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Infj a blessing or a curse.

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I've never really done this sort of thing (posting a thread).I never possesed the attention to detail required to learn to spell or punctuate properly .So I hope you can forgive me . Im going to do my best.
Im 32 I've been in the militery since I was 17 mostly as an Infyntryman . the last grade I completed was 7th
After the GED I took the back door to the Army through the National Guard.I Recently found out I have mild Bipolar .That explained a few things but there were still many questions .Despite being uneducated and crazy LOL I've come along way and am in a very elite unit that required me to take the personality test .When I got the results I was stunned INFJ COUNSILER. I was sure this was wrong I knew that i was surely a WARRIOR With a boner if there were such a category.So I took the test five more times over two days changed answers I wasnt sure of and tried different formats and even acounted for mood swings.It remained INFJ.So I read and learned what the letters and there opposites ment and this explained alot but when I read the profile tears came to my eyes somebody understood me for the first time . I wasnt surprised that this group only makes up one percent ive never met another person that totaly identify with .I am able to see the future. I know peoples motivation befor they realise it. I can see good and evil in a strangers eyes. I know if our efforts are a waist of time. I know why god cast out the devil and why he rebeled.But the world continually lets me down, and logically answering instead of staring at the ceiling and trying to see it in my thoughts would be easier .It would definitly be easier to be in a army if people didnt drain me of all my energy its hard to recharge here.being able to stay focused instead of daydreaming all the time.

I've often wonderd how I
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Welcome byrd! Hooah!!! I am very patriotic. Many of my family members served way back in the past and near present. I truly love your avatars! I believe you are going to like it here! I too know the things you speak of...the knowing. No, I am fortunate that I am not bipolar. I have had my periods of depression...I outgrew them a long time ago. Living and learning, ever evolving, & loving makes one all the stronger. You will grow stronger here. There are wonderful people on this forum! Enjoy!

Being an INFJ is a blessing!
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Too much empathy is always a curse, especially for a male.

You're not bipolar, or rather you are bipolar but it's just a description of not being at peace with yourself.

There are no gifts that don't come with a curse.
Oh, two of the things you say are not fair. :sad:
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Both. I think it is both. For a while I thought mostly a blessing and now I wonder.... You have come a long way, wow.
Susanna, I am curious. May I ask why you think both a blessing and a curse? I mean no disrespect...just curious is all.
I think being an INFJ is a blessing because of my desire to help people. I think being INFJ is a curse because of my desire to help people. I have spent a lot of time in this life spinning my wheels trying to help people. I am just now realizing that I cannot do someone elses work for them. I also chose to help people in ways that have allowed them to postpone their own ability to help themselves. So I love the compassion I have and am now looking at it differently now and I have been soulsearching recently - it is wonderful.
I have done just that in the past...spinning my wheels. I so can relate! I am happy that you are doing your soul searching. Sounds like you have come very far. I firmly believe that one is ever learning & evolving. As long as one does that, one will be just fine. I am still learning. I don't remember how it came to be that I finally understood that it is quite ok to give what I have, & I still may not be able to help that person at all. Yes, ma'm, the person with the problem/issue has to do the work themselves. I believe I can only guide one, just the same as with one's children. I think it goes like this: Let the person with the problem know that you believe in them and know the whole time that one is going to be letting them go. That to me is the equivalent of giving someone wings. They owe me nothing. I am just so happy that I could dance knowing that I was able to support someone in some way. There are people I know that I can't help; that is ok with me too. I tell myself that it just wasn't my turn. Someone along the way, or theirself for that matter, may be the one to pass those feathers over. I don't feel that I am being cold about this at all. I can only help what I can help with. These are my opinions. I don't know if they will work for others.

I read the below quote on the new quotes thread. I believe it fits here perfectly.

"Pain is inevitable. Suffering is a choice." -Buddhist proverb

I sincerely do believe that being an INFJ is a blessing. I am human just like everyone else...I have my strengths and my weaknesses. I accept this. I work on both of my strengths and weaknesses to make them better. In my eyes, that is what matters.
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Life's not fair.
It is all a matter of perspective.
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