I can indulge the occasional small talk but I'm not sure what qualifies as small talk. We talk about weather, but we talk about affect weather can have on psyche. We talk about vaccinations and debate the ethical implications of not vaccinating and the actual validity of medical "professionals."
Is this still small talk?
I don't feel "cold" like most descriptions of INTPs, I do feel emotions don't have a place in difficult situations and when I do give counsel it's usually to tell my friends to stop being emotional and be rational. I don't think my friends like when I say that.
I sometimes have to excuse myself when they throw pity parties (Waa! My husband is the reason to all our marital problems. He won't listen to what I say but I have no interest in listening to him or helping him through his problems- true story. It happened last week and I almost gagged but instead I told her to stop complaining (it accomplishes nothing), distance herself from her feelings, be a reasonable adult and talk to her husband without judgement or bitterness. Everyone ignored me. I'm not sure why I actually have friends, maybe I just show up and make everyone uncomfortable. We may never know......).
However I digress!! Back to the subject.
I am not interested in reading history or creating a chronology. I'm an avid listener to passionate historians but find reading text books rather monotonous. The only other INTP I know is a male and a historian. He seems to have an unending wellspring of facts regarding alternate history but I can't bring myself to personally read about what he talks about. I know that every person has their own interests no matter their personality but it seems history is a common theme among INTPs.
That being said, I am deeply fascinated by the cosmos, physics and vibrations and have no problem reading and researching that topic. Albert Einstein was an INTP and he was AWESOME.
So what it comes down to is, I am analytical but not cold, I am interested in science but reading history facts bore me. With my husband I can be emotional and when people truly bother me I do become angry.
My biggest doubt is that my INTJ friend will swear up and down that I am not an INTP. I am somewhat doubtful of her motives because it is her husband that was the INTP and I am very little like him. She seems genuinely insulted that I've typed as an INTP or a 5.
I value her opinion but I am now wondering if I should ignore her insult and view myself as a logical individual, or if I should listen to her assessment and rethink if my "logical" perspective.
If I am an INFP then that would mean, what I would think is my objective perspective is in fact subjective, and worse still, subjective emotional opinion. It's a hard pill to swallow but the truth is the truth regardless of how I feel about it.
Does this resonate with an INFPs?
Am I an INFP who is fooling myself into believing I'm rational? (NOT saying that INFPs are irrational, merely that their rational comes from a subjective place rather than an objective global truth).
Like I said, I am ready to accept either, I merely want to know the processes I'm using.
So what is YOUR opinion? Am I completely off kilter? A rational mature INFP? An irrational, immature INTP? A borderline N ISFP? Or vice a versa? The combinations are endless!! Lol.
Also, if anyone has any advice on how to deal with my over opinionated INTJ friend I'd appreciate that. I'm ready to ignore her or concede to her but our relationship is at a stand still until I can reconcile myself one way or another.
Thank you!!