Well I, personally, grew into this state of having high ideals and expectations. I went from INTP to INFP to INFJ...
Oh, I'm aware of them all right. And I'm also aware that the optimistic idealism buoys me up, and then disappointment in those ideals not being reached sends me down. There's a negative side effect for you! Seriously, it is difficult to make friends, when so many people shatter my ideals, and therefore become people I do not desire to associate with.
I don't intend to relax my standards, though; I'd rather have one or two friends who I feel really good around, than many who make me uncomfortable and sad. I hold myself to high standards. I deserve to be around people who do the same for themselves.
Oh, I'm aware of them all right. And I'm also aware that the optimistic idealism buoys me up, and then disappointment in those ideals not being reached sends me down. There's a negative side effect for you! Seriously, it is difficult to make friends, when so many people shatter my ideals, and therefore become people I do not desire to associate with.
I don't intend to relax my standards, though; I'd rather have one or two friends who I feel really good around, than many who make me uncomfortable and sad. I hold myself to high standards. I deserve to be around people who do the same for themselves.
