I'm hoping to gain some insight on a recent weird fling I had with someone I've determined to be an INFJ. He is very charming, friendly, almost coming across as ENFP. But he seems to be a bit more withdrawn and harder to read when we are alone..lots of things make me think he was INFJ. We met through mutual friends, and he pursued me. A week or so after we met for the first time he told my friend he found me attractive and more or less asked her to give us a reason to bump into each other. We went on a few dates, things were going fine in my opinion. I sensed that I had some walls up and wasn't on my best behavior (being kind of awkward/talking too much--accidentally cut him off even *cringe*). We were physical (never slept together though..not really my thing with relationships that aren't established) and on our last date everything seemed great, he told me we would hang out soon. He never initiated much contact in between dates but when he did/I did he was always very enthusiastic and pleasant. He had a very endearing mix between being cool and being really dorky and sweet. Anyways, after our last date I never heard from him again. Fell off the face of the earth. This would appear to be a typical case of he's just not that into you, but he sent me incredibly mixed messages from the start and I'm just not sure what to make of it all. He is leaving for an internship overseas following the new year (we met in September), so maybe he just did not see the point in continuing it. But why would he bother starting things at all? Nonetheless, I was wondering if anyone could provide insight into why an INFJ might just disappear while actively giving me signals that he enjoyed my company and wanted to see me again? After pursuing me actively? Would an INFJ do this or was he actually not into me after all? I would be willing to be friends with him even if it doesn't work out because I got along with him so well. But he has been so distant that it's impossible to initiate contact without it seeming like I'm trying to get him back. I'd like to think that if you had a connection with someone, you would never just drop them completely. Thanks for any help.