I am married to an ESTP. Throughout my life, I've been most attracted to blunt men who at times seem insensitive. I find that attractive. I'm not a fan of guessing if I've hurt someone's feelings. I have too many of my own feelings and insecurities to process and cope with and couldn't be with another infj. He doesn't fully get me sometimes, but then I give up trying to analyze myself to death, and I enjoy his company, the moment, his laugh, his safety. I feel safe and secure around him. I wouldn't be with anyone else. I've had intellectual attraction to ENFP or ENTPs before, like every forum suggests I would, but ESTP is the one for me.