Have you got a particularly sensitive trigger? What are your humble beginnings with it?
-- ^^YES. Someone similar to me (like my friend) who finds it much easier to consistently perform in the discipline that we are both a part of. When I actually work, which takes me forever, my end product might be better, but if she put in that effort, it would be just as good. I wish I had more talent, often times. I think I am really smart in my own way (and have been told this), but I still envy those that are smart in a more traditional sense, since it seems like it is easier for them to demonstrate themselves. I compare myself too much!spectralsparrow said:2.) Another inferiority trigger is level of education. I have my Associates of Arts degree, but it took me a long time to get it, I'm still working on my Bachelor's. This is for a number of reasons but I won't bother trying to "justify" it. When I am close to others who achieve great things, academically, I feel so inferior. I resent myself for taking so long or "throwing away" my dreams. I was considered very intelligent growing up and I sort of clung to that identity, now I don't feel I have it. And while I rationally understand that there are intelligent, educated, stupid and ignorant people all across the board of academic achievement, it's still a trigger.
-- ^^YES. But I'm getting better at this!!!!!! I have some really close girl friends (and that's all I really need?) but I seem to have a really hard time socializing with girls that I don't know fairly well. I think comes from scarring things in my past, but I am so envious of the natural fun and bonding that other girls seem to share together, even that just met. I feel SO COMFORTABLE with guys, but girls scare me. It's an irrational phobia. I really like people and I am triggered in these situations because I see how much I am missing out on what is actually harmless.Also I am triggered by people who are just more... witty, cultured, talented, traveled, or emotionally stable and "put together". I'm super envious of people who seem uninhibited emotionally, or in terms of personality and expression. I am currently coming to realize just how far removed I've made myself, from other people, by being so withdrawn and guarded. I'm missing out on so many things. I don't know how to fix it. I feel inadequate.
Same. Then you come to realize the more depressing fact that you have habituated yourself to a feeling of lack, and that it doesn't seem to change even when more positive circumstances present themselves.I've found that the only way to really feel comfortable with these people is to see their dark sides, to know that they have their crazy, just like the rest of us mortals.
That is absolutely true. I think being able to connect is one of the things 4s need to learn to do, because connecting with your surroundings, the people around you, that can really benefit you.Same. Then you come to realize the more depressing fact that you have habituated yourself to a feeling of lack, and that it doesn't seem to change even when more positive circumstances present themselves.
Yes, and then through a feeling of real connection with that person, what they have (their qualities), etc., don't seem neither as foreign or as menacing. The world becomes a friendlier place.That is absolutely true. I think being able to connect is one of the things 4s need to learn to do, because connecting with your surroundings, the people around you, that can really benefit you.